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Sorry I dissapeared for a while as I've een obsessed with doing research on low testosterone levels and I'll explain why. It's all a bit personal, but I don't mind if you don't mind.
My nipples have been quite painful for a while and then I found a lump in each breast. Off to the docs straiht away and they made me an emergency appointment (1 week!) with the breast clinic. On examination, she said she was sure it wasn't breast cancer, by gynecomastia gyne what? lol.
Anyway this prompted me to research my head off and apparrently it's quite common in older men. As testosterone drops with age, and typically fat levels increase, the increase in body fat encourages the body to convert more testosterone to estrogen, compounding the issue. And yes, you guessed it, men start to grow female breast tissue. Well that caught me off guard, but it did make me think.
So I did a bunch of reasearch online and found the ADAM questionnaire for low testosterone. For any men reading this it's here:

The questions are very personal, but you don't have to enter your name or email address, so it's completely anonymous.

Any road up, I scored quite high and it made me think how much, if any of my issues over the past year, are due to low testosterone. The symptoms are quite wide ranging, including fatigue and low mood.

So, back to the GP for a testosterone level test and I'll get the results tomorrow (Friday) or Monday.

The blood test service from the GP is excellent. If you have low testosterone, you get a £25.00 Marks and Spencer voucher for any skirt of your choice 🙂
Any road up, I hope I made you smile. Let me know how you are doing when you can.
Hi Steve,

Sorry to hear your news. Totally understand why you disappeared. I may feel like doing that in time to come lol. I'm glad I'm hearing from you but didn't want to pressure you in replying etc I was just concerned as it had been a while.

Wow, I do know that hormones can be very powerful when you are lacking them or having too much. When balanced they create good health in general. Great you are gaining knowledge around this subject now and that it might be why you have felt other things too in low mood etc. I'm glad the results of the lumps you have aren't serious. So will they just leave them there now? have heard of this in men who might reach a certain age from past experiences. But can't remember all the details of it now, although for you it has come as a great shock and understandably too.

Yes I can imagine the questions being very personal. Good that it is anonymous.

Good point about yoru issues over the last year, and good your GP is following up on it. Let me know how things go with that.

Haha, good you get a clothes allowance for this condition haha. You have indeed made me smile hahaha.

A few weeks ago I found out through a friend who had been looking into my father that he passed away in 2010. He wasn't a very nice man to put it simply. I was contemplating getting in touch with my brother again you see. But chose not to do that if my father was still alive and around him, it would have been too much. So thi ha really stirred up a lot of child stuff that was bad. I thought I had handled it but think more suppressed it and from there it lead to a life that I had... without too much detail... a loveless marriage, an abusive relationship and string of other stuff mixed in that now has surfaced so need to handle and the OT diagnosed me with Complex PTSD which I never thought you could get and thought of it as Army type people got, so this has weighed heavily on me the last few weeks and now getting an assessment for therapy tomorrow on the phone to see if the service is compatable to help me with my issues. It will be a journey if I take this path but am open to a much better life from it. I'm quite excited to be able to handle things and already like yourself have been researching many things and learning so much and even the health stuff all of this creates and many of my symptoms are from the past stuff that I never knew or realised!

So for both of us it is a learning curve and finding new ways forward and better ways and life ahead.

I'm doing lots of well being stuff and wellness things to keep myself balanced especially in the last week. If I do go quiet at times it's because this stuff is taking my time and my energy as I have to devote my freshest energy to resolving things the best I can now, this will take priority when/if therapy begins. It's only in assessment stage right now but will know more tomorrow maybe. I'll let you know.

Keep me updated in what you are up to if you want and when no rush or pressure. It was good to hear you are okay, well you know what I mean.

Take good care of yourself and sending best wishes in the steps that come.

All the best

Samana x
 
Hi Samana
Thanks very much for your good wishes 🙂 Don't worry, I didn't feel any pressure and it's nice you are concerned. We both just post up when we can as thins happen in life don't they?

Gosh, it sounds like you've had a tough time. I'm not surprised it's triggered you to think of the past. While you think you have got past things, often something reminds you and you re-live those old experiences. I always thought of PTSD as associated with some short, powerful trauma like in the army, but I guess it makes sense that different trauma over a long period of time could cause it too. Anyway, best of luck with your journey. I hope it bears fruit for you 🙂

Some people don't like to have a diagnosis, but I always do. If you have a diagnosis, then you can get appropriate treatment. Just my point of view....

On the subject of new awakenings, my OT asked if I thought I had autism. Funnily enough, I had considered it over the years as I've always known I've had 'hyperfocus' where I can get lost in a subject to the exclusion of all else. Jan used to call me when I was working from home and I had to cut the call short as I realised I was starving and needed the loo lol.
Any road up, she's oing to book me in for an assessment. They ask if a family member can attend too, to provide input about when you were young. So I might not be bipolar, just autistic lol. We'll see what the waiting list is like.


On my recent transition towards being a woman, I've had a testosterone test and it's normal. The range os 10-20 nmol/L and mine is 13. As far as I have read, gynecomastia is caused by a hormone balance between testosterone and estrogen so if my testosterone is normal, my estrogen must be high, hence the boobs 🙂


I've read that high estrogen in men can be drug induced. Now, I don't take recreational drugs, but as a coffin dodger, I take a fair number of prescription drugs. I've done a lot of research, and it's quite hard to find out, but what keeps coming up is long term use of omeprazole and lansoprazole. I checked my emails and I started omeprazole about 9 years ago then moved onto lansoprazole in 2000 when I had my stroke. I'm going to discuss this with my GP and see if I can change to another class of drugs. I also read that body fat, particularly visceral fat (round the tum) offers a large store for and enzyme called aromatase. This enzyme converts testosterone into estrogen, so the more fat you have, the higher your potential estrogen levels are. I'm not heavily overweight at 14st 5 and 6' 1" tall, but I'm going to lose a couple of stone and see how that goes. Have you fell asleep yet lol? I bang on.

Anyway, best of luck with your assessment.

For what it's worth, my dad has always been, and still is a complete b*stard. He's in a home now and is still the same. I haven't visited him in a long time due to his abuse.

I remember, he always had to be right, even when he was wrong so that caused a lot of arguments. When he was proved wrong, he then modified what he originally said then would argue about that. It was quite a stressful childhood.

You take care of yourself too. It's good you're doing your wellness training and I'm sure it will help.

