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Too much to take in & too many questions.

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cakemaker

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I realy don't know where to start.
My husband was diagnosed a couple of months ago with type 2 Diabetes. There is so much information it's hard to take it all in.
I've been reading other threads and although some of my questions have been answered they throw up so many more.

One area we know little about is the blood counts and testing that many of you talk about. It does seem to be a good idea.
Our doctor basically gave my husband a prescription for Metformin and high blood pressure and was told to have some blood tests at intervals for the next few months to monitor the dose.

My husband says that he doesn't realy feel much better than before and in fact feels worse at times.
How long does it normally take before feeling better or normal again once you start taking medication or is this wishful thinking?
I see that many of you have recurring or ongoing symptoms, is this to be expected?

Our GP is usually very good but it's difficult to know what questions to ask and he hasn't explained what to expect, the long term prognosis, how or if he should look after his feet etc. The GP gave us a list of foods to eat and those to avoid and a simple menu plan but it didn't give ammounts and was quite general. He did say that he would send my husband to a Nutritionist but hasn't to date. We'll have to remind him next visit.
 
It definitely is difficult at first, especially if the levels aren't behaving themselves yet. I can only say for myself but it was a good six months before I felt much more like myself. But I was forcing myself to exercise pretty much every day. Just walking and then a bit later got myself a rowing machine (I do like sitting down exercising!).

As for ongoing symptoms, I do have numbness in my feet and fingers and I don't expect this to ever improve. However, keeping my levels on the level (!) I'm also hopeful that they won't deteriorate either.

I had access to a nutritionist too, but I suspect that they can be a little hit and miss. You need to be on the ball and not just blithely follow their advice regardless. But if you get a good one, I'm sure it will be very useful.

By the way, I also attended a course run by the NHS called Diabetes X-Pert. I found it very useful and because it was within a month of my diagnosis I was put on the right path almost immediately. It's worth looking into. There are other courses available too (DESMOND for example).

Andy 🙂
 
Our GP is usually very good but it's difficult to know what questions to ask and he hasn't explained what to expect, the long term prognosis, how or if he should look after his feet etc. The GP gave us a list of foods to eat and those to avoid and a simple menu plan but it didn't give ammounts and was quite general. He did say that he would send my husband to a Nutritionist but hasn't to date. We'll have to remind him next visit.

Get hold of a free meter and start testing, Steff put a link in another thread somewhere for a free meter and 10 starter strips.

Have you read these ? ...they are a basic starter kit for new T2s ...

http://jennifer.flyingrat.net/

http://www.sequin.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/Downloads/openlet.pdf

http://loraldiabetes.blogspot.com/2006/10/test-review-adjust.html
 
Calemaker - have you looked at the Diabetes UK Website? There is shedloads of info on it and although yes it seems daunting at first, just take little steps, as if you were climbing a hill. Not giant strides.

http://www.diabetes.org.uk/

and click on 'Guide to Diabetes'.

Then ask questions, ask, ask, ask!

I learn something new every day - and I'm quite an old hand now!

This is a marathon - not a sprint.
 
'tis true. You'll also be amazed at how little some of the doctors know.🙄

It does bring into focus how the body is not just a set of parts of a collection of separate systems. It all interracts subtly, and when you do something seemingly harmless, it can cause upset to unrelated parts.

Makes you think twice about that second glass of wine or not taking medication because you feel ok.

Can be scary but can also show how a bit of general maintenance and TLC keeps it running smoothly for years to come.🙂

Rob
 
Thanks for all the info everyone.
I think I'll be reading till Xmas.

Got to remember though CM, you can't be diabetic for your husband - he has to do it for himself.
 
Got to remember though CM, you can't be diabetic for your husband - he has to do it for himself.

Very true.
He has read loads of things about diabetes recently; mostly on the net and in his less than nice moods has accused me of not being interested and not caring etc. so I've decided to try to understand this disease and find practical ways to deal with it and him and who better to come to than those who realy know.

I have said things to him about exercising and pushing himself a bit but he says things like; 'What do you know', 'You don't know how I feel', etc. but now I can quote; 'No I don't but these people do!'

He has been reading what I write and your answers and I think he is taking notice. I asked him earlier if there was anything he would particularly like to ask but he just said that I was to carry on and ask what I think.

My husband had been warned by our GP for some time and we had tried to control it with diet but slipped and went back to normal eating (overeating) several times; mostly Xmas, holidays etc. we also eat out a lot and have friends round for meals and BBQs.

He was finally diagnosed as Diabetic type 2 in March and also High Blood pressure.

I won't go into everything that he has said to me but he was very upset when diagnosed. It was 'All my fault' for feeding him badly for all these years. Too many cakes etc. Although I didn't force feed him. Thankfully I am quite 'thick skinned' and have been married long enough to let what he says go over my head but this disease has caused him to be realy grumpy.

I also worry a bit for myself as I am over 50 and overwight so I think we both need to change our lifestyle and eating habits.
 
Good to hear your husband is reading the boards CM.

Diagnosis is always going to hit hard, even if (either secretly or not so secretly) you have expected it for some time. Here is my poorly remembered experience of hearing 'those words' at a visit to the doctors - Part of you is glad to hear it if you have been feeling grim for a while. At least you know what is wrong. But then you realise that everything is now different. You long to go back to last week, when you could just eat whatever and ignore what you feared might be wrong. It feels unfair. Part of you wants to push against it. To rage-eat just to show it. Part of you wants to work at sorting it out, understanding it and controlling it. Most of you just wishes it would go away. That it hadn't happened.

Unfortunately whe you work through the process, grieving for loss of your former health an food freedom, sometimes you kick back at those close to you. You are in a place where frustration is in great supply.

I hope he manages to work through this tricky time soon, and begin to tackle the D itself.
 
Not sure if it would help, but there are several children, whose parents are members, all of whom cope with injections, testing and all the restrictions that go with diabetes, whether T1 or T2.

Sometimes the self-pity bug can get a hold (I speak from vast experience!🙄) and it needs a bit of perspective to snap out of it.🙂

It may be that diagnosis has saved many of us from ourselves.

Rob
 
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