The people around you..

[KindaScared]

oh.... just remembered..... we are not huge present givers at christmas, just token gifts for relatives, like £5-10 gifts

please don't give me family packets of biscuits and tins of quality street!!!! I know I said I would like people to ignore my Db but... socks... give me socks, grrr

 

[Carolg]

If I go to friends for a meal, they all like to feed people but say, “eat what you want, leave what you don’t “ puts the control on to me, often I get asked “do you want ?” Rather than me being given something. My control isn’t great though

 

[Vince_UK]

Talking of Christmas gifts, my Sons family, along with many othe things, gave me the usual boxes of chocs and liqueurs etc. even though he knows that both my ex-wife, his mother, and I are diabetics. I wouldn't dream of making a big fuss. I just take them say "Thanks" and give them away. No big deal
Christmas lunch was HUGE but they didn't give me any mash or pots because they knew it wasn;t good for me. It is never discussed, we just get on with it.
The only comment that has been made was that since I lost 20 kilos I look a different guy and they like that.
🙂

 

[Bubbsie]

Thanks Vince.
Yes, it's a shame that my dad is the only person in my life who hasn't responded supportively to my T2 diagnosis..... He told me he's "ashamed to have a daughter with a disease associated with obesity and laziness" and that he would "rather I was gay"!!!!
The irony is that my mum, his wife of 44 years, was diabetic.....
On the bright side, it's good to know he would be supportive if I did realise I was gay one day.... 😎

Adele family often say the most hurtful things...mainly through a complete lack of understanding rather than bitterness or malice...there's time to re-educate him...show him how well you manage.

 

[Bubbsie]

Talking of Christmas gifts, my Sons family, along with many othe things, gave me the usual boxes of chocs and liqueurs etc. even though he knows that both my ex-wife, his mother, and I are diabetics. I wouldn't dream of making a big fuss. I just take them say "Thanks" and give them away. No big deal
Christmas lunch was HUGE but they didn't give me any mash or pots because they knew it wasn;t good for me. It is never discussed, we just get on with it.
The only comment that has been made was that since I lost 20 kilos I look a different guy and they like that.
🙂

Sod that Vince...too saintly for me...I had roast potatoes with my Christmas dinner...and pudding(s) too.

 

[Mark Parrott]

I haven't had any negativity towards me by other people. In fact the people I have told have been very supportive & interested. The only person who thinks my diet will kill me is my brother, who is also type 2. He said he chose to let the tablets take care of it.🙄

 

[Grannylorraine]

Most people treat me the same, in fact I think they forget, a conversation with one of my colleagues telling me to add a small amount of brown sugar to my coffee confirmed that. My hubby and son obviously remember but still eat lots of sugary things around me, at first this used to annoy me, but now I am used to it.

 

[Bubbsie]

I haven't had any negativity towards me by other people. In fact the people I have told have been very supportive & interested. The only person who thinks my diet will kill me is my brother, who is also type 2. He said he chose to let the tablets take care of it.🙄

Speaking of your brother...is it carb Thursday tonight?

 

[Pigeon]

The thing that annoys me is if I'm testing my BG and someone always says "Oh, are you ok?" assuming I'm about to pass out or something, when actually this is just part of my daily routine and no more remarkable than cleaning my teeth. I know they mean well, but it's just what I do, multiple times a day, day in day out!

In general I prefer that people don't know, but those that do tend to forget, because I don't talk about it much, my mum even offers me full sugar drinks.... But I would prefer that than people cautiously asking "Can you have this?" or worse: "Poor you, you can't have this" because if I want it I'll have it and if I don't I won't!

 

[Mark Parrott]

Speaking of your brother...is it carb Thursday tonight?

It is. Never know what I'm going to get until it's served up. He should be due his yearly salad soon. His idea of a salad includes pork pie, scotch egg & chips.

 

[Lanny]

The kids in the houses around me don’t come to my house at Halloween for trick or treat anymore! 😎 They know I don’t have sweets!

Saves me some money because I had to get loads of small change, 50p & £1 coins for the kids instead! The first year I was caught unprepared & handed out £5 notes & they all flocked to my house!

But, now on insulin, I have more hypos so, I DO have sweets! Shhh! Don’t tell the kids! 🙄 with a whistle!

 

[Bubbsie]

It is. Never know what I'm going to get until it's served up. He should be due his yearly salad soon. His idea of a salad includes pork pie, scotch egg & chips.

That's my kind of salad Mark...without the salad (if you know what I mean).

