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IMPORTANT - Inappropriate advice and reporting posts

Bea48

New Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
This is my second post since I registered on the site. In fact I had forgotten I was signed up!
It's my birthday today and I received a card from DUK today with a three tier birthday cake on it!!!!
Hello - a cake? Could it not have been something less sugary... I find it amazing that the marketing people think it's ok to send out a picture of a cake on a diabetes web site. Whilst I appreciate it's nice to have a congratulatory card, the subject picture needs to be given more appropriate thought imo.
 

HOBIE

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
I agree Bea48. I too hate cake & sugar. I would rather have a stick of celery :D
 

Northerner

Admin (Retired)
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
This is my second post since I registered on the site. In fact I had forgotten I was signed up!
It's my birthday today and I received a card from DUK today with a three tier birthday cake on it!!!!
Hello - a cake? Could it not have been something less sugary... I find it amazing that the marketing people think it's ok to send out a picture of a cake on a diabetes web site. Whilst I appreciate it's nice to have a congratulatory card, the subject picture needs to be given more appropriate thought imo.
I will let the people responsible know @Bea48 :) Happy birthday! :)
 

Ditto

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
How come I never get a card! ::umbridged::

:D Many happy returns!
 

robert@fm

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2

Ditsy daisy

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
We have had a few occasions recently where a conflict has occurred because of inappropriate advice being given, particularly when given to new members. I just wanted to make clear that the approach to dealing with these posts is to use the Report option so that the Moderators can be alerted to them and act accordingly - we get a red flag on our screens and this can then take us directly to the post in question, plus your reasons for reporting it, so we can act on it. Confronting members giving the advice in the thread can lead to unhelpful conflict that the new member will certainly not wish to see on their thread and leave a tangle of posts for the Moderators to sort out, or if that can't be done sensibly, the thread closed - which is the last thing we want to see.

What do I mean about 'inappropriate advice'? This is advice that seeks to instantly pitch the new member into some drastic dietary or lifestyle changes that may simply upset or worry them more and leave them even more confused than they were before they posted. There are, of course, many strategies for managing diabetes, particularly Type 2, but our approach here should always be to reassure the new member and provide them with information and strategies that will help them understand how diabetes affects them personally and guide them to sustainable management of their condition. It's a bit of a cliché, but diabetes really is a marathon, not a sprint - there is no point in going off hell for leather for the first 'mile' and then collapsing in a heap with 25 miles left to go because no-one explained how to train yourself properly to manage the whole distance.

We are not against diets such as LCHF and Atkins (for example) by any means - they have proven extremely successful for a lot of people - but they are not the only solution, nor are they necessary for a lot of people. I appreciate that some people may have instantly turned to radical changes and found it worked very well for them, but until you know much more about your audience, you should not assume it will work for them - and may possibly be dangerous, since you can't possibly know what other issues a person may have.

The Moderators will assess and act on any reported posts, however well-meaning they are intended to be (and I know that the majority are only posted with the best of intentions).

This is a good community, and it is important that all members do their best to keep it friendly, informative and supportive, thank you :)

I'm not feeling good today depressed, excessively tired having sleep problems and diabetes is still not in control. Don't know why. I've been feeling like this alot lately. I have schizophrenia and type 1 diabetes and came on here in desperation for some advice and companionship with other diabetics and to help people in return. I can't help being almost positive this post is aimed at me as one of my posts was taken down and it said it's been discussed too many times but I think that they didn't mean that they probably mean it's inappropriate. I was only trying to help i worded my posts as carefully as i could as I understand that it may not work for other people. Now I'm really upset and depressed and feel like getting off here because I don't understand what I've done wrong. Plus I get the feeling sometimes that people are probably misunderstanding me and there's so much information coming at me i feel overwhelmed. I'm sorry to say all that but I'm not sure what this site is about i don't understand really. ditsy daisy
 

Northerner

Admin (Retired)
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
I'm not feeling good today depressed, excessively tired having sleep problems and diabetes is still not in control. Don't know why. I've been feeling like this alot lately. I have schizophrenia and type 1 diabetes and came on here in desperation for some advice and companionship with other diabetics and to help people in return. I can't help being almost positive this post is aimed at me as one of my posts was taken down and it said it's been discussed too many times but I think that they didn't mean that they probably mean it's inappropriate. I was only trying to help i worded my posts as carefully as i could as I understand that it may not work for other people. Now I'm really upset and depressed and feel like getting off here because I don't understand what I've done wrong. Plus I get the feeling sometimes that people are probably misunderstanding me and there's so much information coming at me i feel overwhelmed. I'm sorry to say all that but I'm not sure what this site is about i don't understand really. ditsy daisy
Hey @Ditsy daisy, please don't feel that way. The post isn't 'aimed' at anyone, it's just a gentle reminder for people who are perhaps unsure of how forums work, not a criticism of anyone, and was written long ago for a bit of guidance :)
 