Say Hi to hub for me 🙂

Cheers Steve X
 
Hi Samana
Thanks very much for your good wishes 🙂 Don't worry, I didn't feel any pressure and it's nice you are concerned. We both just post up when we can as thins happen in life don't they?

Gosh, it sounds like you've had a tough time. I'm not surprised it's triggered you to think of the past. While you think you have got past things, often something reminds you and you re-live those old experiences. I always thought of PTSD as associated with some short, powerful trauma like in the army, but I guess it makes sense that different trauma over a long period of time could cause it too. Anyway, best of luck with your journey. I hope it bears fruit for you 🙂

Some people don't like to have a diagnosis, but I always do. If you have a diagnosis, then you can get appropriate treatment. Just my point of view....

On the subject of new awakenings, my OT asked if I thought I had autism. Funnily enough, I had considered it over the years as I've always known I've had 'hyperfocus' where I can get lost in a subject to the exclusion of all else. Jan used to call me when I was working from home and I had to cut the call short as I realised I was starving and needed the loo lol.
Any road up, she's oing to book me in for an assessment. They ask if a family member can attend too, to provide input about when you were young. So I might not be bipolar, just autistic lol. We'll see what the waiting list is like.


On my recent transition towards being a woman, I've had a testosterone test and it's normal. The range os 10-20 nmol/L and mine is 13. As far as I have read, gynecomastia is caused by a hormone balance between testosterone and estrogen so if my testosterone is normal, my estrogen must be high, hence the boobs 🙂


I've read that high estrogen in men can be drug induced. Now, I don't take recreational drugs, but as a coffin dodger, I take a fair number of prescription drugs. I've done a lot of research, and it's quite hard to find out, but what keeps coming up is long term use of omeprazole and lansoprazole. I checked my emails and I started omeprazole about 9 years ago then moved onto lansoprazole in 2000 when I had my stroke. I'm going to discuss this with my GP and see if I can change to another class of drugs. I also read that body fat, particularly visceral fat (round the tum) offers a large store for and enzyme called aromatase. This enzyme converts testosterone into estrogen, so the more fat you have, the higher your potential estrogen levels are. I'm not heavily overweight at 14st 5 and 6' 1" tall, but I'm going to lose a couple of stone and see how that goes. Have you fell asleep yet lol? I bang on.

Anyway, best of luck with your assessment.

For what it's worth, my dad has always been, and still is a complete b*stard. He's in a home now and is still the same. I haven't visited him in a long time due to his abuse.

I remember, he always had to be right, even when he was wrong so that caused a lot of arguments. When he was proved wrong, he then modified what he originally said then would argue about that. It was quite a stressful childhood.

You take care of yourself too. It's good you're doing your wellness training and I'm sure it will help.

Say Hi to hub for me 🙂

Cheers Steve X
Hi Steve,

I knew you might be having a few days to yourself to rest and sort etc but just wanted to check you were okay, no pressure to reply as always, yes things happen in life.

Yes there was a string of things in the past covering many decades with relationships until I had some time alone and then met my husband which has been totally different so I must have done something right. Hahaha. Yes when I found out my father had passed a few years ago suddenly whoosh it all came up and everything else. The assessment on Friday went well and will be getting some help although I might need to add other tools in I have to get me through it. Yes I thought you had to be in the army to get PTSD too. Apparently, I have CPTSD which is the complex version due to the continuation through relationships and experiences. I have already done some healing from the past in past years but obviously far more to do still. That's okay I'm in a much better place maybe to handle it now but it might be a bit of a rollercoaster in the next few months or so. Thank you very much for your good wishes.

I'm the same with diagnosis, I know what I'm working with then, although this has felt a bit heavy for me but parking it for a while and getting back into the good place whilst I'm waiting for therapy. It's good too like you do I research things and knowledge is good I think.

Ooh interesting that you may never have had Bipolar! It may be something totally different. Good you are gettint tested for Autism, many more people have it than we think. Let me know how that goes, it will be very interesting.

Haha, yes you are on the change haha. Ah hormones can be tricky things as you never really know what's going on with them if not being tested. Good you are being tested!

I see what you mean with the meds... wow that is interesting... so Lansoprazole and Omeprazole can affect your body fat... have I got that right? Let me know how that goes as I increased onto Esomeprazole for the last two years and had not follow up to stop or other... still on waiting list!!! Is this just in men or women too? It's very interesting and I never knew this. You are doing well with your weight now! Great work on that! Mine is up adn down as I have to have foods etc now and again so it offsets. I keep working towards things. I'm loving what you are sharing and very interested how things will develop for you. So please keep me updated.

Yeah exactly about the past stuff and your dad, we don't realise how it impacts us and just take it as part of life don't we? I never thought of it as trauma until the OT spoke to me. I just got on with things. It's not good that we went through this abuse, I'm sorry that you experienced this too and are better out of it. I then went onto a loveless marriage then thought I was in a better relationship after that but it was horrendous in so many ways, he was a narcissist and psychopath too plus other things!

I can relate with them always having to be right and causing arguments and tension and stressing us out and being in fear, sure you can resonate with this. I feel that I lost my childhood, do you? One good thing, we are free of that now and have to be aware of it in other relationships but at the same time living our best lives.

You take care of yourself too, and let me know how things are going when you are okay to do so, I am very interested in how you are doing. I am implementing the wellness and self care and taking time out now and again and that feels good.

Hubby says hi back hahaha.

Have the best day you can.

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

What you are saying ties in with what I've read and and experienced. I think that when you grow up in an abusive environment, you are less descrimiting in your adult relationships, whereas someone else might see the signs and be put off. It's similar for me, my ex was quite abusive, not physically, but emotionally. Despite all this, I eventually jumped ship and now I'm with Jan who is lovely. We have the occasional argument like everyone else, but not very often and not serious. When I've explained to her where she's gone wrong, it's all over (joke)

Surprisingly, I'm doing loads of research on autism 🙂 and it's quite common for the autistic to obsess about a particular interest then crash and flake out. This is pretty much like bipolar, so I can see where the apparent confusion can set in.

