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Had such a bad day

Did you leave a child alone? How did you realise your mistake and how did you remedy it? How have your employers responded? Sometimes a mistake has consequences. You've described it as a huge mistake but on your posts I have seen you always start off pessimistic and things have always turned out better than you think. If you are in the right frame of mind it would be a good idea to work out how the day went and write it down. Did your diabetes have an effect? I'm not type 1 but have seen people write about hypos etc and I don't know if it can cause confusion. Diabetes UK do have advisors. You say " huge" have your employers taken any action? Are you a member of a union?

The reason I suggest writing something down is if at a later stage you need to explain you can refresh your memory from notes you made whilst events were fresh in your memory. Signing and dating them is good too.

Or you could do something anything which would make you feel better. My choices would be having a warm bath or listening to music. Crying can make you feel better but usually in short bursts. You care about your job and the children so it would be normal to feel upset.
 
saffron15 said:
Did you leave a child alone? How did you realise your mistake and how did you remedy it? How have your employers responded? Sometimes a mistake has consequences. You've described it as a huge mistake but on your posts I have seen you always start off pessimistic and things have always turned out better than you think. If you are in the right frame of mind it would be a good idea to work out how the day went and write it down. Did your diabetes have an effect? I'm not type 1 but have seen people write about hypos etc and I don't know if it can cause confusion. Diabetes UK do have advisors. You say " huge" have your employers taken any action? Are you a member of a union?

The reason I suggest writing something down is if at a later stage you need to explain you can refresh your memory from notes you made whilst events were fresh in your memory. Signing and dating them is good too.

Or you could do something anything which would make you feel better. My choices would be having a warm bath or listening to music. Crying can make you feel better but usually in short bursts. You care about your job and the children so it would be normal to feel upset.
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The child's mum got a phone call from school my co worker things I will get a disciplinary x
 
I'm a retired lawyer but have never worked as an employment lawyer. If there is a disciplinary meeting you would be allowed a friend there although people you work with may be reluctant. Disciplinary doesn't mean end of job but needs to be treated seriously. Do make notes of what happened. There may be an obvious reason for the mistake. It may be partly your mistake or it may be the procedures for making sure children aren't missed wasn't good enough or wasn't followed. In other words you shouldn't have missed the child but your employers need to change the way things are managed. After all one of our Prime ministers left his young daughter in a pub.
It looks like everyone's actions need to be looked at if a young child was missed.
Hope things work out.
 
I did some volunteer work with children some time ago now, but a hand over was a two person job. At the change over times the children were regrouped, two people had a copy of the list and both had to check and agree that the new groups were complete.
It is odd that there was no similar system in place at the school - which seems rather strange when security is taken a lot more seriously.
It seems no harm was done but that it was an accident waiting to happen.
Hopefully some good will come of it, with a better system than just one person with a list with no additional check.
 
corriefan said:
Thank you not sure I can go in tomorrow I will be devastated getting disciplinary
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Why? Dispilinary is a warning. Sounds like it’s fair to get a warning for this. You’ll have learnt from it and not do it again and everyone moves on. If you carry on doing it you’ll get fired, that’s all a disciplinary is.
 
Hope things go OK for you today @corriefan and that you were able to write down your recollection of what happened, what led up to it, who was there, and what you did afterwards.
 
Unless you are not fit to go in ie sick you need to get yourself in the right frame to go in. It will not go away. If you like working there and you were pleased you weren't made redundant you want to be able to explain what happened. It may well be as a result your employers are able to improve their procedures and you will have helped your colleagues.
 
As a parent, I’d be pretty mad if my child got missed out like that by people who were supposed to be caring for her. Although you don’t specify exactly what happened.
On the other side, I work in a primary school and know how tough it can be looking after little ones. I got a disciplinary once for saying things that I really shouldn’t have to a bolshie 10-year-old. As soon as the words were out of my mouth I knew I’d gone too far. It was pretty horrible at the time, but I learned a lot from it and can now recognise when I’m not in a good frame of mind and I ask to swap places with someone if I think I need to. So it’s unlikely to happen again and nobody mentions it. You need to be there to put your case forward, as others have said, maybe there are procedural improvements that can be made. Then make absolutely sure you never repeat the mistake and hopefully all will be well.
 
You are only human, we all make mistakes, and mistakes are important and can be useful if they have a good outcome, a fix.

Be brave and go in. Things in our mind tend to be worst that reality.

Sounds like the process is as much as fault as you. Buckle up and get back there.
 
corriefan said:
I can't stop crying at what a bad working week I'm having feeling so depressed can't eat,have a a bath ,not taking all medicine I just feel so low so upset have no idea what to do at all I'm In such a dark place it is scary
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If you can’t get yourself out of this dark place, you need to phone your GP and make an urgent appointment. If you feel really bad, you can - and should - access emergency MH care.

You need to eat and wash. You’ll feel worse if you don’t. You don’t need to eat a proper meal but you do need to eat. Try to reframe your week: you made a mistake. You could have been fired but you haven’t been - that’s positive. You’re having a disciplinary. That’s ok. Speak to your union if you’re in one. Admit your mistake and, importantly, explain what you will do in future to stop it happening again - actual physical steps, eg checking each child by name, counting the children on your list, checking at points X, Y and Z, etc.

As for the colleague, think about what you said. Does the colleague have a valid point? If so, speak to your manager and apologise and explain. If she doesn’t have a valid point, then ignore her but get your side of the story ready in your head in case you’re asked.

You can’t change the things that have happened this week, but you can change how you’re reacting to them. Concentrate on calming yourself - meditate, listen to meditation, do deep breathing, and, again, seek further professional medical/MH support if you need it. You’ll be ok xx
 
Inka said:
If you can’t get yourself out of this dark place, you need to phone your GP and make an urgent appointment. If you feel really bad, you can - and should - access emergency MH care.

You need to eat and wash. You’ll feel worse if you don’t. You don’t need to eat a proper meal but you do need to eat. Try to reframe your week: you made a mistake. You could have been fired but you haven’t been - that’s positive. You’re having a disciplinary. That’s ok. Speak to your union if you’re in one. Admit your mistake and, importantly, explain what you will do in future to stop it happening again - actual physical steps, eg checking each child by name, counting the children on your list, checking at points X, Y and Z, etc.

As for the colleague, think about what you said. Does the colleague have a valid point? If so, speak to your manager and apologise and explain. If she doesn’t have a valid point, then ignore her but get your side of the story ready in your head in case you’re asked.

You can’t change the things that have happened this week, but you can change how you’re reacting to them. Concentrate on calming yourself - meditate, listen to meditation, do deep breathing, and, again, seek further professional medical/MH support if you need it. You’ll be ok xx
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Thank you I didn't get a disciplinary x
 
Hello how do you manage toye Type 1 i was Diagnosed back in 2003 and every Day I feel Ill I have an UnderactivThyroid and all it seems i am doing is Moaning because some hea;th care professions not teh Diabetes people but others make thinks worse for me my gluose drop rel low like 1.9 I have had enogh there is a really nice moderator on here she helped me a lot, hope you are ok
 
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