The trials of a T1 school child

[trophywench]

No that would be a nightmare Northie.

Can you imagine if someone like that was on here?

We'd all be doing it wrong wouldn't we?

My way - or NO way!

When I was diagnosed Sally as a 22 yo married woman with a damn good job - there was a Ward Orderly just like her. She took an instant dislike to me and I to her. And it wasn't me being paranoid cos all the ladies in nearby beds noticed it, had a conversation and complained jointly to the Ward Sister. Without me.

Two days later I said Haven't seen whatever her name was recently and one of the Student nurses told me what had happened. She'd been sacked! Apparently she had a history of it, but they'd never found out about it whilst people were still in hospital and there were suitable witnesses - too scared of her to say much whilst they still had to be in there. She must have really hated me after that! LOL Must admit I kept a weather eye out for her for a while whenever I went into the town!

It DOES make you feel like you are deliberately doing whatever it is only to inconvenience/offend that person. They want you to feel upset and guilty, bullies of the worst sort with not an ounce of compassion or understanding so are not equipped to deal with people. She should be relegated to prep and pot washing NOT the counter.

 

[Sally71]

LOL TW - would love it if she could be demoted to pot washer but sadly kitchen staff and supervision staff are considered completely different jobs so there's no way that will happen

 

[KookyCat]

if she were to continue with that behavior I'd be tempted to have a word with the head and suggest very politely that bullying behavior from staff is not conducive to a supportive school environment, so he or she might want to observe the behavior themselves, not a complaint more of a nod in the direction that a complaint will be coming if something isn't done. Sorry for the American spelling this computer refutes my Englishness!

 

[Sally71]

if she were to continue with that behavior I'd be tempted to have a word with the head and suggest very politely that bullying behavior from staff is not conducive to a supportive school environment, so he or she might want to observe the behavior themselves, not a complaint more of a nod in the direction that a complaint will be coming if something isn't done. Sorry for the American spelling this computer refutes my Englishness!

She's been there for a very long time and her behaviour is nothing new, it's nothing personal against me or my daughter, she's just unpleasant to everyone. She's been hauled up in front of the Headteacher loads of times because of complaints from parents, nobody else ever gets complained about yet she STILL doesn't question her own behaviour, she thinks she's doing her job better than anyone else and that everyone else is ganging up on her for some reason. Then she goes and complains to the union about how she's been unfairly treated!

I don't really know enough about employment law (and school staff are employed by the county council so might be different from a private company). But it seems that unless she does something really bad that counts as gross misconduct then there might not be much they can do. And I doubt she's stupid enough to do anything that bad.

I'm a relief midday supervisor, thankfully I spend most of my time in the infant end of the school so don't have to have much to do with her. But occasionally I have to do a day in the juniors. Once when I hadn't been in the job long I did something that she didn't approve of and she screamed at me across a roomful of children "I TOLD you not to do that!!". Well it might be true that I needed something explaining to me, but that's not the way to do it, is it. And it should be the senior midday's job to tell me if I've made a mistake, not hers. So from that point on I vowed never to speak to her again unless I absolutely have to. Hate is a very strong word, but I've honestly never disliked anyone so much in my life and many other people feel the same. I know I'm not the only adult that she has treated like that either.

Hmmm, so hopefully daughter's current problem is resolved but if this woman does anything else that upsets her I might just see if it's worth taking it further and make sure I drop the word Bully into the conversation! After all, bullying among the children is not tolerated, so why should it be acceptable from an adult. Food for thought, thank you, although there must be a reason why she's still there after so many years of such behaviour

 

[Sally71]

UNBELIEVABLE!

Well I might have let the situation drop there, but daughter came home from school today and said that today the same dinner lady told her friend that she wasn't allowed to take her backpack into the dinner hall. The friend is on the autistic spectrum, in the bag is a music player and headphones which the child uses to help her calm down if she gets anxious. So presumably she must be allowed to take the bag wherever she pleases. The friend had no qualms about telling the senior dinner lady about the incident, and my daughter then overheard her telling the other one off in the playground.

So the same woman has had to be told off twice in two days for picking on children with special needs - WHY is she allowed to keep working there?! Whatever the rules are that keep her employed, they are wrong!!

I might have calmed down a bit in the morning, but I am absolutely FUMING at the moment. I know the other mum a bit and am wondering whether to have a word with her to see if she thinks it's worth joining forces and making an official complaint. (not that that will do much good if previous ones are anything to go by.). I also have a friend who is a parent governor, and who knows much more about this sort of thing than I do, perhaps it's time to meet up for a coffee...

😡😡😡

 

[KookyCat]

Employment law is the same but local authorities tend to be cautious because they don't want to get sued. But if the basis of the complaint is that she discriminates against children with medical/social needs then they'd struggle to ignore that, the only defence would be to say her behaviour is equally unacceptable to all students and then they'd be obliged to deal with that. I'd guess it depends how much of a problem she's causing with the kids as to how far to push it, but I'm fuming on their behalf and ive never met them 😡

 

[Northerner]

She should not be working with children Bully fits the bill to a T 😡

 

[trophywench]

Do it - the mum and the Governor.

School Governors do actually have rather a lot of 'clout'.

Failing which I'll arrange a posse from here, think we'll get plenty enough volunteers .....

The Cow.

 

[Pumper_Sue]

I could do with Pumper Sue to come and sort her out!

🙂

I'm on my way as long as I can hide behind you. 😛
Sounds as if you are handling things just fine (Super Mum )

 

[Sally71]

Thank you all for your comments!

Have been to the in-laws this evening, they reckon I should definitely do something and it will have more effect if I put it in writing. Definitely going to seek out the other mum and my friend tomorrow.

Just got home and found an opened bottle of red wine in the kitchen that I'd forgotten about, hopefully that will act as suitable medicine to calm my nerves