Cheers for the motivation I'm obviously putting the wheels in motion for change and hope to seriously bring It down , When you started with metformin did you suffer from side effects I seem to be getting stomach cramp and toilet trips !
It's fairly common when you start with Met. Most often, it calms down after a little while, and if you're not on it already, there's a slow release version which is usually better tolerated.
T2D is a pain in the butt, but with a little bit of focus it's often possible to get it tamed pretty quickly - say a few months. I went from 89 to the 30's in about 6 months, and there are plenty of people around here who seem to have done the same kind of thing, faster.
For me, the main thing was losing some weight, even though I wasn't particularly overweight to start with. If you lose enough, it can clear fat from your pancreas and liver, which can allow your pancreas to work better while reducing insulin resistance, a big factor for T2D.
Working out what to do about carbs is also important, but personally I think there's a lot of woo around about carbs. For me, it was a matter of cutting out obvious c**p, temporarily reducing fruit portion sizes until I had things under better control, and the same kind of thing with grains. But completely ditching fruit and other good carbs in favour of eg bacon and other meaty things makes zero sense to me.
T2D is essentially a cardiovascular condition and whatever you do in the long term, focusing on heart and artery health is at least as important as focusing on BG. In the short term, the best advice is eat-to-your-meter. Work out what effects your BG the most, ~2 hours after eating, and adjust accordingly. Remember, everybody's different when it comes to carbs, and whatever little BG rules people come up with about never eating this or always eating that, it may or may not apply to you.
Again, keep things in perspective: plenty of non-diabetics can be well above 9 after eating, and the most important single metric is your average level as reflected in your HbA1c, not the intra-day peaks and troughs, so long as they are not way out of line.
These days I'm not particularly carb restricted - regularly eating 250g+ per day - and my last HbA1c a few weeks ago was 27. That's just me, but it shows why I'm dubious about people saying that ultra-low-carb is the only way to go.