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ColinUK
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@Gwynn she’s got to have the time in the hospital for the doctors etc to do their job and hopefully get her to a point where she can engage with her recovery. By giving her that time and not colluding with her to get her out quickly then you are actually supporting your wife in a very loving way even if she doesn’t see that right now.
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Went to Vision Express for a check up and my prescription has changed. No signs of anything detrimental from the diabetes at all.
I was going in knowing that I wanted new glasses anyway as my current pair were very cheap varifocals from Asda and they’ve never been 100% right. The deal they were a part of was £65 for two pairs including the lenses.
I’ve got two pairs coming from Vision Express; both varifocals, one with very fast transition lenses and the other with very dark ones as pure sunglasses. I was expecting them to be maybe a couple of hundred each but I was a tad out.
They costed them all up and I thought I’d chance my arm and ask if there was anything they could do on price.
I’d been in there for about an hour and a half and had been having a laugh with the dispensers etc. I’d also nipped next door and bought them all coffee (only three staff) as their machine had broken down.
I mean we’d been laughing so much as I’d been trying on some of the most bonkers over the top frames they had and the mutual banter game was strong so I didn’t see what harm it could do.
A 40% discount on the total cost of both frames and lenses was a damn fine result I’d say!
Swan Lake this afternoon I think.
Went to Vision Express for a check up and my prescription has changed. No signs of anything detrimental from the diabetes at all.
I was going in knowing that I wanted new glasses anyway as my current pair were very cheap varifocals from Asda and they’ve never been 100% right. The deal they were a part of was £65 for two pairs including the lenses.
I’ve got two pairs coming from Vision Express; both varifocals, one with very fast transition lenses and the other with very dark ones as pure sunglasses. I was expecting them to be maybe a couple of hundred each but I was a tad out.
They costed them all up and I thought I’d chance my arm and ask if there was anything they could do on price.
I’d been in there for about an hour and a half and had been having a laugh with the dispensers etc. I’d also nipped next door and bought them all coffee (only three staff) as their machine had broken down.
I mean we’d been laughing so much as I’d been trying on some of the most bonkers over the top frames they had and the mutual banter game was strong so I didn’t see what harm it could do.
A 40% discount on the total cost of both frames and lenses was a damn fine result I’d say!
Swan Lake this afternoon I think.
Gwynn
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@ColinUK I absolutely agree. Hard as it may be I have to leave her in the hospital to try to get the best care possible, for as long as is needed.
It is so hard when the last thing she snarled at me was 'you have betrayed me!!!
I don't believe that I did at all, but it is hard knowing that she thinks that.
It is so hard when the last thing she snarled at me was 'you have betrayed me!!!
I don't believe that I did at all, but it is hard knowing that she thinks that.
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Morning folks. <cheesy grin emoji> 6.4 here. My emojis are AWOL for some reason.
A spot of gardening this morning - one of the rosemary bushes has given up the ghost, so it needs to be dug up to make room for some sun-loving flowers. Then we’re off to a Welsh music fezzie up in the hills. It’s a real treat - looking forward to having my ears blown off by Welsh rock bands, pop music, ukelele groups, choirs...you name it, we’ll be tapping our little Welsh toes to it. Tee hee!
A spot of gardening this morning - one of the rosemary bushes has given up the ghost, so it needs to be dug up to make room for some sun-loving flowers. Then we’re off to a Welsh music fezzie up in the hills. It’s a real treat - looking forward to having my ears blown off by Welsh rock bands, pop music, ukelele groups, choirs...you name it, we’ll be tapping our little Welsh toes to it. Tee hee!
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@Gwynn She doesn’t think that. It’s the illness that’s making her think that she does.
And as difficult as it is, no matter what the long term outcome is, you know that it can’t be her decision when to leave the care she’s currently getting. That has to be determined by you and the team together.
Worth saying as well that you need to take care of yourself through everything as well. In order to be able to be there for her you first need to be here for yourself.
And as difficult as it is, no matter what the long term outcome is, you know that it can’t be her decision when to leave the care she’s currently getting. That has to be determined by you and the team together.
Worth saying as well that you need to take care of yourself through everything as well. In order to be able to be there for her you first need to be here for yourself.
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Welsh toes are webbed for the rain. 5.3 for me today.
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@Gwynn, @ColinUK 's comments above are absolutely spot on.
When caring for somebody with a chronic mental health condition, the carer becomes the easiest and sometimes the only target for the irrational thoughts of the person being cared for. It is not easy to cope with but you can handle it by not reacting outwardly to the comments at the time but venting elsewhere, just like you are doing on the forum. I go to carers coffee and chats and venting of frustration at the difficulty of caring and interacting with the "system" are major topics in the conversation. You are not alone.
Also, it is a good idea to allow the medics time to get your wife as stable as possible and I would make sure that they appreciate that you want her back at home but are apprehensive about the future and how best you can handle another episode like the last.