That's right, I'm going through the change. Boots have ot some fantastic dicounts on make-up at the moment 🙂

I probably didn't explain it clearly, but I'm not suggesting Omeparazole/Lansoprazole makes you gain weight, but it is implicated in gynecomastia in men. I have no idea whether it causes the gynecomastia, or promotes estrogen production which then causes the gynecomastia. It seems research is very sketchy. However, I did find out that Proton Pump Inhibitors (which they all are) long term can cause hypomagnesia (low magnesium) so I've started taking magnesium tablets, just to be sure. The recommendations I've found say you should have the lowest effective dose for the shortest time and have your magnesium levels checked periodically. I've not had mine checked in the 9+ years I've been takin them, so I'll have to chase that up. I'm intendin to stop/reduce my does with the agreement of my GP of course, and see if that improves my boobies 🙂

Yes, I feel like I lost my childhood. All I wanted to do was get out and I did as soon as I could. My mom kept saying to my dad that he'll drive us all away and he did.

I realise you have an emotionally challenging time ahead, but remember you have the skills to deal with this. One step at a time.... As someone said to me, How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.... 🙂

Thinking about it, I'm not sure if I need a diagnosis. Everyone knows I'm as nutty as a fruit cake 🙂



Take care of yourself


Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

What you are saying ties in with what I've read and and experienced. I think that when you grow up in an abusive environment, you are less descrimiting in your adult relationships, whereas someone else might see the signs and be put off. It's similar for me, my ex was quite abusive, not physically, but emotionally. Despite all this, I eventually jumped ship and now I'm with Jan who is lovely. We have the occasional argument like everyone else, but not very often and not serious. When I've explained to her where she's gone wrong, it's all over (joke)

Surprisingly, I'm doing loads of research on autism 🙂 and it's quite common for the autistic to obsess about a particular interest then crash and flake out. This is pretty much like bipolar, so I can see where the apparent confusion can set in.

That's right, I'm going through the change. Boots have ot some fantastic dicounts on make-up at the moment 🙂

I probably didn't explain it clearly, but I'm not suggesting Omeparazole/Lansoprazole makes you gain weight, but it is implicated in gynecomastia in men. I have no idea whether it causes the gynecomastia, or promotes estrogen production which then causes the gynecomastia. It seems research is very sketchy. However, I did find out that Proton Pump Inhibitors (which they all are) long term can cause hypomagnesia (low magnesium) so I've started taking magnesium tablets, just to be sure. The recommendations I've found say you should have the lowest effective dose for the shortest time and have your magnesium levels checked periodically. I've not had mine checked in the 9+ years I've been takin them, so I'll have to chase that up. I'm intendin to stop/reduce my does with the agreement of my GP of course, and see if that improves my boobies 🙂

Yes, I feel like I lost my childhood. All I wanted to do was get out and I did as soon as I could. My mom kept saying to my dad that he'll drive us all away and he did.

I realise you have an emotionally challenging time ahead, but remember you have the skills to deal with this. One step at a time.... As someone said to me, How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.... 🙂

Thinking about it, I'm not sure if I need a diagnosis. Everyone knows I'm as nutty as a fruit cake 🙂



Take care of yourself


Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

Absolutely, you are more suseptable to being treated the same in future relationships as you are conditioned from an early age. I'm sorry to hear about your ex, it's not pleasant to have to go through this. Good you got out for your own sanity. So happy that you are with Jan and very harmonious life now. We are fortunate to be in this place now. Yes of course we have disagreements too, that is perfectly normal. No ours aren't very serious and we move on quickly too. Hahaha, when you explain to her and it's all over hahaha. Thing is that when I first got with my hubby and we argued I thought it was all over as that was what was threatened every time I disagreed in the controlling narcisstic relationship, it's all manitpulation.

Haha, you mean not surprisingly you are doing lots of researching haha. Good for you, I agree totally, I'm doing loads on other stuff. Wow, you are seeing the signs now too now you are researching which is great. Understandably you can see why you got misdiagnosed potentially.

Hope you are taking advantage of the special offers on make up in Boots hahaha.

Ahh I see what you are saying about the Omeprazole and Lansoprazole now. They do obviously have some affect on you though from what you are saying, good if you can get these things checked out. Yes magnesium tablets can be good to take. Will your GP check your levels? Let me know how you get on.

Aaw that's sad you lost your childhood too. We have permission now to be childish in the way we can enjoy like children now, I do that at Christmas in going to Spain and being part of the celebrations there, it was so emotional last Christmas and we are planning to go again this year. Good you got out as soon as you could from your situation when younger. It took me some time.

Yes it will be an emotionally challenging time ahead but very worth it. I do have many skills and think they will all come into play and very open to what the therapy has to offer and invest time into that solely whilst it's ongoing as they suggest to. Yes one bite at a time!

Hahaha, I remember that advert from many years ago hahaha. You're nutty as a fruit cake hahaha, it helps you get through hahaha.

Have a great few days and keep me updated when you're up to it.

Take good care

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Yes, I think you're right - you have low expectations in your adult relationships which can lead to troubles. On the other hand, an abusive person can see someone like this, and is attracted to them, in part to control them.

That's one good thing about mixing with young kids - you get a chance to be childish as much as you like lol.

On the booby front (mine) lol I'm oing to ask for a callback from the doc to see if I can take a drug in a different class and see if it helps. According to all the literature I've read, gynecomastia can be drug related, but it's very hard to find out which one. BTW I found the British National Formulary section of the NICE web site here:


It's pretty handy for looking drugs up, side effects and interactions with other drugs. I think it's what the medical professionals use, so it's a good authority.

I've almost got my banking sorted out. Not sure if I mentioned, I switched to the co-op bank. Unfortunately, the online banking experience was appaling. More holes than a string vest! So now I'm in the process of switching to First Direct, so hopefully that will be better. I left Barclays due to their agressive closing of accounts at no notice, but the online banking was top-notch. I was about to google 'which banks aren't rubbish'. Blimey drives you to distraction lol.

Finally, on the subject of being nutty:


Keep Smilin'

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Yes, I think you're right - you have low expectations in your adult relationships which can lead to troubles. On the other hand, an abusive person can see someone like this, and is attracted to them, in part to control them.

That's one good thing about mixing with young kids - you get a chance to be childish as much as you like lol.

On the booby front (mine) lol I'm oing to ask for a callback from the doc to see if I can take a drug in a different class and see if it helps. According to all the literature I've read, gynecomastia can be drug related, but it's very hard to find out which one. BTW I found the British National Formulary section of the NICE web site here:


It's pretty handy for looking drugs up, side effects and interactions with other drugs. I think it's what the medical professionals use, so it's a good authority.