Ditsy daisy

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
Hey @Ditsy daisy, please don't feel that way. The post isn't 'aimed' at anyone, it's just a gentle reminder for people who are perhaps unsure of how forums work, not a criticism of anyone, and was written long ago for a bit of guidance :)

Ok sorry I misunderstood I get very delusional and paranoid aswell so it's confusing. But I'm still unsure how everything works on here what are we allowed to say and not allowed to say. It's a bit confusing. Maybe i can't take it all in at the moment. I kind of know what you are saying about to be polite and kind to everyone and respecting everyone on here but Im worried I'm going to say something wrong everytime I write something incase I hurt someone or they misunderstand. Maybe I'm just worried too much. Oh dear I'm so tired.
 

Ralph-YK

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2

SB2015

Forum Host
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
Ok sorry I misunderstood I get very delusional and paranoid aswell so it's confusing. But I'm still unsure how everything works on here what are we allowed to say and not allowed to say. It's a bit confusing. Maybe i can't take it all in at the moment. I kind of know what you are saying about to be polite and kind to everyone and respecting everyone on here but Im worried I'm going to say something wrong everytime I write something incase I hurt someone or they misunderstand. Maybe I'm just worried too much. Oh dear I'm so tired.
Don’t worry. The moderators are there to keep a watch and if there are any problems they will help out.
Keep in touch and ask any questions that you have.
 

SueEK

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
Hi @Ditsy daisy , please don’t come off the site you have made some good contributions. I think we are all aware that it is easy for some posts to come across in a way we didn’t intend, I have done this myself more than once and thought oh dear that sounds a bit abrupt or harsh. That is the downside of texting our replies rather than talking to someone.
I’m sorry you are feeling low and if I may say that is probably making you feel more sensitive. As you know everyone is lovely and cares about each other and that includes you. Take good care of yourself and keep posting xxx
 

Ditsy daisy

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
Aww Thanks so much for everyone's comments. much appreciated. It is a good site this is. I feel much more positive about things now and actually I feel very inspired now I'm thinking maybe I'll set up something in real life for people in general to vent their feelings. Just as extra support for people. I live in south wales area and just got involved in a special volunteering project. I hope I can do it through them. Let's see what happens but I hope something comes of it. Love really does make the world go round!☺❤
 

TheClockworkDodo

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
@Ditsy daisy - apologies if my posts about green tea the other day made you feel as if I was getting at you - they weren't intended that way, they were as much a warning to you as to anyone else (and I imagine the last thing you want with schizophrenia and paranoia is to drink something which could cause confusion and hallucinations).

I'm glad you are going to stay on the forum, and please do keep posting. We all make mistakes - no-one will mind if you accidentally say something wrong, we've all been there and done that. We are all here to learn, and we are all here to support each other
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Good luck with your volunteering project :)
 

Ditsy daisy

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
Thankyou for your kind words. No need to say sorry I was fine with your post about the green tea. ☺ yes we are all here to support eachother I'm going to stay on here now and I will keep posting. Keep posting too you are a great support to people on here and you've said really good things Juliet x❤
 
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
But quite a lot of new members don't follow the forum before posting with Help me? do they Robert? and I for one can't blame them - they feel helpless and see the forum might be able to assist them. Good - cos it can and will.

However it is perfectly true that not everyone (and I'm perfectly sure I'm in there too) starts off by saying eg Dunno if this might help, but it helped me - blah blah - or even when I'm addressing a specifically T2 'thing' - Dunno etc - but lots of folk on here say it helped them, so perhaps it could help you too - blah blah.
agree. I haven’t a clue as I’ve had no appointments etc so glad of any help.
 

trophywench

Well-Known Member
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 1
Good - glad the forum is helping you - which is what it's intended to do!

Hopefully Keith you're a tad less clueless.
 
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
I'm not feeling good today depressed, excessively tired having sleep problems and diabetes is still not in control. Don't know why. I've been feeling like this alot lately. I have schizophrenia and type 1 diabetes and came on here in desperation for some advice and companionship with other diabetics and to help people in return. I can't help being almost positive this post is aimed at me as one of my posts was taken down and it said it's been discussed too many times but I think that they didn't mean that they probably mean it's inappropriate. I was only trying to help i worded my posts as carefully as i could as I understand that it may not work for other people. Now I'm really upset and depressed and feel like getting off here because I don't understand what I've done wrong. Plus I get the feeling sometimes that people are probably misunderstanding me and there's so much information coming at me i feel overwhelmed. I'm sorry to say all that but I'm not sure what this site is about i don't understand really. ditsy daisy
Hang in there.now. All good
 
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