Final thought, have you looked at the NICE guidelines on treatment of adult schizophrenia? As usual with Nice guidelines there are lots of long words and are a bit waffly but they might give you some insight into what is going on and what the targets the medics should be working to when they begin to think about her discharge.
My morning readings are hovering around 7 - sometimes 6, sometimes 8 . Must update the dapagliflozin thread now I have been on it several months. I think that there may be some suggestion that the early benefits are slowly disappearing.
When caring for somebody with a chronic mental health condition, the carer becomes the easiest and sometimes the only target for the irrational thoughts of the person being cared for. It is not easy to cope with but you can handle it by not reacting outwardly to the comments at the time but venting elsewhere, just like you are doing on the forum. I go to carers coffee and chats and venting of frustration at the difficulty of caring and interacting with the "system" are major topics in the conversation. You are not alone.
Also, it is a good idea to allow the medics time to get your wife as stable as possible and I would make sure that they appreciate that you want her back at home but are apprehensive about the future and how best you can handle another episode like the last.
Final thought, have you looked at the NICE guidelines on treatment of adult schizophrenia? As usual with Nice guidelines there are lots of long words and are a bit waffly but they might give you some insight into what is going on and what the targets the medics should be working to when they begin to think about her discharge.
My morning readings are hovering around 7 - sometimes 6, sometimes 8 . Must update the dapagliflozin thread now I have been on it several months. I think that there may be some suggestion that the early benefits are slowly disappearing.
Gwynn
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@Docb Yes I agree.
I am so so gullible. When she rang me twice the other day it was so good. She sounded well and my heart jumped. And I thought, great, they have sorted her out so quickly. But the third call later on was different and I sadly realised that she was playing me. She was saying anything to get out, even lies and deceit. My heart sank but I was then even more determined to not get her home but allow the medics the time they need.
I have had 30 plus years of abuse, blame, accusations, her anger, sadness, all the time trying not to react to it but it makes no odds as her ability to reason and rationalise has deteriotated progressively, and yes I am the target, her enemy, the one she thinks is doing all the nasty stuff to her. If only she knew how much I love her and care for her. But she cannot see or understand that.
So today my heart is very heavy and I am trying to brace myself for what is probably going to happen when eventually she does come home. I feel that she will repack her bags and leave and will cold shoulder me.
I feel like I am in a prison and absolutely alone. No support whatsoever. I did look at Mind, etc but there didn't seem to be anything that could help in my local area. My thinking is getting darker and darker and I am hoping to pull through this but I cannot find any lifeline right now.
Truly an empty place to be right now.
It might be easier if the hospital doctors kept me informed as to her progress. Each day, surely she must improve?
Sorry for the 'rant'
I am so so gullible. When she rang me twice the other day it was so good. She sounded well and my heart jumped. And I thought, great, they have sorted her out so quickly. But the third call later on was different and I sadly realised that she was playing me. She was saying anything to get out, even lies and deceit. My heart sank but I was then even more determined to not get her home but allow the medics the time they need.
I have had 30 plus years of abuse, blame, accusations, her anger, sadness, all the time trying not to react to it but it makes no odds as her ability to reason and rationalise has deteriotated progressively, and yes I am the target, her enemy, the one she thinks is doing all the nasty stuff to her. If only she knew how much I love her and care for her. But she cannot see or understand that.
So today my heart is very heavy and I am trying to brace myself for what is probably going to happen when eventually she does come home. I feel that she will repack her bags and leave and will cold shoulder me.
I feel like I am in a prison and absolutely alone. No support whatsoever. I did look at Mind, etc but there didn't seem to be anything that could help in my local area. My thinking is getting darker and darker and I am hoping to pull through this but I cannot find any lifeline right now.
Truly an empty place to be right now.
It might be easier if the hospital doctors kept me informed as to her progress. Each day, surely she must improve?
Sorry for the 'rant'
Ha ha Colin.
I remember one my Profs going by the wonderful name of Glanville RJ Jones giving a lecture on Anglo Saxon history and mentioning that a Welsh foot was shorter/ longer than an English foot so the toes could well be different.
Gwynn know it is very difficult but try not to take your wife’s comments too personally as presently she is lacking in perspective on what she says and they will always take it out frustrations on the people closest to them and are most for them.
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Docb
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@Gwynn. I have a pretty good idea where you are, both from my own experience and from talking (mostly listening ) to other carers. Manipulation is a common issue.
Have you tried the carers service? They were instrumental in me getting to understand what caring is about and just how many people there are around having to find ways to cope with caring for somebody with mental health problems. Bit like this forum and diabetes.
Have you tried the carers service? They were instrumental in me getting to understand what caring is about and just how many people there are around having to find ways to cope with caring for somebody with mental health problems. Bit like this forum and diabetes.
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You might like Martin Walker’s Inspector Bruno series (17 books). They are about a village policeman in the Vezere region of France. Combine romance, cookery and crime, but in a “nice” way. Bruno is wise and solves conundrums in a way that leaves everyone feeling good. See an extract from book 1 here https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/series/PLE/bruno-chief-of-police-series/?page=1. He develops through the series.
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