I've almost got my banking sorted out. Not sure if I mentioned, I switched to the co-op bank. Unfortunately, the online banking experience was appaling. More holes than a string vest! So now I'm in the process of switching to First Direct, so hopefully that will be better. I left Barclays due to their agressive closing of accounts at no notice, but the online banking was top-notch. I was about to google 'which banks aren't rubbish'. Blimey drives you to distraction lol.

Finally, on the subject of being nutty:


Keep Smilin'

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

Yes exactly, because it is what you know in relation to relationships you stick with what you know and are attracted to it in some way. So I'm told. Like you say the abusive person focuses on people like us and then controls us, not nice! I'm learning at long last and I've now got Next Steps which started Monday afternoon, which is a three week course with videos and workbook and other reading materials, techniques and resources so will be investing much time in doing this and already am learning lots around it all. I'm on day three now... taking my time and absorbing the information and making many notes for the one to one therapy which will follow.

Hahaha, yes mixing with the young ones you can be as childish as you want although for me largely I don't know how to be that. I get sensations of inocence but not the know how if that makes sense? I was also bullied in school.

Oh interesting about the drug you are wanting to take. Has that callback happened yet? The BNF is a great source of medicine directory for you and yes the doctors and nurses use that. I used to have one being a nurse when I trained. Thanks for the link 😉 I've never looked at it online to be honest so that will be good like you said, thanks.

Oh good you have finally made way forward with your banking. Yes you mentioned the Co-op, sorry that didn't work out for you and now you are with First Direct, lets hope that is much more smoother and successful. Good you left Barclays, they were so wrong in how they treated you and have heard of others who got treated the same, they seem to just take control. Haha, which banks aren't rubbish haha, that would be a good Google hahaha. Let me know how it's all going,

Hahaha, love what you sent about they are coming to take me away... hahaha.

How are you feeling in yourself now?

I'm still awaiting a pre-op for my shoulder op but there is a back log and they are only doing pre-ops three days a week now, it's crazy!

I'm taking things easy now after getting shopping and doing some more course work etc and will watch a funny film to relax afterwards.

All the best

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Just a quick one so you know I'm not dead lol. It's all hands to the pumps atm as my daughter, her partner and 3 grandkids are down for the week. It's lovely to see them all but pretty tiring! I'll post up in more detail in a few days. Hope you're ok 🙂

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Just a quick one so you know I'm not dead lol. It's all hands to the pumps atm as my daughter, her partner and 3 grandkids are down for the week. It's lovely to see them all but pretty tiring! I'll post up in more detail in a few days. Hope you're ok 🙂

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

No worries at all. Have great fun with the family and yes just reply whenever you are ready. Good to hear that you are not dead hahaha.

I'm busy with plenty also, we can talk more when you have time on things. For now enjoy the family and enjoy the rest of Easter.

Take it easy.

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Yes we're having fun. We live near the beach and went collecting shells and chalk from the white cliffs as we're quite close to Dover. The kids were getting as close to the sea as they could, then running backwards when a wave came. Funnily enough, they all came home with soaked feet 🙂 I remember doing that as a child.

It's my birthday today and I'm 64 or, as my daughter says, 44 with 20 years experience 🙂 The kids are buying me an Omron body fat monitor. I know how to live. I guess this afternoon will be taken up with everyone measuring their body fat. I guess mine will say 'one at a time please' (very old joke) :-(

I have my mammogram tomorrow. I'm not looking forward to it as my nipples feel like they have a bit of glass in them, but it will be the end of the run to ensure it's not cancer, so definitely required.

How are you doing? Have any appointments come round yet? Let me know how you are when you have the time.

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Yes we're having fun. We live near the beach and went collecting shells and chalk from the white cliffs as we're quite close to Dover. The kids were getting as close to the sea as they could, then running backwards when a wave came. Funnily enough, they all came home with soaked feet 🙂 I remember doing that as a child.

It's my birthday today and I'm 64 or, as my daughter says, 44 with 20 years experience 🙂 The kids are buying me an Omron body fat monitor. I know how to live. I guess this afternoon will be taken up with everyone measuring their body fat. I guess mine will say 'one at a time please' (very old joke) :-(

I have my mammogram tomorrow. I'm not looking forward to it as my nipples feel like they have a bit of glass in them, but it will be the end of the run to ensure it's not cancer, so definitely required.

How are you doing? Have any appointments come round yet? Let me know how you are when you have the time.

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

Lovely to hear you are having a great time and wishing you a great 64th birthday... still a very young man.

The beach time sounds great fun, yes I still love the beach too and good we are both close to one. Lovely to get out there in nature.

Have a beautiful day enjoying yourselves and partying and checking out your body fat hahaha, sounds fun hahaha. Very useful birthday gift for you... for a man who has everything hahaha.

Hahaha, one at a time please hahaha.

We've got lots of appointments but mostly for hubby right now as a couple of weeks ago we spent the whole evening and night in A&E after seeing the GP that day, he had a few tests but has Vascular EDS so he needs checks and with time his muscles and tissues get weaker, and it can affect his blood vessels plus he's getting slightly out of breath... so he is taking priority as you can imagine right now. We have some tests for cardiology this afternoon then other kinds next week for something else.

I have some Next Steps stuff to work on like a pre-therapy course which lasts three weeks and then more resources to work with so plenty to keep me going.

Let me know how things are with you when you are free and have time... for now enjoy this beautiful family week and your birthday. Wishing you a very happy birthday!

Best wishes

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Thanks for your good wishes. I did have a good time with the family. It was lovely to see them all, but I must admit, I'm enjoying the quiet now they've all gone home. It's like I've gone deaf lol. Not that young 🙂

I had to google Vascular EDS and see it can be quite mild or severe. I'm guessing hubby is severe if you were in a&e. Please send him my best wishes. Do let me know how he gets on.

Best of luck with your Next Steps stuff. Is this a precursor for help with your PTSD? If you feel ok to, let me know how you get on.

I had my mammogram yesterday and was pretty nervous, but the lady was lovely. I explained how much my nipples hurt and she just said if it's too painful, just let her know. As it turned out, having my boobs squashed between two plates didn't hurt at all. I was quite releived lol. I'll get the results in a week by letter. I'm not too worried though, as the incidence of breast cancer in men is only 1% of all breast cancers. Also the consultant that did a physical exam said she was sure it was gynecomastia. I feel quite reassured, but want to see the results of the x-ray to be sure of course.

Next week (19th) my step daughter is in for a cesarian. She's having a girl. We're really excited and nervous at the same time. All I really care about is that they are both OK.

