Hi Samana
I'm a bit slow to reply as I've been away at my daughter's for 10 days. It was lovely to spend father's day with her and the grandkids 🙂
That's really good news about hubby's forehead. Let's hope it continues to shrink it and he can make a full recovery. Ouch! I'm sorry he's had a fall. It does shake you up. I'm sure you'll take care of him while he heals. Tell him I hope he gets better soon.
Yes. sod the group. If you've done your time there, it's up to you if you want to leave and they should understand that. They will catch on eventually.
Yes, I don't think I'll do CBT again. It doesn't really address the way I think. I do fell better for talking to someone, but didn't think much of the philosophy. I can read flow charts myself on the Internet lol.
Yes I'm well pleased about the weight loss and I'm still losing it lol. Only a pound every couple of weeks, but it's there. If I can just get down to 5st I'll be done (joke). At 5st you could use me as a toast rack!
Yes, my sister is still doing well with her copd. It ws packing in smoking that made all the difference. At her last test, they said they could hardly detect any issue at all, so she's pretty much reversed it. Brill.
I shouldn't worry about your weight too much at the moment. You need your rest and recovery first and foremost. If you put a bit on, you can lose it later. Best of luck with your HBA1C.
I'm back home now, but off again tomorrow to Norwich as my daughter has just passed her degree with a 1st! I can feel beer and curry coming on to celebrate!
It does sound like your husband is very much like you, a caring person. But you should really ignore him and get a bell. You could order one online and ring it. When he comes up, you could say 'can you pick up that piece of paper dear?' 🙂 Did you get him a straw with the bottle of Brandy? 🙂
Best of luck deciding what to do. I think if it's safe for you, take a break on holiday. It will do you both a power of good. Obviously you will need to respect your recovery, but go for it, I say.
I'm not sure whether to send my mug back or Jan. On balance, probably the mug. I know when I'm doing well.
I'll take my laptop with me to Norwich and sure I will be able to post up over the next few days.
Lovely to hear from you, but take it easy, you know that.
Cheers
Steve X
Hi Steve,
No worries about in speed of replying. Lovely to hear you have spent time at your daughters. I'm sure you had a wonderful time there?
Hubby's growth has now gone and there is no sign or anything even under the skin so he has stopped using the cream now. It's great stuff and so relieved it's gone.
He is also recovering from his fall, the wounds are slowly healing up now. He will be 70 next birthday so yes it did shake him up but he's doing really well thanks, I will pass your good wishes on thank you. We do what we can for each other each day, so it works really well.
The guy who runs the group is very persistent in me staying and as I am recovering etc he suggested he came to see me, he lives in London and I live in North Wales so you can see the journey. I think he is realising how much he needs me on the group and since I've not been present he is missing that fun and laughter I bring plus my skill, not being arrogant but realise my own worth that's all in a humble way if that makes sense? I have been told by others that I have outgrown him and feel nothing about attending the group on Saturdays or Tuesdays for the lives and haven't for some time now. Like you say he will catch on eventually, might take a while hahaha.
While I'm on that note, I have been focusing me on my wellbeing and looking after my energy instead of everyone else which is what I've done my whole life. It's my turn now! This week I got an appt re bowel surgery and got an appt for 31st July as a new patient, so it may take a while which is fine as I'm likely to have the other shoulder done August/September so I can recover for holidays late in the year. And the consultant for my shoulder is lining that up I think but need to review how I'm doing with my recovery on 4th July. Actually this week I had a set back and my shoulder is swollen so no exercises for a week from yesterday (Friday). Typing with left hand still so it's taking me a long time to write this.
Plus Friday I got a call and have my one to one therapy appt which will begin on 25th July, which I was emotional and thrilled about. She has also given me contact numbers if I need them in the meantime to get support. So it's all happening. Sorry I wrote so much but it has been good in respect of moving forward with things and I'm excited other than having pinched nerve and tendon issues currently in my shoulder.
I don't rate CBT to be honest, I know it has it's place but for you that wants to go further and deeper with things I don't think it's the way to go. Is there another process they can use? Okay what was their philosophy if you want to share anything? Oh goodness, flow charts? Really? The so called help you are getting doesn't seem appropriate, can you voice this to them?
You have done an amazing job with the weight loss. Hahaha, you can be a toast rack hahaha. A pound in a week or two is good. Nice and slowly the more you lose is good.
Great to hear your sister was proactive in stopping smoking and has improved, many don't stop as they can't which can be understandable. Hubby is doing what he can to stay active too. I didn't know you could reverse it, that is wonderful news.
No I'm not too worried about my weight too much right now. The emotions are coming up from the past stuff etc and leading me to comfort eat a little, not lots but also having to rest more is adding to it. I'm doing my best right now and not a time to be hard on myself if ever there was a time. I'm eating good fruit and vegs too so that is good for healing plus meat and fish. Do you know I forgot to call the surgery with all the happenings yesterday around appts etc so will call for the results Monday. Thanks for your good wishes, I have been having less sweeter things but had a few lately with comfort stuff but that will change in time I'm sure.
You are now in Norwich I think which is lovely you are getting out and about and visiting. Curry and beer sounds good! You enjoy that, it's what life is about, have fun. How long are you there for? No rush in replying, I will need to rest my shoulder over the next few days but using my left anyway but relying on that for everything again right now.
My life feels a bit like on stand still in some ways and yet the appts are flying in so pleased with that. Much rest and exercise is needed at the moment so no holidays as can't fly. But plans for later in year, I'll tellyou about that soon.
Yes my husband is a very caring person and is looking after me so well. I too look after him the best ways I can. I am slowly getting rebuilt and hope in time to feel better and stronger with my shoulders and with the other surgery. It won't cure everything but will give me a better quality of life. Hahaha, he would hide the bell. He is always checking on me anyway, no need for a bell hahaha. He does pick things up for me he's great. I have a grabber though too, but can manage sometimes anyway. I only ask when I can't do it or so tired, I get so exhausted at times. Hahaha, no I didn't get him a straw with the brandy he drinks it fast enough anyway, hahaha only joking he has a nip now and again, lovely to see him enjoying something he likes.
I could do with a break right now but busy time of year with tourists so I am better waiting until we go away later in the year and focusing in recovery. I can sit in the garden at times so that is nice too. Or have quiet time on the bed watching stuff or just chilling. I can't fly and uncomfortable to go far in the car right now.
Hahaha, I think it has to be the mug you send back. Jan is for keeps. You are well off with Jan hahaha.
No worries about rushing to reply, I will need to rest a bit.
Have a lovely time in Norwich and have fun.
All the best
Samana x
