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Maryanne29

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I totally agree with Northeners original post. Several times I had responses that were inappropriately harsh, sarcastic or written in a way that could make a person feel stupid - luckily I’m not easily upset. So I decided not to use the forum for quite a while. I’ve come back now and will see what happens. Having said that most people are lovely, polite, helpful, funny but it just took a few to make me decide to,move on.
 

trophywench

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The difficulty is of course - if I write something which someone could take 'wrong' that just isn't going to occur to me, because when I wrote it and read it, then to me it will still sound right and not offensive! But at times some have taken the hump merely because I upset them (accidentally) a year last Wednesday so they'd take the hump with me even if I brought em a ruddy cure! LOL

However - that is exactly what the 'Report' button is for - and Yes - I have used it myself sometimes!
 

Carolg

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Hello maryanne29. Good to see you on forum
 

everydayupsanddowns

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I totally agree with Northeners original post. Several times I had responses that were inappropriately harsh, sarcastic or written in a way that could make a person feel stupid - luckily I’m not easily upset. So I decided not to use the forum for quite a while. I’ve come back now and will see what happens. Having said that most people are lovely, polite, helpful, funny but it just took a few to make me decide to,move on.
Lovely to see you back Maryanne :)

Don’t forget you can also use the ‘ignore’ function if you want to use the forum but not see posts by a particular user.
 

chaoticcar

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It is hard to recognize how people :"read" a post I have a wacky sense of humour or so I have been told ,so perhaps I am in danger of upsetting someone purely innocently .If I do please tell me !
CAROL
 

Ralph-YK

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could make a person feel stupid
Calling someone stupid is definitely out of line. Other forums I'm on moderate for such things, and admin will give warnings and ban people for personal attacks. I believe it is here too.
This forum seems a lot better than other places I've been. Although we do have the odd bump. It's also very easy to miss where there's been admin work done. Sometimes I've not known when something has happened. (Nor do I read all threads, I check the titles.). So I'm not aware of everything on this forum.
I'm sorry you had problems Mary Anne. Welcome back.
 

Vince_UK

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I totally agree with Northeners original post. Several times I had responses that were inappropriately harsh, sarcastic or written in a way that could make a person feel stupid - luckily I’m not easily upset. So I decided not to use the forum for quite a while. I’ve come back now and will see what happens. Having said that most people are lovely, polite, helpful, funny but it just took a few to make me decide to,move on.
Agree wholeheartedly with your sentiments and statement @Maryanne29
99.9% of the people who use this forum are generous in thought and word, polite, extremely helpful and willing to share the benefits of their experience and knowledge and are open and welcoming. Very supportive indeed.
There is a very small minority and I mean very small I can count of the fingers of one hand, whose can be caustic, intent on self promotion and have a "know it all" attitude and need to engage brains before putting fingers to keyboard. I don't use the ignore button because I like to watch this play out and on more than one occasion have chuckled to myself as I have thought "is this person real?"
Just ignore them and treat it for what it is.
The benefits of using the forum by far outway any irritation that minority may cause.
That is the decision I made a while back.
 

Cookieones

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My sentiments entirely Vince, very well put.
Allan.
 

Ingressus

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...to make a forum! Many people who come here may be using a forum for the first time, and often that can leave them unprepared if they encounter responses to their posts that they may find jarring or unsympathetic. Like any group of people anywhere, members are very diverse in character, and it's often not easy to spot nuances in language and presentation through text-only messages - there are no visual clues, or aural ones, so you just have to go on content and any prior experience of a particular person's writing style to determine if they are 'joking' or not. It's an age-old problem, and the chances of misinterpreting things are generally higher the greater emotional state the person reading may be.

Because of this I would like to ask that members bear these facts in mind, in posting, reading and responding - try and always put yourself in the other person's shoes, and if it conjures up any doubts about what you want to say, and how, then try and think of how you might reword things.

Remember always that this is a support forum and by that very fact people posting may be nervous, frightened, confused - or of course, confident, no-nonsense and brash. As I said, it takes all sorts, but try always to be first and foremost supportive :) Above all, no personal insults or inflammatory statements - nothing wrong with rational, passionate debate, but not directed at individuals, such posts will be removed by the moderators. :eek:

If you find that you don't like a particular member's style then I would urge you to use the 'People I ignore' option on your profile settings: you can input member names and then no longer see content from that member.

Hope this helps! :)

NB See also:

General courtesy guidelines when posting
Northerner what did you tell them you could ignore people for lol when i post there will just be an echo, Hello anyone there!
 

Cassie

Active Member
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Type 1
I was told by one poster on here, quite a long while back, in answer to a query of mine and a quite innocent statement/reply by me...that I was a "drama queen" - I came off for a long while as it really upset me. I'm not a wilting wallflower by any means, but to be told so blatantly something like that, made me never want to post or reply again on here. I never understood why whoever it was thought they had the right to call me a "drama queen". I've been type 1 for 46 years this year and never, ever made any drama out of any crisis. Even now I'm back on here, I much more wary of what I write or comment. Even though I would never write anything controversial. Or rude! I remember telling one of my DSNs and she was horrified but as she said or words to the effect as it was a while ago, keyboard warriors are everywhere.
 

Northerner

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I was told by one poster on here, quite a long while back, in answer to a query of mine and a quite innocent statement/reply by me...that I was a "drama queen" - I came off for a long while as it really upset me. I'm not a wilting wallflower by any means, but to be told so blatantly something like that, made me never want to post or reply again on here. I never understood why whoever it was thought they had the right to call me a "drama queen". I've been type 1 for 46 years this year and never, ever made any drama out of any crisis. Even now I'm back on here, I much more wary of what I write or comment. Even though I would never write anything controversial. Or rude! I remember telling one of my DSNs and she was horrified but as she said or words to the effect as it was a while ago, keyboard warriors are everywhere.
I'm very sorry to hear this @Cassie :( It's certainly not acceptable, people should always be treated with respect. It must have been something I missed at the time, so I apologise :(
 
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