That's all for now.

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Thanks for your good wishes. I did have a good time with the family. It was lovely to see them all, but I must admit, I'm enjoying the quiet now they've all gone home. It's like I've gone deaf lol. Not that young 🙂

I had to google Vascular EDS and see it can be quite mild or severe. I'm guessing hubby is severe if you were in a&e. Please send him my best wishes. Do let me know how he gets on.

Best of luck with your Next Steps stuff. Is this a precursor for help with your PTSD? If you feel ok to, let me know how you get on.

I had my mammogram yesterday and was pretty nervous, but the lady was lovely. I explained how much my nipples hurt and she just said if it's too painful, just let her know. As it turned out, having my boobs squashed between two plates didn't hurt at all. I was quite releived lol. I'll get the results in a week by letter. I'm not too worried though, as the incidence of breast cancer in men is only 1% of all breast cancers. Also the consultant that did a physical exam said she was sure it was gynecomastia. I feel quite reassured, but want to see the results of the x-ray to be sure of course.

Next week (19th) my step daughter is in for a cesarian. She's having a girl. We're really excited and nervous at the same time. All I really care about is that they are both OK.

That's all for now.

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

So lovely to hear you had a great family time together. Yes I understand about enjoying the quiet after they go hahaha. I find it quite tiring too and we only stay there a couple of hours or so as they are so busy off doing things but it works well for us hahaha.

Thank you for your good wishes for hubby. The thing is with Vascular EDS little is known in many medical places across the UK so we had to travel to Sheffield to get tests done as that's where they are based. He is doing okay and they are doing a full spectrum of tests and checks on him. Thing is his sister who was 57 passed with the effects of it and hubby is 69 and the average age for this is 48 so you can see why we have to keep a check on him and my concerns. I am doing what I can to help with things and doing less in some areas in general so he has less to do if that makes sense.

I lost all of my notes from the form on Next Steps online as thought they were saving and they weren't. So have had to start all over again. I felt physically sick I can tell you! But I have caught up a lot in the last few days and getting towards the end of the second week again and actually gathered more notes and info from doing it. It actually saves into 3 separate weeks of course notes on the form instead of one but there you go! Not the easiest way to save things and not explanation either. Yes, I am doing this as a precursor to one to one help and there are other resources etc for me to look at and loads to implement into my daily life which I have begun. It can be a bit hard going at times but I'm managing to lift myself again. I'm also making lots of changes in my interactions with so called friends etc... I have learned that all my life I have given and cared and given my all and kept nothing for me... now it's changing and it's MY TIME. So will making some more changes moving forward and started a few days ago... a friend of mine who I have known for several years who I met via the group I'm on I told you about set up a call and then cancelled AGAIN at the last minute so I said we can text message moving forward as my hubby and my health is more serious now and have to take more care of ourselves etc... she hasn't even texted to ask how we are... so it's all about her that she wants to connect and I'm realising so much now. I will share more next time.

So pleased you got your mammogram, I can understand how you felt about having it and the soreness. Do you have cream for that? Let me know how you get on with the results etc if you are comfortable with that. Good they are looking after you and following up.

Oh wow, the 19th is birth day! Aaaww, sending my best wishes that everything goes beautifully with the birth. I had a cesarian with my daughter, it was over quite quickly. Sending much love to you all, keep me posted with it all when you can.

Right back to my coursework, no rest hahaha!

Have a great weekend, and all the best with everything.

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Gosh the EDS sounds very serious and your hubby clearly needs monitoring. He's lucky to have you looking after him.

The Next Steps form sounds irritating. You would have thought they would save it as you go. It reminds me of when I typed out a long document in a word processor. It wasn't finished, but I clicked the X in Windows to quit the program and it warned me it wasn't saved. Then I clicked no not to save it. I have no idea why and then it was gone. Epic fail lol. So then I typed it all again in a very grumpy way.

I think it's good you're re-evaluating your relationships. Sometimes a relationship is one-way, where you make all the effort and without realising it, they drain you a lot.

The results from the mammogram should come next week and I'm keen to get them. On the subject of my nipples lol, the skin isn't sore, but both feel like they have a bit of glass inside, so when pressed, I jump out of my skin lol. However, having them squeezed between two plates didn't hurt at all and the lady was very nice.

On a completely random subject, my sleep hasn't been good for a while. One irritation is Jan's phone going off in the night, often from emails in the early hours of the morning from another country. Jan likes to take her phone to bed at night in case there is an emergency. Any road up, I found a program on the Play Store where you can schedule it to silence notifications, but not calls so I've installed it on her phone and it works great! Silence all night 🙂

Yes, the 19th. We're going over to Vicki's tomorrow to stay the night. The nerves are starting to kick in now! Thanks for your good wishes, I'll pass them on 🙂

Yes, crack that whip and get that coursework done! (again!!!)

I hope you both had a good weekend too.

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Gosh the EDS sounds very serious and your hubby clearly needs monitoring. He's lucky to have you looking after him.

The Next Steps form sounds irritating. You would have thought they would save it as you go. It reminds me of when I typed out a long document in a word processor. It wasn't finished, but I clicked the X in Windows to quit the program and it warned me it wasn't saved. Then I clicked no not to save it. I have no idea why and then it was gone. Epic fail lol. So then I typed it all again in a very grumpy way.

I think it's good you're re-evaluating your relationships. Sometimes a relationship is one-way, where you make all the effort and without realising it, they drain you a lot.

The results from the mammogram should come next week and I'm keen to get them. On the subject of my nipples lol, the skin isn't sore, but both feel like they have a bit of glass inside, so when pressed, I jump out of my skin lol. However, having them squeezed between two plates didn't hurt at all and the lady was very nice.

On a completely random subject, my sleep hasn't been good for a while. One irritation is Jan's phone going off in the night, often from emails in the early hours of the morning from another country. Jan likes to take her phone to bed at night in case there is an emergency. Any road up, I found a program on the Play Store where you can schedule it to silence notifications, but not calls so I've installed it on her phone and it works great! Silence all night 🙂

Yes, the 19th. We're going over to Vicki's tomorrow to stay the night. The nerves are starting to kick in now! Thanks for your good wishes, I'll pass them on 🙂

Yes, crack that whip and get that coursework done! (again!!!)

I hope you both had a good weekend too.

