@eggyg No where near fit, but definitely fighting! Enjoy your break too, at least we have shops very close to site at Minehead.Morning all. I’ve had a lie in after waking at 4.15 and laid for almost two hours wide awake thinking about everything and nothing as you do! Then eventually dozed off. New sensor says 7.3 meter 5.9. I noticed yesterday it was reading a bit higher, I’ll give it a few days to sort itself out.
No big Easter weekend plans, I will be ironing the four sets of bedding I’ve washed this week.🙄 We’re going away next Saturday and I like everything washed and ironed, the house cleaned from top to bottom, and the fridges cleaned out. And I’ve to pack, not only clothes, but food. It’s very remote, one small store unless we go over to Mull on the ferry to the Coop! I will be batch cooking this coming week. This is why I can’t sleep!
Re elderly parents, mine didn’t get to that stage. 52 and 71 when they died, but Mr Eggy’s mother is 86 this month so I do have an inkling of what you’re talking about. She has everything done for her. Cooking, cleaning, washing etc. she has just totally given up, although she isn’t disabled or has any illnesses, some mild dementia. I would hope if I live to a grand old age, I would be able to say I’d had a good and full life and had no regrets. And that’s exactly why I always say, getting older is better than the alternative. And on the note. Have a fabulous sunny day. 🙂
@Snowwy how lovely to hear from you and glad to hear you’re fighting fit now.
We get mice in our old sandstone house all the time. They do untold damage. The little blighters chewed through the waste pipe under the dishwasher once and promptly died. It was only when our kitchen was full of blue bottles we knew something was going on. Pulled dishwasher out and discovered the damage and a maggot ridden mouse body. 😳 Yuk!
Is he eligible for Attendance allowance and she for attendance allowance? It sounds as if they should be. If so the extra money might allow her to pay privately for some help. When my husband was very ill, for 6 months before he died, he was anxious that our young daughter should not come in and find him dead and I was busy earning our living. Social services couldn't/wouldn't help so I hired a nice local lady who at least took the household cares off my hands - cleaning/laundry/veggie prep etc. I didn't know about AA or CA then so just had to work harder. Has anyone talked to your Mum about finances and how to hire private nursing/household help?
Mum gets AA which she uses for a cleaner and taxis. She can't get CA, she has tried. Its respite she needs but he won't have anyone in to sit with him or go anywhere either for a day or week so mum doesn't get a break. Its taking a toll on her health. She struggles to walk and has BP problems. I got cross with social services one day saying they were waiting for mum to have a stroke or heart attack before they will do something. The trouble is, they only take into account step dads wishes.
I am very sorry to hear that. If he has dementia I assume he counts as non compos mentis. In which case why are social services not listening to her and not him? It might be worth asking them.
When people get older it is no joke and you have to fight every step of the way. My other half Mum is 98, no sight, no hearing, has been bed ridden since last Aug when she broke her hip, has a catheter, continuous UTIs, no quality of life. She is being looked after by her daughter who has mobility issues herself and carers 4 times a day. They can't get her into a nursing home as the wait is months and the doctor recommended a place for palliative care but there is a months wait. They now have support from something the GPs have set up which is called Hospital at Home where they can call and get help within an hour.
