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Very sad news

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Thanks it took a lot of doing but at least I did and I am so glad I did. Actually I am quite proud of myself, on the quiet
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Oh my goodness 'spiritfree', its such a hard thing to witness after years of seeing our parents be so independant and caring that the roles then have to be reversed.

I lost my Dad last tues and he'd been diagnosed with terminal illness only 4weeks before, no symptoms, no pain even at the end. I haven't been on here since dx and this is the first time I've visited back here and I then read the heartache you have experienced today. I completely understand your feelings, emotions and pain as I was there just over a week ago...please feel free to PM me if you need to vent about the anger, stress, guilt, sadness you may feel.

I was feeling sad today, Dad was so happy I was starting on a pump in March and following my barriers with diabetes, he was so so proud of me and my pump, he'll now never se me with it. My Dad was my cornerstone of my life and I am slowly crumbling away.

I too was with my Dad when he passed, he also didn't look like my Dad, his eyes went almost soul-less even though still breathing but then slowly that was almost non-existent. I have been told that eventually the sad and last images of a loved one, eventually get forgotten leaving only the fun and happy times which we remember.

I haven't had time to grieve, with organising his funeral(thur) and I feel I am on auto-pilot, I am dreading the day I come to a grinding halt as I'm sure that is when the heartache becomes a realisation.

Take care of yourself, rely on others around who offer help(everyone says they'll help...use them!) and keep a close eye on your immediate family for those not coping.

Much love and hugs to you and all your family, I feel your raw pain and loss to the core,
Susie
xxx
 
Condolences to both your families.

Suze, almost ditto when my own Dad died, years ago now, but I pushed the grief down to deal with the arrangements. Never even shed a tear at his funeral. One day I was accidentally totally winded, and I sat on the floor trying to make myself cry, you know how much that hurts if you've ever had it happen. I simply couldn't cry. Over 6 months later someone at work (who I got on with really well) had a totally uncharacteristic and unprovoked rant at me.

I was so upset I just walked out of the office and started for home still on auto-pilot. Halfway along the A456 I was crying so much I had to stop the car and sobbed my heart out for over half an hour sat in a lay-by.

I was alright after that, and did recover my equilibrium fairly swiftly, but it shook me.

{{{Hugs}}} all round. Will be thinking of you in the coming days.
 
Thank you all so much for your kindness. I am coping quite well. I keep thinking oh I must tell mom this and that and then remembering I can't. Although I am upset, life has to go on. I am so lucky to have 2 fantastic little grandsons, who live in the same village as me, and another baby grandson due in June. These little boys are my pride and joy. They give me the will to get on with life, even though it is very hard at the moment. Thank you all again.
 
Sincere condolences to both of you. I think it must be very hard to handle when it all happens so suddenly. My dear dad died almost 12 years ago but had cancer for over 3 years so we did have time to come to terms with it before it actually happened. That is the only positive thing to say about that. His passing was a blessed relief in the end and it took a good while for the final days to not dominate my thoughts and visual memories.

Now, thankfully, I can look back on much happier times with a smile on my face and remember good old dad as he truly was, not how he was those last few weeks.

These next few weeks are going to be tough for both of you. Take care of yourselves, take time to grieve and don't be afraid to let go of those emotions. Take all the comfort and support you can from friends and family right now. With time you will be able to smile again and remember happier times.

Thinking of you both.


Tina xx

PS Spiritfree, Big pat on the back for going in the end, I know it was a tough decision for you, but it was the right one, and that's all that matters. You should be proud of yourself, it really was a hard thing to do, but you did it. Well done. x
 
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So sorry to hear about you losing your mum Spirit. I too lost my dad in recent years, so know what you are going through. Well done for being brave at the end and spending your mum's last minutes with her. You will be really glad you were able to do that - I know I was. It's hard to deal with the loss of a parent, but in time you will be able to remember all the good times. It's great that you have your grandchildren (and a new one on the way) to help you through this time. My thoughts are with you. Hugs {{{{}}}} Katiexx
 
My condolences to both of you. Cherish your memories. you are in my prayers xx
 
My condolences to both of you.
Thinking of you both at this sad time.
 
Hi Spirit

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this really sad time.

Take care

Andy x
 
My deepest condolences to both of you.. I will keep you in my thoughts xxx
 
I am so sad for you and the family.
I hope these words will help you. They are from a sympathy card that I received recently.
"Please do not be unhappy because I am out of sight.
Remember I am with you every morning noon and night".
Take care. xx
 
Very sorry to hear about your Mum, spiritfree, my sincere condolences to you and your family.
 
spiritfree,

So sorry to hear about the very sad loss of your mom. My thoughts are with you and your relatives and friends.

I lost my Dad 13 years ago he was 82. My Mum died 19 years ago she was 62.

Things will get much easier for you.

We're all on the forum here for you xx
 
Sending you thoughts and prayers on your loss. Stay strong and remember the good times.
 
My sincere thoughts to you Spiritfree I know exactly what this experience is like. The days ahead will be busy and somehow you will find strength to cope, just remember everyone is here for you when the busy days pass and quietness surrounds you, this is when you really need support from close friends.

My words can't express how much I feel for anyone going through a time like this. I miss my mum so much
 
So sorry to hear your news Spirit, my condolences to you and your family xxx
 
sorry to hear of your loss you are in my thoughts and prayers
 
Very sorry for your loss, remember the good times.
 
I'm really sorry to hear of your sad loss. I lost my Dad 3 years ago so know what you are going through, I too was with him at the end and am glad I was. Thinking of you.
 
So sorry for your loss Spiritfree amd HyperSue my thought are with you both. I lost my mum at the end of October last year you both have a couple of hard weeks ahead of you but things do get a little easier and you are then left with lovely memories.
 
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This afternoon at 1.50 mom died. She put up a hard fight but was to ill. I was holding her hand and both of my sisters were also there. It was so sad. It didn't even look like her. I really don't know how I feel at the moment, just numb. Please say a prayer for her tonight.
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Please accept my heartfelt condolences. A prayer has been said for your dear mum and you and your family. Please take care and god bless. Sheena and family
 
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