I get that. I'm guilty myself of not being direct enough and tiptoeing too much for fear of offending/hurting someone's feelings. In cases like this one I feel it's necessary to be direct tho. I think your response was very reasonable.I padded it out a bit but now I feel like a bit of a heel for being so direct but I didn’t think I’ve much option.
It doesn't just happen to men, my daughter had a bad experience when at Uni with somebody who had asked her out and she rejected the offer and it escalated into hate texts and criminal damage to her house door and car. The police got involved and they were prosecuted but they had the cheek to ask if she would withdraw the complaint as it 'would go on their record' and she said NO. Fortunately no physical attack but it affected her mentally. Although it was a breach of Uni regulations as they had used the Uni e-mail system they would not throw them off the course. I thought that was outrageous.Unicorn. 6.4.
Informal complaint made to the police about how long they’re taking to question the suspect. It’s been over a year since they told me he’d be questioned within the next two weeks and it’s still not been done.
Also moaned about them letting their SLA of contact every 30 days slide and having to chase them sometimes 70 or 80 days later for an update.
Also it’s apparent that someone on the retreat took a real shine to me. A shine I don’t reflect back unfortunately.
He’s sending me texts and voicemails “checking in on” me after I left early and also using the opportunity to tell me he felt a spark and etc etc.
He’s also reasonably local and he was part of the reason I felt uncomfortable. Consent for even a hug was something we were encouraged to seek before touching anyone else. He tried to kiss me twice out of the blue. That’s not exactly going to play well given my past traumas.
Yesterday he left two voicemails in the morning and another two in the afternoon.
I’ve written a response along the lines of:
I appreciate the fact you’ve told me you sense a spark. As I said previously I do not.
I need space for me to process lots that came up for me on the retreat and I ask you respect that request.
I padded it out a bit but now I feel like a bit of a heel for being so direct but I didn’t think I’ve much option.
He’s already been muted so I won’t get notifications. The next stage is to block him. Men eh.
Anyway… Rentokil are back this morning to check the fancy traps they laid last week. I don’t think they’ve caught anything but there was a dead mouse outside so that could be the culprit.
He won't be on the one coming up at the end of June.Morning all - surprisingly grey and overcast, but forecast to clear this afternoon - I hope!
I'm on the 5.1 step with @Elenka_HM this morning. Nice straight line too!
The retinopathy check yesterday was OK. The technician said that she couldn't see anything obvious, so that is good. Just meant I had to sit indoors for an hour or so whilst the drops wore off, when I would much rather have been in the garden.
@Lanny good to see you again and my sympathies on the loss of your father. Not easy to lose a parent however old you are.
@colin, you've definitely done the right thing being direct. I just hope this individual accepts it. Is he likely to be on that future retreat you spoke about? If he is and he doesn't respect your decision then it may be an idea to let the retreat organisers know. (Shakes head) you really don't need this!
@Ditto, sounds like your sister has diabetic ketoacidosis. If so, then serious as it is, the hospital should be able to sort it out for her. They will have had lots of experience.
So much news this morning, such a pleasure to catch up on it all. Hugs to those who aren't so good.
Have a good day all.