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[grainger]

sorry but I need to rant

I’m fed up with consultants, DSNs and general know it alls who don’t have diabetes or any idea what it’s like to be pregnant, nauseous all day and diabetic!!!

Got told I was eating too many carbs, have put on too much weight (I’m still wearing pre pregnancy jeans) and that I need to do the next few nights with 3am checks... to be honest I was v pleasant and polite to them then promptly cried on the phone to my husband then Mum all the way home.

Can’t they ever just say nice things - like aren’t you coping well considering how this pregnancy is kicking your arse and making you feel like death everyday.

Argh!!!!!

Sorry. Just needed to be said.

 

[Northerner]

You're right grainger - it needed to be said! Grrrr!!!! You do despair sometimes at these 'experts' who may have all the book-learning, but no actual first-hand experience of the kind of effort you are putting in 😡 It's an insult to suggest that you are somehow being lazy and indulgent, when we all know just how much this little one means to you Big {{{{HUGS}}}} to you 🙂 You just keep doing what you have been doing, because you're doing a pretty amazing job! 🙂

 

[Lucy Honeychurch]

sorry but I need to rant

I’m fed up with consultants, DSNs and general know it alls who don’t have diabetes or any idea what it’s like to be pregnant, nauseous all day and diabetic!!!

Got told I was eating too many carbs, have put on too much weight (I’m still wearing pre pregnancy jeans) and that I need to do the next few nights with 3am checks... to be honest I was v pleasant and polite to them then promptly cried on the phone to my husband then Mum all the way home.

Can’t they ever just say nice things - like aren’t you coping well considering how this pregnancy is kicking your arse and making you feel like death everyday.

Argh!!!!!

Sorry. Just needed to be said.

You carry on doing what works and I doubt you've put on too much weight, which is a natural occurrence of pregnancy, surely
You're doing a fantastic job, don't let the buggers grind you down (((hugs))) x

 

[Wirrallass]

Rant as much as you want grainger ~ we understand where you're coming from ~ tell 'em all.....

 

[New-journey]

sorry but I need to rant

I’m fed up with consultants, DSNs and general know it alls who don’t have diabetes or any idea what it’s like to be pregnant, nauseous all day and diabetic!!!

Got told I was eating too many carbs, have put on too much weight (I’m still wearing pre pregnancy jeans) and that I need to do the next few nights with 3am checks... to be honest I was v pleasant and polite to them then promptly cried on the phone to my husband then Mum all the way home.

Can’t they ever just say nice things - like aren’t you coping well considering how this pregnancy is kicking your arse and making you feel like death everyday.

Argh!!!!!

Sorry. Just needed to be said.

Rant away, after your day ranting is what's needed! That's so unfair of them, they have no understanding of what's it like for you. I hope you can forget their negative voices soon and know again how well you are doing. I think you are doing incredibly well!

 

[DaveB]

Well, I'm going to take a different tack - sorry. These people should always be considerate in what they say to anyone and if (and only if) you are eating too many carbs then their advice would make sense. It sounds like they handled it badly and/or your diet is good already.

 

[grainger]

You're right grainger - it needed to be said! Grrrr!!!! You do despair sometimes at these 'experts' who may have all the book-learning, but no actual first-hand experience of the kind of effort you are putting in 😡 It's an insult to suggest that you are somehow being lazy and indulgent, when we all know just how much this little one means to you Big {{{{HUGS}}}} to you 🙂 You just keep doing what you have been doing, because you're doing a pretty amazing job! 🙂

Thank you 🙂. Hugs always appreciated!

 

[grainger]

You carry on doing what works and I doubt you've put on too much weight, which is a natural occurrence of pregnancy, surely
You're doing a fantastic job, don't let the buggers grind you down (((hugs))) x

Thank you 🙂

 

[grainger]

Rant as much as you want grainger ~ we understand where you're coming from ~ tell 'em all.....
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Love this! Properly made me smile - thank you x

 

[grainger]

Rant away, after your day ranting is what's needed! That's so unfair of them, they have no understanding of what's it like for you. I hope you can forget their negative voices soon and know again how well you are doing. I think you are doing incredibly well!

Thank you so much. I’m definitely trying to do my best 🙂

 

[grainger]

Well, I'm going to take a different tack - sorry. These people should always be considerate in what they say to anyone and if (and only if) you are eating too many carbs then their advice would make sense. It sounds like they handled it badly and/or your diet is good already.

I understand you point but when you get told x and y but no solutions to how you are supposed to cope with severe nausea and reduced carbs it just feels like an attack on the fact I’m not coping as well as they’d like. My hba1c is 6.3%. Yes I’ve put weight on but being told they don’t want me to put more than 7kg for the whole pregnancy makes me feel like I must be huge already (yes I could have done with losing a couple of lb before I fell pregnant but as a size 12 I didn’t think I’m huge).

Mainly telling any pregnant woman that she’s put too much weight on ie. is fat isn’t nice.

But I will take their comments on board. It was just me ranting after all.