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

Yes Vascular EDS can be very serious and especially as hubby gets older as muscles and membranes get weaker too, plus like I mentioned the organs can be affected. The GP and cardiologist is taking good care of him though. I am doing what I can to help and support him and things are going okay. He went to the hospital on Tuesday afternoon re a small growth on his forehead and that turns out to be pre-cancerous and he's got chemo cream to kill the cells in it and hopefully after that it will go away for good, but we have an open appt to go back after three months after that as we have to leave it for that long to see if it's been successful. Naturally it is a concern for me, he doesn't seem to worried outwardly but I am. But it's all in hand.

The form for Next Steps was irritating in that there was no explanation so I assumed as it was on their site it was saving. I am now up to day and at the end of the three week course and working with now implementing things from that in my day to day life etc which will take a time to create new habits but it's all beginning to take shape. I can understand you frustration when you lost that document, especially if you've put a lot of time and effort into it and it goes, regaining that info can be a challenge! It happens to us all unfortunately! Yes I type it again in a grumpy way too hahaha.

I've had another bad experience this last week with creating boundaries... it was with a lady I had connected to via a group and she posted nice pics of nature etc then started sending me random and often political links in my messenger and all sorts of weird and wonderful things, then started pasting things on my Timeline, which I then asked her not to and not to send the links as I'm not interested in hearing the news and politics all of the time. I can access them when I need to, I don't need her sending things when she doesn't even know me... she was very unkind and said 'so you didn't like that harmless cat video on your Timeline?' and 'did the political video unsettle you?'... in a very sarcastic way... so I've unfriended her as I don't need that kind of person in my life, she never asks how I am or what I'm doing, so no real conversation just links and posts and tagging, no conversation. It's early days for me doing this and it felt very unneving in a way as it's new but think it will be worth it and get easier over time. Yes many relationships can be one way and them doing all of the taking and not caring at all about you. Exactly, we make all of the effort and don't realise as we have been conditioned to do that much of our lives... it has to stop and now I'm beginning to manage it better. It's totally draining!

I saw my GP this morning and she said I need to rest more as things are creating a flare up in many areas for me. So doing what I mentioned above will be a good start and taking time for me off social media also at times. She is also repeating some bloods 8 weekly just to check if anything drops or changes with health. She's looking after us both.

We had a lovely day out yesterday and went to various beaches and even saw a snake! I went in the other direction hahaha, it was moving towards me and hubby stayed to watch and eventually it went into the grass, not sure what it was but I went back to the car and not the beach hahaha, it freaked me out. We had a lovely relaxing time and planning more too.

Ooh whilst I think, I hav emy pre-op for my shoulder on Monday morning! Yippee, not sure when surgery will be but that is a great step in the right direction, it might be soon after so might not be able to type for a while after that, I will need to see, but will continue to message and keep you in the loop with progress.

Hopefully this week you will get good news around the mammogram. It does sound painful though with your nipples! I imagine you have to take it carefully not to catch yourself. I hope that eases for you it doesn't sound good.

So how did the birth of the little girl go this week? I hope mum and baby are doing well, send my love and just update when you have time, I know things might be busy for you at the moment being a grandma and granddad again! Very exciting times for you both. You'll do just great you are an expert at this now! Hahaha!

I completely understand about being woken by phone noises. Good you got that sorted, it would have driven me to distraction! Yes you can allow certain notifications through and stop others apparently. I just tell my daughter in an emergency call the landline but not many others need that. It's important to get sleep.

On the subject of sleep, due to me working on stuff I'm getting woken by anger and anxiety currently but hope that will pass over time, but that isn't helping with the feeling exhausted. Instead though I'm focusing on what I can do and adding in small things.

I have caught up with the coursework now and doing more resources they sent with it and going from there. I did call the service yesterday and tell them about the anger and anxiety surfacing, the message is getting passed on but nothing yet so will just keep going with the tools I have.

Hope you are having a great week so far. Just reply when you are ready. I am taking Fridays and Sundays offline mostly as this is seeming to help me to recharge and get space etc.

Wishing you all the best with your new little girl and mum too!

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

As I'm sure you know, the forum has been down. It came up with a server error yesterday and half an hour ago, it wouldn't connect but now it seems OK. I'll type fast lol in case it goes down again.

The big news here is that Vicki's cesar all went ok and mother and baby (Rosie May) are fine. It will take her some time to recover, but she's doing OK. We've spent quite a bit of time over there to help out. I've had a bad stomach so I'm staying away for a couple of days just to be safe.

Gosh I can see you would be worried about hubby. any mention of the word cancer, or even pre-cancerous makes the hairs stand up on the back of your neck. All being well, the cream will do its job and he'll be free of it. Good that it was caught early, as I'm sure you know, the earlier the better!

I think you did the right thing blocking that crazy woman. She's obviously a bully. Drop her like a hot stone. You really don't need people like that in your life as I'm sure you know.

Lack of sleep is a bummer. It just makes everything harder If I have a bad night, I try not to sleep in the day, but after a few nights, I just crumble and sleep on the sofa for a while. It's easy to say, but I try not to get too stressed about missed sleep and tiredness as that just makes it worse.

Just so I understand - you are doing the coursework as a precursor to seeing someone face to face? I'm thinking the coursework wouldn't be as good as a face to face conversation?

It's a good idea to take a break from online stuff from time to time. As usual, just post up when you can and I will too.

Thanks for your good wishes for Vickie and Rosie. Rosie is sleeping a little more each night which is brill after only a week.

My week's OK, just a little tired from running around, but I don't begrudge any of it, of course! Hope you're doing well.

I'm hoping for the results from the mammogram any day now. I'm not really worried, but it would be nice to know 🙂

Tell hubby I'm rooting for him and hope he improves soon.


Cheers

Steve X
 
Oh! I forgot to mention. My sister uses headspace for relaxation. She swears by it. I'm intending to give it a go. It's a paid service, so if you didn't want that, there are LOADS of relaxation sounds on Youtube for free. I've found some of them very good.


Cheers

Steve X
 
As I'm sure you know, the forum has been down. It came up with a server error yesterday and half an hour ago, it wouldn't connect but now it seems OK. I'll type fast lol in case it goes down again.

The big news here is that Vicki's cesar all went ok and mother and baby (Rosie May) are fine. It will take her some time to recover, but she's doing OK. We've spent quite a bit of time over there to help out. I've had a bad stomach so I'm staying away for a couple of days just to be safe.

Gosh I can see you would be worried about hubby. any mention of the word cancer, or even pre-cancerous makes the hairs stand up on the back of your neck. All being well, the cream will do its job and he'll be free of it. Good that it was caught early, as I'm sure you know, the earlier the better!

