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Feeling scared

Leadinglights said:
I'm sure they are not there to trip you up but give a fair assessment of your capabilities. Remember it is their responsibility to make sure your performance is what it should be and the children are safe in your care.
Act with confidence and I'm sure everything will be fine.
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Thank you
 
corriefan said:
Thank you so much it went amazing xxz
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Fantastic! Very well done :party:. You may want to tell them how stressed you were beforehand, in case they can do anything to make the process easier for the future.
 
So pleased @corriefan
Another big step forward.
 
Delighted for you and hope both these positive experiences will help you going forward. Well done!
 
Thank you so happy after this morning the downer a special needs child tried to bite me because I wouldn't let him sit on the chair that he isn't allowed too xx
 
Tthink positive and you'll be fine - you've done so well - keep going @corriefan - we are all rooting for you 🙂
 
Can you job shadow a colleague who looks after babies for a day or part day?
You wouldn't have been asked to plan the placement if they didn't think you could do it. Lots of resources and information out there to get you started. Be positive and trust your instincts. You will be fine xx
 
silver minion said:
Can you job shadow a colleague who looks after babies for a day or part day?
You wouldn't have been asked to plan the placement if they didn't think you could do it. Lots of resources and information out there to get you started. Be positive and trust your instincts. You will be fine xx
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Thank you sadly where I work is a preschool there are no babies so I'm having to look at day nurserys xx
 
corriefan said:
Hi hope you don't mind me posting because your all so friendly I feel so scared because I've got my dentist appointment this week and scared I will get told off I'm due x-ray results too but not had time to speak to them as been so busy.
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I hear you. I have. two MAJOR fears (actually phobias) - Dentists are one after several dreadful experiences. I cry as soon as I get on the phone to them I'm so scared, even in a checkup ... then I cry in the chair. The dentist said I did really, really well last time I had a filling (please don't anyone judge me - I've had so many bad experiences, I could write a book). the only reason I'm going next week is that I have pre-booked it. I came out and asked if I could book my next appointment in 6 months because I knew it would turn to 6 years. They said it was highly unusual but when they looked at my notes they agreed to it. I use a simple breathing technique. I'm not USUALLY a fan of those things because I have never found one that works (and t ending and relaxing the muscles? Not a chance of it relaxing me - I know that's just me!) but this one really does work - I've been using I t for 2 years straight - any time I get a panic attack I lick it within a few seconds - and I used it at the dentist last time.

I know you probably don't want to know but ... well, the abbreviated version, which I DO have to use sometimes, is simply feel the breath hitting your nose just below your nostril/top lip. Feel it cooler coming in, warmer coming out. Do that as long as you need - to 'come out of it' simply open your eyes and gently rub your thumbs across the palm of your hand. It sounds ridiculous but it works. The dentist was surprised I was not crying when I went last time - that simple exercise kept me calm throughout (not as easy with your mouth open as wide as the mersey tunnel but it still works).

I had to have surgery and I'm facing AT LEAST 4 lots this year (nothing ... life threatening but they are essential. One is on my eyes to stop me going blind (they have no idea if they can save my sight but bless them for trying - it's not diabetes related). The other is for a shoulder break - they are not sure what I need but they will work it out tomorrow apparently, according to the lette they sentr. They said they have never seen such a bad break and dislocation. I was VERY quiet (not like me) when in the hospital (God bless the SDUCU - I could never remember the name of that department until a few days ago - they were incredible. The worst was waiting for the surgeon. When I got in to see him he said he'd give it one last try to reset my shoulder ... at least they gave me a little gas and air but apparently I screamed blue murder. When I went in again after the sixth lot of X-rays to see if they had succeeded or not (they hadn't), the lovely Indian doctor started by saying, "I am so sorry. We won't put you through that again - we will do it under anaesthetic. I am dreadfully sorry because we made a mistake -" He didn't get to finish. "Let ME speak, if you don't mind." O...K...! He was horrible - and tried his best to reset it yet again ... by this point tears were streaming down my face. Then he fitted me with a sling - another X-ray which he supervised - and I went to see a nurse who looked puzzled. All this time I'm using my breathing exercise whenever I feel I'm going to lose it. That idiot has clearly never fitted a sling before - the nurse could not work out what he had done He had offered me morphine while he tried to reset it but I said no ... just do it - the pain can't be worse (it could!). When I went for my eye operation last time it was cancelled for two reasons - one they looked at an old HbA1c - and 2) the surgeon thought it was cruel to give me the sedation he normally gives, based on my fear after the first one went so badly wrong (he is LOVELY and I cannot blame him for what happened. He even apologised to me when he saw me - but was angry when he realised they had looked at the wrong HbA1c (admittedly I needed to lower it). The anaesthesiologist who was trained in the use of this particular type of anaesthetic - where I can be put to sleep and woken when needed (that's all I asked) - apparently it's a new one - had said he couldn't get in because of the snow - there WAS NO SNOW where he lived! He fancied a duvet day. So did I - I'd been up since 4! All I did for the first few days was cry. I had got myself into such a panic I was convinced I was going to die during surgery. I can't tell you how many times I used that breathing exercise and asked myself where the evidence was that I was going to die under the sedation? Of course there was none.

