Son newly diagnosed Type 1

[KateXXXXXX]

Thank you, one and all.

So far, James is coping well with the mechanics and getting a handle on control.

Still not come to terms with the shattered dreams, but he's concentrating on exams and the immediate future for now.

My heart really goes out to those of you with very small kids who have diabetes: you really are in for the long haul.

 

[trophywench]

Kate

I came from a family that coped with things, I remember crying for a full 20 minutes when I was diagnosed aged 22. Then blew me nose and got on with it, cos I knew I had to. Some years later I stopped going to the hospital cos it just made me cross. I got away with it for several years but eventually even then, my GP caught up with me ..... And all proceeded apparently smoothly until I was 57 and I had a major mental breakdown.

One of the things that added to all this - apparently! - was the fact that I'd never been allowed to grieve, as it were, for the loss of whatever it is we perceive we've lost (even if we can't verbalise what the thing is!) Turns out now that it's well known as part of the healing process anyone with the diagnosis of a chronic condition actually needs to go through so as not to damage one's psyche, all jollly interesting but my point is to appeal to you - you need somehow to allow the lad the ?space, or the ?permission, or the whatever it is! - he will need to get through this. Oh and don't forget Kate either - she's shattered too.

Bloody hard mate - I'd feel devastated if my own perfect Golden Boy (grandson aged 14 going on 35) got owt like this. And I send you this link; it helped me even after the event

http://www.businessballs.com/elisabeth_kubler_ross_five_stages_of_grief.htm


{{{{Hugs}}}}

 

[KateXXXXXX]

Oh, I'm anxious that he does take the time to grieve... But allowing him the time and space to do so and him TAKING it are two very different things! WE can and will give him all the time he needs, and support him any way we can, but the rest will be up to him.

And thanks for the link. That looks interesting. I lost my dad just before I got married, and my mum at Christmas, and now this: I recognise those stages! I may be able to get the GMNT to look at it a few weeks down the line.