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

Hi, interesting thread

I don’t like “so and so has diabetes and eats whatever they like”

I don’t like people hiding food they eat from me like it will upset me if they eat it, seriously

I eat them now (for now) but when I was very low carb, the 2nd Christmas, may father in law sat me down to have a serious chat “now I want you to have potatoes with your Christmas dinner”..... uhh why?..... “because you are miserable not having them and your spoiling Christmas for everyone”. Seriously! Thanks for the support lol

I would be happy if everyone just ignore my dB, this is my struggle, let me be

I still love that old post by 'Test test test' Jennifer. I re-read it every year or so as it really helps be around tricky food times like Christmas and holidays where family members and other pressures can start to get to you. I know I've posted it here before, but I still think it's one of the wisest things I've read about managing food temptations.

With the holidays coming up, give yourself permission to be human.There is a lot of great food that will be out there soon. Don't try to steel yourself against all of it. You most likely won't be able to, and then you'll have guilt on top of it.

Choose your times. And then enjoy a piece of cake. A dollop of mashed potato. That holiday cookie that only shows up once a year. Make it your CHOICE, not a moment of weakness that will haunt you. That way you'll be able to enjoy it so much more, AND not fall into the "well I messed up, might as well eat the plateful".

Whatever you decide to eat or not eat, the most important thing is that YOU control it. If you choose to have some pumpkin pie, make it your conscious decision. Not a mindless "What the hell" or a forced "NO"through gritted teeth. You decide. Only you.

Full post (with much more detail) here: http://loraldiabetes.blogspot.co.uk/2006/11/thanksgiving-and-other-feasts.html

 

[Lanny]

It is. Never know what I'm going to get until it's served up. He should be due his yearly salad soon. His idea of a salad includes pork pie, scotch egg & chips.

That's my kind of salad Mark...without the salad (if you know what I mean).

My one try at a salad in “what did you eat yesterday” made me hungry for the rest of the day & ended up eating an extra meal after dinner just before bed! It wasn’t low in calories either: it’s the creamy dressings! 😳

 

[Bubbsie]

My one try at a salad in “what did you eat yesterday” made me hungry for the rest of the day & ended up eating an extra meal after dinner just before bed! It wasn’t low in calories either: it’s the creamy dressings! 😳

I am notoriously veggie phobic Lanny...I eat very few😱.

 

[KindaScared]

I still love that old post by 'Test test test' Jennifer. I re-read it every year or so as it really helps be around tricky food times like Christmas and holidays where family members and other pressures can start to get to you. I know I've posted it here before, but I still think it's one of the wisest things I've read about managing food temptations.



Full post (with much more detail) here: http://loraldiabetes.blogspot.co.uk/2006/11/thanksgiving-and-other-feasts.html

This quote is great, the thing is about me not eating the potatoes and being miserable was, I never wanted the potatoes, I wasn't miserable, it felt great to not eat them and have good bg numbers, I was super positive about everything, I never missed anything I didn't eat, if anything I felt smug about it hehe

I have always said to anyone trying to convince me to eat something I don't want to eat, I will choose when I cheat and now is not it.

 

[Spireite72]

Still very early days for me feeling my way through. My family have been fantastic. We sat down and they told me we are going to do this together. My oldest(16) helped out buy eating anything I can’t have anymore while in hospital.(bless him). I had a wicked sweet tooth but surprised I’m not missing sweets at all. A small amount of fruit is working. My youngest (8) forgets sometimes offered me a sweet today. Then remembered and was mortified. Sat him down and told him not to worry.

 

[Maz2]

Thanks Vince.
Yes, it's a shame that my dad is the only person in my life who hasn't responded supportively to my T2 diagnosis..... He told me he's "ashamed to have a daughter with a disease associated with obesity and laziness" and that he would "rather I was gay"!!!!
The irony is that my mum, his wife of 44 years, was diabetic.....
On the bright side, it's good to know he would be supportive if I did realise I was gay one day.... 😎

It is not just associated with obesity so that is wrong of your Dad if you don't mind my saying. My friend's husband is diabetic and is and always has been underweight. I went pre-diabetic, got back to normal, now back up again and I am underweight. One of my friends is diabetic and, whilst she was a bit overweight, she was not obese and not lazy either. on the other hand, my friend's brother is very obese and does not exercise and he is not diabetic.

 

[Maz2]

When I went pre-diabetic I told people but then I am one who does discuss things with people Everyone is individual and has to make their own decisions as to what is best for them. I found out a friend of mine had been diabetic for two years and was amazed as \I had no idea until \I said about my problems. It was amazing how many people were diabetic themselves or pre-diabetic once I had said something. They have all been supportive. My colleagues at work got on my nerves a bit because they thought I was over reacting but, as I wasn't asking them to inconvenience themselves because of me, I was not sure why they needed to make such an issue of it.

 

[AdeleTurner72]

It is not just associated with obesity so that is wrong of your Dad if you don't mind my saying.

I don't mind you saying so at all. I completely agree with you.
I was over weight at diagnosis, but my BMI is now 26, and I fit easily into a size 14 pair of jeans! I've always been very active.....
I've read lots of stories on here about underweight type 2s!!!

Onwards and upwards!