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I think it's a great shame to feel that way Bobbie but I admire you for coming forward and saying that.

Hope all is going well with the diabetes presently.
 
BobbieH said:
This post hits the nail on the head for me. When I was diagnosed I was advised to seek this online forum for help and advise.
I was very nervous and unsure of the way forward with my diagnosis. I was given different advise from my nurse as was given here which made me all the more confused.
I found some members very quick to point out what I was doing wrong, using terminology I was totally baffled by and making me feel more inadequate than I already felt. I now restrict myself to Davids quizzes which I enjoy and I like Northerner's humour. but I would never post now regarding my diabetes.
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If any answers baffled you then it is perfectly reasonable to ask for clarification. Another thing to remember is that we are not all the same when it comes to how we are affected by diabetes. What works for one person may be a terrible idea for someone else. The best approach could be to tout for advice, see which advice chimes with how you feel and respond and then act accordingly. Of course, if your relationship with your GP or DSN is a good one (not always the case, unfortunately) then bounce ideas off them too. Eventually, things should come together (especially if your GP or DSN are good ones!).

If you are still struggling then don't deny yourself additional information because someone might have that little gem of advice that makes the difference for you.

On the other hand, if you're not struggling, I'm sure there are some people out there who may benefit from your knowledge as well. This forum is not just a one-way affair. Everyone's experience is important if it is to function well.

Best wishes,

Andy 🙂
 
BobbieH said:
This post hits the nail on the head for me. When I was diagnosed I was advised to seek this online forum for help and advise.
I was very nervous and unsure of the way forward with my diagnosis. I was given different advise from my nurse as was given here which made me all the more confused.
I found some members very quick to point out what I was doing wrong, using terminology I was totally baffled by and making me feel more inadequate than I already felt. I now restrict myself to Davids quizzes which I enjoy and I like Northerner's humour. but I would never post now regarding my diabetes.
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I felt the same BobbieH (I didn't understand half of what was being said!) but kept reading, reading, reading until I started to understand. It IS difficult at first, especially if high BGs are affecting your emotions. I persevered because I felt the people here were sincere and genuinely trying to help. 😳🙂
 
Well I post stuff whenever - and I have absolutely no idea whether people in general understand it or not - how can I know, unless someone either says eg 'That seems to make sense, ta!' or eg 'What on earth are you going on about, you daft old bat?'

So if nobody actually says 'I don't understand' - I am going to assume everyone does. Whenever someone queries something someone has said, all that happens is that someone else has a go at explaining the same thing in a different way, which hopefully will help the person understand it. Nobody gets offended !! There is no point in anyone spouting forth info that doesn't help anyone, is there?

Bobbie - do give us another try next time you are stumped - and if you don't understand the replies - then just say so! Please.
 
I am new to the forum like many this forum was suggested to me as a guideline on how to cope with the beginning of the diabetic diagnosis.
I am scottish so takes a lot to offend me and personally if I disagree with advice I would generally say thank you and move on and just disregard it x
I havent commented on a lot of the threads but have read a lot and trying to absorb as much information as I can but like someone has already mentioned we all may have diabetes but due to other health issues and different metabolisms the diabetes varies from person to person so we need to just remember that advice is just that advice not a certified way to progress forward x for me this forum is a place to speak to others without the sympathy c**p that friends and loved ones dish out as much as I am grateful there is only so much pandering I can take x so I am very grateful to have this forum x
 
I think it might be a bad idea to post at 2 in the morning when you're tired, or when your in a mood. I don't admit to doing either.:(
 
I agree Karen I'm new to the forum also, I think sometimes we interprete what we are reading wrongly, it's good to leave and go back before commenting, I have recently moved onto insulin pump and have found it a very useful forum, being able to get some advice/information, from people that understand, cause they have been there, seen it, done it lol, it can be a very frustrating and confusing illness sometimes 🙂 but nice to have a friendly place to discuss things and feel supported if you want it.
 
Fab thank you. As a newbie.....well I'm trying to work out which one I am. I'm scared.....can't swear or would have said something else about doing something in your pants
But i really want to know what is best. I like to be armed with lots of knowledge before setting foot on the front line
 
I'd forgotten this thread! I've been thinking about this. I've been using some others forums & groups chats where the talk is of anything and everything. Although religion and polatics seems to be avoided. These have people from all over the world (a lot in America) and can be somewhat not as ......formal as... us English on here. Some people have actually become good friends on one. I've been on one of those a heck of a lot more than here. It's had some of the same people on all the time.
Because of the more focused content on here, and the less frequent posting, we are not as familiar as that other place. I developed a style there that I'd use less here. For example I hesitate to do *hugs*, *fectes cups of tea*, *holds your and sits with up*, which are actually things I've done a lot in the other place. (Suck things and more can be common with some poeple.) Even though I'm still stiff upper lip northern older mail.
 