I think you did the right thing blocking that crazy woman. She's obviously a bully. Drop her like a hot stone. You really don't need people like that in your life as I'm sure you know.

Lack of sleep is a bummer. It just makes everything harder If I have a bad night, I try not to sleep in the day, but after a few nights, I just crumble and sleep on the sofa for a while. It's easy to say, but I try not to get too stressed about missed sleep and tiredness as that just makes it worse.

Just so I understand - you are doing the coursework as a precursor to seeing someone face to face? I'm thinking the coursework wouldn't be as good as a face to face conversation?

It's a good idea to take a break from online stuff from time to time. As usual, just post up when you can and I will too.

Thanks for your good wishes for Vickie and Rosie. Rosie is sleeping a little more each night which is brill after only a week.

My week's OK, just a little tired from running around, but I don't begrudge any of it, of course! Hope you're doing well.

I'm hoping for the results from the mammogram any day now. I'm not really worried, but it would be nice to know 🙂

Tell hubby I'm rooting for him and hope he improves soon.


Cheers
Hi Steve,

Yes I saw the forum was down a few days ago. Lol yes type faster hahaha. I couldn't even access the site a few days ago to check for messages.

Aaw so happy to hear about Vicki and Rosie May are doing so well and that already in the first week she is sleeping slightly longer each time that is wonderful news. Give them my very best wishes. Congratulations to you and your family on your new beautiful addition!

Hope your tummy is better by now?

Yes, I bet you have been busy being granddad again? Hahaha

Do you know we are still trying to get this cream for hubby! It was out of stock in the places Boots use and tried others and trying again tomorrow. It's ridiculous! Yes it was scary for me as I know how easily pre-cancerous things can change, I have a condition that could change too, so looking after that. So glad they caught it early and that we are TRYING to treat it when we get the cream.

Yes I think I did the right thing blocking the crazy woman too. I don't like doing it but deserve better than how she was treating me and she doesn't even ahve proper conversations either.

I'm still on the group I mentioned and there was another incident where the organiser told someone OUTSIDE of the private group that I was doing a PTSD course. Why would I be doing it if I didn't have it and it's my information to share and not for him to share it without asking, which he didn't. This just happened in the last two days so working my way towards leaving the group and not sharing personal stuff on the group any more, so questioning how the group is benefitting me at all. Some of the methods are useful but my enthusiasm and trust has gone with the experiences I've had.

I'm creating more boundaries at the moment and working on how I feel about them as it's outside my comfort zone but necessary. One step at a time and I'm learning to do it. Finding it a challenge though.

My sleep and feeling anxious and angry is quite bad right now as things are surfacing. The breathwork is so valuable and the meditation I resumed in the last couple of weeks helps plus much more I'm implementing too over time as new habits which are healthier and healing me over time. Still no therapy one to one sessions yet. Like you I try not to sleep in the day if I can but sometimes I'm just too exhausted and have to. I agree it's best not to get too stressed about missing a night's sleep and just do your best the next day or else it just adds more stress to everything. Then if you need to rest you just do, no pressure. Yes the coursework is a precursor to the one to one therapy. I have followed up but still not news as they try to place you with the best therapist to help you. I have 4 A4 pages lists of things to implement from the course alone plus other things hahaha.

I take Fridays and Sundays off now when I can as I need to rest and recharge and this stuff can be heavy to handle so I need that break and take things easy.

I also had news that a friend of mine had passed this last week which came as a huge shock... she was 49 and got a brain tumour. We weren't in touch all of the time but had met up and we interacted a lot about various things. She had cancer previously and due to her reaching a milestone thought that she was past the worst but this came quickly and now she's gone. Feeling very sad naturally and that is adding to everything too. That's three deaths in the last 8 months.

Glad you have had a good week and can understand the running around can make you tired but loving being granddad I'm sure to the new little one hahaha.

Do you have your results yet from your mammogram, yes I understand it's always good to know the results for sure.

I had my pre-op last Monday and awaiting all of the results to be gathered and the consultant's secretary to come back from holiday tomorrow so I can call her to see when my surgery on my shoulder might be.

Thank you for your lovely support for my hubby

Take very good care of yourself and keep me updated when you have time.

Samana x
 
Hi Samana

Hope you're OK. We've had another busy few days - spending most of our time in Ashford at Vicki's place. Rosie's doing really well and Vicki and Dennie are gaining confidence as parents. It's great to be involved.

Was my stomach bad? I don't remember lol. I guess it wasn't that bad 🙂. Yes being a grandad again is great. There's loads of us, like rabbits 🙂

Gosh that's frustrating in the extreme you can't get you hubby's cream! Can boots do a ring around, or maybe the hospital supply it? Best of luck getting it. Let me know how you get on.

About the crazy woman - good riddance to bad rubbish! You're better out of it!

Boundaries are always a good thing and worth working on, even if it's difficult. You'll reap the rewards in time, I'm sure.

Taking a couple of days a week off is also a good idea. We all need time to recharge our batteries.

I can't beleive the group organiser shared your personal information without asking. That was thoughtless in the extreme. It must have made you very angry. I can see how he's broken your trust.

It's a bummer you have anxiety and poor sleep. One doesn't help the other does it? Does the meditation help you relax? I'm not sure if I mentioned it, but my sister swears by headspace. She said there's all kinds of relaxation recordings on there, from general relaxation, grief, low self esteem etc. You have to pay for it. but it's not expensive. Alternatively, youtube has loads of relaxation recordings, some talking, some just music, some nature sounds etc and is of course, free which is nice!
So sorry to hear about your friend. That was really unlucky for her, to think she was in remission then it coming back. 3 deaths in 8 months is very punishing for you. Make sure you treat yourself nicely.


No results from the mammo. I chased it and the secretary said she would chase it and call me back but no call yet. Initially I called 111 and got a GP appt the same day, who referred me and I got a consultant's appt in a week. I guess the backlog is in analysing the results as this stage seems very slow. It's a few weeks now since the x-ray. I see the postie each day coming towards my house and wonder if I'll get a letter, but nada lol.

Brill you've had your pre-op. Hopefully the appointment will be soon. Fingers crossed! Then that will be another thing to mark off as done.

Pass on my best wishes again to hubby. Hope you can get that cream sourced quickly.

