rebrascora
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It made a huge difference for me.Omg … I need HRT.
It made a huge difference for me.Omg … I need HRT.
It has been 15 years for me, not because of diabetes, so have quite a backlogThank you for explaining, so would you need to eat beforehand?
The main problem with spontaneous sex in my life, is I haven't got anyone to have it with
@Vonny - I used to avoid sex with my ex, I remember taking my children into bed with me, so he couldnt join me, I thought it was just sex (I was exhausted looking after 3 under 5s) but when we split up 28 years later I met someone else and wanted it all the time, (I was 48 so not a spring chicken), sadly that relationship didn't end well either after 7 years (not sex avoidance related) - I wonder if it's the person or the act that makes us not want it, although my friend is in her late 50s and her husband is 10 years older, he has a bad back and can't move and she told me when they go to bed he puts pillows down the middle of the bed to keep them apart. They love each other but dont lust after each other. Sorry gone of subject here.
But how spontaneous is spontaneous, really? If I was going out and didn’t know if I was going to be 2 hours or 2 days, I’d never leave home without a clean tissue, a credit card, my house keys, my phone etc, so adding a Libre reader an insulin pen, and a packet of jelly babies, to me, isn’t that big a deal. If I was going to climb the alps, I’d pack boots and a walking pole, not to mention a toothbrush!Ok ,no one is getting it.
Try this, I am going out now, not going to check blood or take carbs or insulin with me might be gone an hour or maybe 2days or tell anyone where's I'm going.
I've suddenly been invited to go climb the Alps , leaving tomorrow morning
That's spontaneous .
Spontaneity is saying yes to something and doing it right away,no planning, nothing.
Do That as a type 1, your f**ked
And all the hassle of hiring a retinue of reliable sherpas.But how spontaneous is spontaneous, really? If I was going out and didn’t know if I was going to be 2 hours or 2 days, I’d never leave home without a clean tissue, a credit card, my house keys, my phone etc, so adding a Libre reader an insulin pen, and a packet of jelly babies, to me, isn’t that big a deal. If I was going to climb the alps, I’d pack boots and a walking pole, not to mention a toothbrush!
K think I will forget this post as no one seems to get the pointAnd all the hassle of hiring a retinue of reliable sherpas.
I think we do get what you’re saying, but what we are saying is, it doesn’t have to be like that. If you turn the thinking on its head, and compare it with things that we do automatically before we do anything ‘spontaneous', then going out prepared for our diabetes becomes just another routine act.K think I will forget this post as no one seems to get the point
Think I'll just go scream into the voidI think we do get what you’re saying, but what we are saying is, it doesn’t have to be like that. If you turn the thinking on its head, and compare it with things that we do automatically before we do anything ‘spontaneous', then going out prepared for our diabetes becomes just another routine act.
Think I'll just go scream into the void
The first one right?Ok, so I’ve magicked away your Type 1 - can you now be totally spontaneous? No, you can’t. You still need to do prep for your hypothetical trip to the Alps: passport, cash, phone and charger, credit card, insurance, clothes and toiletries, getting to the airport, airport parking, accommodation, etc etc.
But the diabetes adds more prep, you say? Yes, it does - that’s true. But your problem IMO isn’t the diabetes prep, it’s the fact that your diabetes has been allowed to grow so that it’s so massive it’s blocking your perspective and has completely taken over. You can’t make it disappear but you can try to relegate it a little and put it back in its box.
So - back to your Alps trip - you’ll have to add packing your meter/Libre, test strips, pods, glucose, but that’s ok. Maybe the person you’re going with doesn’t have Type 1 and doesn’t have to do this, but you have two ways of dealing with that:
1) Spend your whole time in the Alps, mulling over how much you hate diabetes; how it’s not fair your friend Bob doesn’t have to bring all the diabetes cr*p with him; let the Type 1 take over your thoughts and affect your mood so you can’t even enjoy the scenery…
2) Or you can accept you can’t change the fact you have diabetes, allow yourself to have a brief moan at it while you’re packing - then keep it in the back of your mind and put enjoying your holiday at the forefront.
I know which I’d choose…
It's not times of stress, it's eternal stress@everydayupsanddowns mentioned Mindfulness in one of your threads. It’s something I’ve found really useful and calming in times of stress. It can help change your way of looking at things. Here are two quotes that might help:
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It's not times of stress, it's eternal stress
Well it does with meThe “planning“ thing came into focus when I went sailing with my partner at short notice. He does not have diabetes. He has hayfever which is pretty common although I don’t suffer from it . He suffers from motion sickness.
I packed insulin and test strips.
He took hayfever tablets and seasickness tablets.
We both slathered ourselves with sunscreen.
And we didn’t have to worry about kids.
Who had to plan the most? Who struggled most with spontaneity?
Does diabetes cause much trouble compared with “normal living”?
But what has happen/happened to me has made me what I am nowYou can’t change what happens/happened to you, but you can change your reaction to it.
Well it does with me
But what has happen/happened to me has made me what I am now