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I've just re-read my last post. 😳 I didn't express it right. I don't like just deleting things. I think we do get on here. I just made a mess of conveying the difference.:(
 
Ralph-YK said:
I've just re-read my last post. 😳 I didn't express it right. I don't like just deleting things. I think we do get on here. I just made a mess of conveying the difference.:(
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I understood exactly what you were saying Ralph (even with your quirky spelling! Lol). No problems at all, I think different forums and countries do result in different approaches. Nothing wrong in what you said at all 🙂
 
I have recently started using this forum a lot more, and have received a lot of very practical advice, much of which I now understand, and a great deal of encouragement.

However I remember being very confused when I was diagnosed, exactly eight years ago today. I was desperately trying to get my readings on target and failing VERY miserably. I was at a loss what to do and I am not sure where I posted on a forum to ask if people were usually on target. I got a reply to tell me that they were, but with no suggestion about how to do this. I will never forget how depressed I felt at that time. Now I know it was that interestingly named 'honeymoon period'. I avoided any forums for a long while.

Having joined this forum last year, admittedly in a very different position now, I have valued the advice and the encouragement from so many people. In trying to help others I always keep I'm mind how I felt in those early days.
 
Glad it's working out for you SB. Happy? aniversary.🙂 Thanks Amigo
 
SB2015 said:
I have recently started using this forum a lot more, and have received a lot of very practical advice, much of which I now understand, and a great deal of encouragement.

However I remember being very confused when I was diagnosed, exactly eight years ago today. I was desperately trying to get my readings on target and failing VERY miserably. I was at a loss what to do and I am not sure where I posted on a forum to ask if people were usually on target. I got a reply to tell me that they were, but with no suggestion about how to do this. I will never forget how depressed I felt at that time. Now I know it was that interestingly named 'honeymoon period'. I avoided any forums for a long while.

Having joined this forum last year, admittedly in a very different position now, I have valued the advice and the encouragement from so many people. In trying to help others I always keep I'm mind how I felt in those early days.
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Happy Diaversary @SB2015 ! 🙂 I have my 8 year Diaversary coming up this year 🙂
 
Well I always avoided forums for the same reasons I avoid Twitter, I think it can bring out the worst in some people, but I don't find that here. Yes on occasion I've thought blimey that's blunt, but generally I realise that writing styles are the root of it. I tend to be quite flowery, and try to avoid being critical but I may well have written something that irritated another person. In fact I'm sure I irritate some people, but different strokes for different folks. It is hard when you're new to understand what's going on, and it's hard when people here say something different to what your medical team are saying, but that's fine with me, because that's why I came here. I didn't come for sympathy and hugs (although that's nice too), I came because I felt isolated, different and unhappy with the medical advice I was given. On the flip side though, it's hard when you're not new too, because you lose connection to how it felt to be so bewildered and raw, and we all deal with things differently. I see this place as a haven where I can ask a question and I will get honest answers, I might not agree with the answer, I might not like the answer, but then if I don't like it I can ignore it. i found this thread useful, because it reminded me to try to remember that newbies in particular can be on their last nerve (a raw, overexposed and very painful nerve at that) so I try to be as gentle as possible, but it's also useful to remind me that we all interpret words through our own personal filter, and sometimes the offence taken is more about the person taking it than the alleged offender, sometimes it's six of one half a dozen of the other, and sometimes it's just someone having a bad day at the end of their fuse.
 
Thanks Northerner
It is amazing to think of the changes in Diabetes care over just 8 years, and exciting times with the current research and development going on.
 
Thanks to Ralph too. It was a happy diaversary (spell check made that diaper set!!).
I am gradually learning the facilities on the forum and missed your message.
 
Bobby H ...Love your last sentence , it made me smile ...thank you ...hope all is well with you ...take care out there 🙂 Zoe 🙂
 
I have been on a number of forums over the years and there always seems to be a few idiots who I just can't see eye to eye with. However on joining this forum once I was diagnosed it seems a really friendly and helpful place. I won't use Facebook or Twitter on principal. The former has security issues I believe and they have both become so big that they are difficult to manage. I much prefer smaller forums like this one.

Keep up the good work guys :D
 
The owner of Farcebook has publicly stated that "there's no such thing as privacy" — hence, although I have a Farcebook profile, it is strictly only for use when I can't connect in a more sensible way, and is almost completely blank (the profile picture used to be a cartoon character, but those idiots took it down). It also doesn't make or accept "friend" requests; I've never even heard of most of those people, much less clapped eyes on them, so how could a "friend" relationship have any meaning?
 
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