On a completely different note, I'm having some occupational therapy to get me moving again and it's brill. The lady is really nice. We set some goals each time and I try to complete them. I use an Android phone and a calendar app called acalendar. I noticed it has a task manger for and extra fee (£4.50 lol) so bought it and it's great. Very basic, but you can create tasks and subtasks and tick them off as you do them (and feel smug about them).

On that positive note, I'll sign off, apart from to wish you both all the best 🙂

Cheers

Steve X
 
Hi Samana

Hope you're OK. We've had another busy few days - spending most of our time in Ashford at Vicki's place. Rosie's doing really well and Vicki and Dennie are gaining confidence as parents. It's great to be involved.

Was my stomach bad? I don't remember lol. I guess it wasn't that bad 🙂. Yes being a grandad again is great. There's loads of us, like rabbits 🙂

Gosh that's frustrating in the extreme you can't get you hubby's cream! Can boots do a ring around, or maybe the hospital supply it? Best of luck getting it. Let me know how you get on.

About the crazy woman - good riddance to bad rubbish! You're better out of it!

Boundaries are always a good thing and worth working on, even if it's difficult. You'll reap the rewards in time, I'm sure.

Taking a couple of days a week off is also a good idea. We all need time to recharge our batteries.

I can't beleive the group organiser shared your personal information without asking. That was thoughtless in the extreme. It must have made you very angry. I can see how he's broken your trust.

It's a bummer you have anxiety and poor sleep. One doesn't help the other does it? Does the meditation help you relax? I'm not sure if I mentioned it, but my sister swears by headspace. She said there's all kinds of relaxation recordings on there, from general relaxation, grief, low self esteem etc. You have to pay for it. but it's not expensive. Alternatively, youtube has loads of relaxation recordings, some talking, some just music, some nature sounds etc and is of course, free which is nice!
So sorry to hear about your friend. That was really unlucky for her, to think she was in remission then it coming back. 3 deaths in 8 months is very punishing for you. Make sure you treat yourself nicely.


No results from the mammo. I chased it and the secretary said she would chase it and call me back but no call yet. Initially I called 111 and got a GP appt the same day, who referred me and I got a consultant's appt in a week. I guess the backlog is in analysing the results as this stage seems very slow. It's a few weeks now since the x-ray. I see the postie each day coming towards my house and wonder if I'll get a letter, but nada lol.

Brill you've had your pre-op. Hopefully the appointment will be soon. Fingers crossed! Then that will be another thing to mark off as done.

Pass on my best wishes again to hubby. Hope you can get that cream sourced quickly.

On a completely different note, I'm having some occupational therapy to get me moving again and it's brill. The lady is really nice. We set some goals each time and I try to complete them. I use an Android phone and a calendar app called acalendar. I noticed it has a task manger for and extra fee (£4.50 lol) so bought it and it's great. Very basic, but you can create tasks and subtasks and tick them off as you do them (and feel smug about them).

On that positive note, I'll sign off, apart from to wish you both all the best 🙂

Cheers

Steve X
Hi Steve,

Yes thank you, lots happening here!

Ooh lovely that you are getting to spend time with Vicki and the little one. So pleased to hear that Rosie is doing well. Oh yes this is their first little one, they will soon get the hang of parenting and sure they are doing a great job. Yes I'm sure you are loving being grandparents again! Haha!

We finally got the cream for hubby on Thursday and he is using it daily now so all good finally! Thank you for your good wishes for him. He can get on with healing now thankfully.

Absolutely! I am creating new boundaries and still working on moving away from the group too. I am finding that the most difficult but continually working on parts so things are changing slowly for the better. Thing is with the group the advice from the OT was if I move from the group I may need to block the organiser and all of the group members too. Feels a bit harsh but Like you said I will reap the rewards, I'm just working my way towards that now. I know the group offers very little and only in the last week when the organiser too my private information outside of the group did I feel and realise I had lost the trust, and yes very angry, there is no way back. Plus having spoken to the OT this guy the organiser has other not so good traits so I need to go, she understands my issues due to past stuff but I'm moving in a good direction now and will create a bigger plan.

I am loving taking the days out although this week has been full on getting things sorted at home whilst I have two arms and hands to use as on Wednesday 10th May I have shoulder surgery and will likely be in a sling for 3-4 weeks apparently after speaking to further medical people so will not be able to type for some time. So could be offline as I am having my right shoulder done and right handed too. I will see what I can do with messages it might just take me a while to type with one hand once I begin to heal we will see as it can be painful to move about too much. I am not one to sit still though and like to move about but this is something else! A friend of mine had it done and he tried to move too quickly and the nerve got trapped and it took him much longer to heal, so slowly does it is the key I think. I shall get plenty of rest then and more than just Friday and Sunday off hahaha. Oh and I'm going to have the surgery at the community hospital and not the main one like they said I needed last time so that helps even more.

For me the anger and anxiety wakes me up and I have to allow it to pass. Plus lots on my mind, you know what I'm saying. No one doesn't help the other, but I am using some new techniques that are helping me to release some of the things a bit easier and only used them for the last three days so can implement them after surgery too whilst resting and healing. The meditation is really helping and the breathwork too. Ahh yes Headspace... I used to be signed up to that, it was good but eventually I went on to do training and used various techniques. You're right it is very good. I am using YouTube a lot to get some free stuff yes that's my go to to fill the gaps at the moment. Therapy on a one to one still hasn't started but now surgery is near that will be a blessing as travelling about won't be very comfortable for a while. Although, some therapists do phone calls and video calls so it could well be one of those.

Thanks for your wishes re the loss of my friend. I am still getting over the loss of the previous one. None of the 3 were over 60... one was 35, this one was 49 and hubby's sister was 57... it is just about taking time to heal and like you say treat myself nicely during this time.

Oooh, the mammogram results are taking their time! Usually they would be back by now wouldn't they? I would have thought the analysis part would be faster in your case but good you are keeping on top of getting the results. Perhaps follow it up again if you don't hear anything. I can understand you keeping an eye on the Postie, I would be too.

Oh good to hear you are having some OT to get things moving again and so pleased it's working for you. You are making loads of progress already with your goals by the sound of it! I love that you have the app and that is working really well to tick each task off as you do them, great sense of achievement and progress. Great news! Well done! Keep me updated with progress.

I will message when I can it might take longer or shorter messages for a while we will see how things work out. Might not be for a week or two or more. Even if I just send a short reply next time you will know how things are.

Take good care both of you

Best wishes

Samana x
 
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