I say all this to show you how well that evercise works. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You will be ok. What I say to everyone is what I do when nothing else works. For every second in that chair, it's a second closer to you getting out of it. Let me know how you get on.
 
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I hear you. I have. two MAJOR fears (actually phobias) - Dentists are one after several dreadful experiences. I cry as soon as I get on the phone to them I'm so scared, even in a checkup ... then I cry in the chair. The dentist said I did really, really well last time I had a filling (please don't anyone judge me - I've had so many bad experiences, I could write a book). the only reason I'm going next week is that I have pre-booked it. I came out and asked if I could book my next appointment in 6 months because I knew it would turn to 6 years. They said it was highly unusual but when they looked at my notes they agreed to it. I use a simple breathing technique. I'm not USUALLY a fan of those things because I have never found one that works (and t ending and relaxing the muscles? Not a chance of it relaxing me - I know that's just me!) but this one really does work - I've been using I t for 2 years straight - any time I get a panic attack I lick it within a few seconds - and I used it at the dentist last time.

I know you probably don't want to know but ... well, the abbreviated version, which I DO have to use sometimes, is simply feel the breath hitting your nose just below your nostril/top lip. Feel it cooler coming in, warmer coming out. Do that as long as you need - to 'come out of it' simply open your eyes and gently rub your thumbs across the palm of your hand. It sounds ridiculous but it works. The dentist was surprised I was not crying when I went last time - that simple exercise kept me calm throughout (not as easy with your mouth open as wide as the mersey tunnel but it still works).

I had to have surgery and I'm facing AT LEAST 4 lots this year (nothing ... life threatening but they are essential. One is on my eyes to stop me going blind (they have no idea if they can save my sight but bless them for trying - it's not diabetes related). The other is for a shoulder break - they are not sure what I need but they will work it out tomorrow apparently, according to the lette they sentr. They said they have never seen such a bad break and dislocation. I was VERY quiet (not like me) when in the hospital (God bless the SDUCU - I could never remember the name of that department until a few days ago - they were incredible. The worst was waiting for the surgeon. When I got in to see him he said he'd give it one last try to reset my shoulder ... at least they gave me a little gas and air but apparently I screamed blue murder. When I went in again after the sixth lot of X-rays to see if they had succeeded or not (they hadn't), the lovely Indian doctor started by saying, "I am so sorry. We won't put you through that again - we will do it under anaesthetic. I am dreadfully sorry because we made a mistake -" He didn't get to finish. "Let ME speak, if you don't mind." O...K...! He was horrible - and tried his best to reset it yet again ... by this point tears were streaming down my face. Then he fitted me with a sling - another X-ray which he supervised - and I went to see a nurse who looked puzzled. All this time I'm using my breathing exercise whenever I feel I'm going to lose it. That idiot has clearly never fitted a sling before - the nurse could not work out what he had done He had offered me morphine while he tried to reset it but I said no ... just do it - the pain can't be worse (it could!). When I went for my eye operation last time it was cancelled for two reasons - one they looked at an old HbA1c - and 2) the surgeon thought it was cruel to give me the sedation he normally gives, based on my fear after the first one went so badly wrong (he is LOVELY and I cannot blame him for what happened. He even apologised to me when he saw me - but was angry when he realised they had looked at the wrong HbA1c (admittedly I needed to lower it). The anaesthesiologist who was trained in the use of this particular type of anaesthetic - where I can be put to sleep and woken when needed (that's all I asked) - apparently it's a new one - had said he couldn't get in because of the snow - there WAS NO SNOW where he lived! He fancied a duvet day. So did I - I'd been up since 4! All I did for the first few days was cry. I had got myself into such a panic I was convinced I was going to die during surgery. I can't tell you how many times I used that breathing exercise and asked myself where the evidence was that I was going to die under the sedation? Of course there was none.

I say all this to show you how well that evercise works. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You will be ok. What I say to everyone is what I do when nothing else works. For every second in that chair, it's a second closer to you getting out of it. Let me know how you get on.
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I have booked tooth extraction under local anesthetic xx
 
@corriefan I've always been scared of dentists. We used to move a lot as children and I was always allowed to go in first. I had a younger brother and sister as I tensed up listening to the sound of the drill. When I was 20 I made an appointment for a check up and the dentist told me to stop shaking as he hadn't done anything yet ... A few years later I had horrendous toothache starting on a Friday evening and not able to go to a dentist till the Wednesday as there were two bank holidays. I had a root filling that was beautifully done and not scary. Sadly after a few check ups I moved and went to a dentist when I had another root filling. I then didn't go to a dentist for more than 25 years. However I now have a lovely dentist and apart from the dreaded hygienist apart from two teeth out in 5 years, first a very difficult to reach wisdom and later one on opposite side next to wisdom tooth, offered a root filling but couldn't face it.

When I was a kid I had a tooth out because my mouth was too small. Mask with anaesthetic. My dentist is very experienced. I suspect I had extra anaesthetic jabs and he waited till they worked and he took each one out [ three years apart] quickly and painlessly.

I'm still nervous but I'm not scared. Good luck
 
corriefan said:
I have booked tooth extraction under local anesthetic xx
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Well done! You put me to shame. I am still procrastinating. Thankfully both of mine seem to have settled down quite a bit allowing me to to keep putting it off of course! If I was in pain I would no doubt be banging down their door to help me.
 
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