Springdaffodil
New Member
- Relationship to Diabetes
- Carer/Partner
Hi, my husband is type 1. He was diagnosed 5 years ago at the age of 40.
He feels very bitter about it although does just get on with it.
The last five years he has had terrible mood swings which I am getting sick to death of now. He rants as raves at the children and me usually straight after a meal. Everything annoys him. The way the children hold their cutlery to which spoon I use when making dinner.
He lets his blood sugar get low before his meal and will not just have a small biscuit or a grape or anything to keep him going whilst dinner is cooking so he is in a jolly mood then almost like he is drunk.
My main concern is his driving. I know he sometimes drives when he has blood sugar between 3 and 4. He says he is fine but he starts sweating and opening windows. I am terrified. This is also illegal. Or I can spot him getting low blood sugar and ask him not to drive but he says he knows himself best. I am usually right though as he hides his monitor from me so I cannot see the reading when he does eventually take his blood.
I have asked him to enquire about getting the freestyle monitor but he refuses. I have asked him to come to counselling with me again he refuses. I don’t really know what else to do.
I am on the verge of leaving him as I am on eggshells and sick of his moodiness which he is unwilling to discuss or try and improve.
I have been more than patient and I do sympathise. He has also refused the Covid vaccine which is his choice.
Anyway. I am worried if I did leave him is he safe to look after our children on his own if he lets his blood sugar drop to below 4. I have seen how it impairs his thinking. Half the reason I haven’t left is because I am worried about the children being yelled at when I am not there as peacemaker.
please don’t think me as being harsh. I am not. Just sick of being picked on. We have been together for nearly 30 years so it is a very difficult situation. I am currently seeing a relate counsellor on my own as he refuses to join me.
He feels very bitter about it although does just get on with it.
The last five years he has had terrible mood swings which I am getting sick to death of now. He rants as raves at the children and me usually straight after a meal. Everything annoys him. The way the children hold their cutlery to which spoon I use when making dinner.
He lets his blood sugar get low before his meal and will not just have a small biscuit or a grape or anything to keep him going whilst dinner is cooking so he is in a jolly mood then almost like he is drunk.
My main concern is his driving. I know he sometimes drives when he has blood sugar between 3 and 4. He says he is fine but he starts sweating and opening windows. I am terrified. This is also illegal. Or I can spot him getting low blood sugar and ask him not to drive but he says he knows himself best. I am usually right though as he hides his monitor from me so I cannot see the reading when he does eventually take his blood.
I have asked him to enquire about getting the freestyle monitor but he refuses. I have asked him to come to counselling with me again he refuses. I don’t really know what else to do.
I am on the verge of leaving him as I am on eggshells and sick of his moodiness which he is unwilling to discuss or try and improve.
I have been more than patient and I do sympathise. He has also refused the Covid vaccine which is his choice.
Anyway. I am worried if I did leave him is he safe to look after our children on his own if he lets his blood sugar drop to below 4. I have seen how it impairs his thinking. Half the reason I haven’t left is because I am worried about the children being yelled at when I am not there as peacemaker.
please don’t think me as being harsh. I am not. Just sick of being picked on. We have been together for nearly 30 years so it is a very difficult situation. I am currently seeing a relate counsellor on my own as he refuses to join me.