All pubs are not the same. Men and women drink in our local, it doesn’t do food, but it is the hub of the village, quite often there’s a message on our village forum 'if anyone would be interested in forming a group to do x,y,z, come to a meeting in the X at 8pm, and we can gauge interest, and people walk home afterwards. Son often takes his father out for a drink there when he’s back, and reconnects with all sorts of people he hasn’t seen for ages because he lives an hour away. I tend not to go very often, because I don’t like beer very much, the last time I was there was for a funeral wake for someone who was on a committee I used to serve on.