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Hi kerry. Welcome 🙂

It looks like you've had some great advice so far. Sounds like you're basically scared of change, which is normal. I suspect we all are but some hide it better than others. You will get used to it all, although your dad will probably never get over the guilt thing. That's something maybe you can all sit down and discuss once you're more in the swing of it.🙂

I hope we can make it less scary for you, or at least show you how to face the fear.

Rob
 
KerryElizabeth said:
So you think if I talk to them about it and explain everything clearly, it should be okay to continue working there? I'd hate for them to fire me because of it... I need to work there for my college course.
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They would prob need to do a risk assesment. Maybe you can get yoru college to help them.

Rob
 
Thank you for the idea. I hadn't actually thought of asking the college to talk to them. I'll talk to them about it on Friday when I next go in.

I really do hope dad gets over the guilt. It makes me feel guilty for causing him the guilt to be honest... Although I know there's nothing I can do about it.
 
KerryElizabeth said:
Thank you for the idea. I hadn't actually thought of asking the college to talk to them. I'll talk to them about it on Friday when I next go in.

I really do hope dad gets over the guilt. It makes me feel guilty for causing him the guilt to be honest... Although I know there's nothing I can do about it.
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I think my dad still feels some guilt after 30 odd years 🙄

I would if my daughter developed it. It's what dad's do.😱

Explain the genetics of it to him. If anything there'll be someone several generations back you can all blame who mutated the genes.:D

Rob
 
He actually blames my mother for it, because my doctor warned me that it could have been stress that brought it on early, and my mum left us in December and has been causing problems for us ever since... So he blamed her. I dunno.
 
Sorry to hear your homelife's a bit poo.:(

It's just luck of the draw when you develop it. Can be a number of factors involved.

I hope your dad can see that it's not anyone's fault and happens to the best of us.

Rob
 
I think he's just trying to blame someone other than himself (since it's his family that have Type 1).

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger though, so homelife being a bit poo might be a good thing lol
 
KerryElizabeth said:
I think he's just trying to blame someone other than himself (since it's his family that have Type 1).

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger though, so homelife being a bit poo might be a good thing lol
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Good attitude ! 🙂

Probably genes from both sides come together to give us all the magic bullet. Either way, you're in the club and can enjoy all the benefits.:D

Rob
 
Hi & Welcome Kerry Elizabeth.

Just one more thought - farm work is usually pretty physically demanding to some extent, so make sure you always have sweets in your pockets (out of muzzle reach of animals!) - initially you may not need it, but as your insulin doses come to match your requirements more closely, you will need them, as you work out how to match insulin doses with food / activity / weather etc, and even years after my diagnosis, I still need occasional sweets, from my pockets, if our ducks at home are unexpectedly awkward about getting into their house at night, or sheep / cattle at work escape etc.
 
Big BENIFIT your now part of this forum that will be one of the best choices you have made
 
Hi Kerry, your post reminded me so much of when I was diagnosed, I was 16, just started my AS levels and I was really shy too, not to mention the needle phobia! My Dad had to give me my insulin for the first 3 months, then, when I started myself things got easier and I felt I had more control.

Don't worry about running high still, it is very early days, and it is best to bring your sugar levels down gently. When you are on 4 injections a day you should ask to be taught how to carb count because it gives you back the flexibility you had with food. Don't forget that the odd treat is ok though, we all need one from time to time.

There are some benefits of having diabetes, it has given me a new group of friends, I have got involved in research (not trials or anything - just meetings to advise researchers of what patients actually want), and as a result, I am a new, more confident person for having diabetes. I hope everything goes well x
 
Hi there

Another welcome 🙂

I was diagnosed in my early 20s, just a few years older than you and I can remember the feeling of, "Oh. Things aren't going to be the same again are they...". Having said that D has never stopped me from doing anything I wanted to. You just have to do a bit of working-around to accommodate it - at times it can be a bit like living with a cantankerous and slightly barmy elderly relative! :D

Just take it steady in the early days and don't struggle to get down to 'normal' numbers straight away. What I wish I'd realised much earlier is that 'smoothness' in your BG numbers is almost as important as the numbers themselves. The ups and downs of the gluco-coaster make you feel rubbish and don't do your body any good at all. In fact, some of the damage that can be caused to the back of the eye is worse if levels are fluctuating 3 - 20 than if they stay at 20 constantly for ages!!

Stick around and ask any questions that crop up. Nothing will be thought of as silly.
 
Thank you very much for all of your support. I'm feeling a little better already. I definitely have the feeling of "nothing's going to be the same again" at the moment and am struggling mostly with that kind of thing, I think.

Another thing that's been really difficult is my dad's mentally disabled and isn't able to look after me properly. He doesn't go shopping for proper food or anything so just gives us money for take aways every day, which obviously isn't good for my blood sugar levels, but when I try and talk to him about this he screams at me for not "allowing him to be ill". I just don't know what to do. There's nothing I can do, so I feel like I either have to shut up and let me health diminish or have an argument with my dad every day.

It's not helping.
 
KerryElizabeth said:
Thank you very much for all of your support. I'm feeling a little better already. I definitely have the feeling of "nothing's going to be the same again" at the moment and am struggling mostly with that kind of thing, I think.

Another thing that's been really difficult is my dad's mentally disabled and isn't able to look after me properly. He doesn't go shopping for proper food or anything so just gives us money for take aways every day, which obviously isn't good for my blood sugar levels, but when I try and talk to him about this he screams at me for not "allowing him to be ill". I just don't know what to do. There's nothing I can do, so I feel like I either have to shut up and let me health diminish or have an argument with my dad every day.

It's not helping.
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I've absolutely no idea what I'm talking about but...

Could you get in touch with maybe citizens advice and askthem if you're entitled to some help. I'm guessing your dad is receiving some sort of treatment ?

Rob
 
Btw we do have members who have in depth knowledge of the MH system, so maybe they can pop on and advise when they're able.

Or you culd start a new topic if you feel able.

Rob
 
You're right, frequent takeaways are not very good for your blood sugars as they contain a lot of bad fats, salt and sugar. Do you cook at all? It's much better if you know exactly what is going into your food, as when you begin carb counting you'll need a fairly accurate knowledge of the amount of carbohydrate in your food so you know how much insulin you need. I'd recommend getting hold of a book about the GL Diet - this is a way of creating meals that will have a smooth and stable effect on your blood sugar levels. The GL Diet for Dummies is a good introduction.

So if your dad gives you money for food then you can shop fr yourself and get more appropriate, healthy things to eat. I would also recommend speaking to your diabetes nurse and explaining about the problems at home. They are usually very good listeners and hopefully will be able to help find a solution for you 🙂
 
Hi Kerry,
Welcome to the forum; does your dad receive any help from a mental health team? or do you have any other family you can talk to? The one thing about this forum is you're never alone;.. Amanda x 🙂
 
He does receive help from a mental health team but unfortunately he's not getting any better. He's getting worse. He's literally just this second attempted to commit suicide - he tried to overdose. His girlfriend had to wrestle them out of his hand. He can't afford proper food, apparently, so he's not going to give me any money for shopping. If he did I'd have no problem shopping and cooking for myself!

My mum isn't around anymore and everyone else is on my dad's side and thinks I'm being selfish... I really don't know what to do. I'm entitled to DLA but I can't get it until I've been diagnosed for over three months and my dad said he'd take all of it for the cost of the bills and such for living in the house. I really just don't know what to do.
 
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