Barfly
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- Relationship to Diabetes
- Type 2
7.3 today. Bit murky out there, I can see one little patch of blue out of the window, 12deg atm in Poole high of 14expected.
Looking after our granddaughter for a couple of days, mum and dad off to Devon for an anniversary break.
Going to be challenging, she does not like going to school and it normally takes a couple of hours for her dad to get her ready for school. Half an hour to get her to put her shoes on is normal. PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) is part of autism and the best way to describe it is like this. You open the door as the cat is meowing next to it. You get off your sofa and open the door. The cat looks at you and jumps into your warm seat. That's Abby. She will think of 10 different reasons why not to put her shoes on/brush her teeth/put her coat on etc. Taking 10 times the effort required than to just do that simple task.
Not her fault, it's hard wired into her brain. It is just so, so wearing, it get you down and wears you down to the point of exhaustion.
If she doesn't get her own way-watch out-a meltdown is in the offing, full on screaming and "I hate you grandad/mummy/daddy" "leave me alone" which is all you can do until she calms down.
Unlike most on the spectrum, she is able to dissemble and lie barefaced to you. She is super manipulative and is able to wind her grandmother, the lovely Jane, round her little finger. She can barely add 2 and 2 but knows instinctively which adult is the weakest and will manipulate that adult to get what she wants. She runs rings around her teachers who do not even realize they are being manipulated, they mean well and all at the mainstream school she attends are lovely, but they are totally clueless when it comes to dealing with Abby. She has her EHCP and a full-time teacher's aide, but she is 2-3 years behind her peer group except for English. She will be 9 next month.
Sorry about this but just needed to get the years of frustration off my chest.
Looking after our granddaughter for a couple of days, mum and dad off to Devon for an anniversary break.
Going to be challenging, she does not like going to school and it normally takes a couple of hours for her dad to get her ready for school. Half an hour to get her to put her shoes on is normal. PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) is part of autism and the best way to describe it is like this. You open the door as the cat is meowing next to it. You get off your sofa and open the door. The cat looks at you and jumps into your warm seat. That's Abby. She will think of 10 different reasons why not to put her shoes on/brush her teeth/put her coat on etc. Taking 10 times the effort required than to just do that simple task.
Not her fault, it's hard wired into her brain. It is just so, so wearing, it get you down and wears you down to the point of exhaustion.
If she doesn't get her own way-watch out-a meltdown is in the offing, full on screaming and "I hate you grandad/mummy/daddy" "leave me alone" which is all you can do until she calms down.
Unlike most on the spectrum, she is able to dissemble and lie barefaced to you. She is super manipulative and is able to wind her grandmother, the lovely Jane, round her little finger. She can barely add 2 and 2 but knows instinctively which adult is the weakest and will manipulate that adult to get what she wants. She runs rings around her teachers who do not even realize they are being manipulated, they mean well and all at the mainstream school she attends are lovely, but they are totally clueless when it comes to dealing with Abby. She has her EHCP and a full-time teacher's aide, but she is 2-3 years behind her peer group except for English. She will be 9 next month.
Sorry about this but just needed to get the years of frustration off my chest.