 

[SB2015]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Glad you have places to have a good rant and blub, but sorry that you came away feeling so fed up with the people who are supposed to be supporting you. Is it worth letting them know how you feel. They may forget to say the nice bits about how fabulous you are and what a lot you are managing because they just think you are very resilient.

 

[Wirrallass]

Grainger your bgls are like a Jack in the Box........
...but please don't fret, they're bound to come down again as usual. Take care xx

 

[trophywench]

These damned theorists that gain NHS qualifications make me sick, frankly Grainger.

If ONLY real life did work like medical textbooks - whatever and whoever you happen to be !

Having watched closely a non diabetic pregnancy with Hyperemesis Gravidum or whatever it's called - YOU are doing BLOODY well. Your HbA1c is brilliant and yep - Samantha has lost well over a stone too. As her mum says - she could probably have done with losing it anyway and she is struggling - but the babe seems to be doing OK despite all the c**p she's causing for her mum - and what's YOUR main priority, here?

A bit of sympathy wouldn't damn well hurt em, would it? nor cost em anything, miserable gits!

Just Grrrrr with you - and {{{Hugs}}} mate.

 

[grainger]

Thanks again all. It’s nice to feel that I’m not completely wrong I’m feeling the way I do. I have to upload my pump data again tomorrow so I’ll mention how it made me feel in my email.

My baby is so precious and I want to do everything right but I also have to be able to function to look after my son so it’s a fine balancing act I guess.

 

[grainger]

How is it that one hospital appointment can completely mess you up? Because i feel like I’ve been knocked for six. That I’m failing at it all.

My blood sugars are behaving really erratically and I don’t know if it’s stress or something else.

I realise I’m hormonal but I really feel like shite.

 

[Northerner]

How is it that one hospital appointment can completely mess you up? Because i feel like I’ve been knocked for six. That I’m failing at it all.

My blood sugars are behaving really erratically and I don’t know if it’s stress or something else.

I realise I’m hormonal but I really feel like shite.

I'm sorry that the insensitive way you were treated at your appointment has made you doubt yourself @grainger Do you have a sympathetic DSN you could talk about your feelings with? Obviously, as a bloke, I can't know how difficult pregnancy can be for a person, but I am aware of how much more difficult things must be when you are having to think like a pancreas all the time as well. I would imagine that stress is playing a part, as well as all the hormonal chaos, and the numbers that you might shrug off under normal circumstances will be adding to your concerns about the baby, but from what I have gathered the baby is shielded from much of what is going on outside its little protective environment. I hope things settle for you soon - have faith in yourself, I certainly have {{{HUGS}}}

 

[New-journey]

How is it that one hospital appointment can completely mess you up? Because i feel like I’ve been knocked for six. That I’m failing at it all.

My blood sugars are behaving really erratically and I don’t know if it’s stress or something else.

I realise I’m hormonal but I really feel like shite.

Please know you are not failing, you are doing incredibly well. Can you try and give yourself a positve message, it may not seem right now true, but each time you say it, it will become easier. We all know how brilliant you are, just reread the positive messages you have got, and let go of the judgemental words if your consultant of you can. I know how hard it is.
If you think somethIng else is going on can you see someone you trust?
Sending big hugs

 

[Wirrallass]

How is it that one hospital appointment can completely mess you up? Because i feel like I’ve been knocked for six. That I’m failing at it all.

My blood sugars are behaving really erratically and I don’t know if it’s stress or something else.

I realise I’m hormonal but I really feel like shite.

@grainger ~ so sorry you're having an awful rough time ~ but let me tell you ~ you are not a failure hun ~ far from it. You are doing exceedingly well managing your diabetes whilst pregnant. Please don't allow the words of the people you met at the hospital pull you down. Your worth far far more than that. They should have been more understanding ~ the old bedside manner seems to have gone out of the window. You're doing the best you can and you can't do more than that ~ you are stronger than you believe you are. Come back and rant again if you need to @grainger ~ we are here to listen no matter how long your rants are!🙂 Take care of yourself now and chin up if you can xxx

 

[PhoebeC]

My daughter is nearly 7. Once I got past 20 weeks the sickness and non stop hypos hit. Every time I went below 5 I would start being sick and not stop.
All I could do to stop being sick was eat all the time, loads of sugary and carby things. I had to keep my levels up all the time to not be sick.
I woke up in a hypo one day and was out of it, my husband had to call an ambulance.
Another time I was that sick I couldn’t keep anything in and my levels where low for over an hour, I had to call 999 as I was nearly passing out but still throwing up.
All my meds reduced to nothing, and it just got worse the further along I went. T3 I was on hardly any insulin any hypoing all day. The Diabetes consultant never got to the bottom of why it happened, so I can’t tell you.
I just know that they had less idea than me what was going on.
Kept telling me about my weight and baby measuring big, but I had no other option, but eat all the time.

Each time I got my medication right my body would decide I needed less inlsuin and it could never be the right amount.

Ask them what would happen if you went unconscious with a hypo? Personally i would rather eat carbs than risk anything like that.

I put on 4 stone when I was pregnant!!! That was upto 34 weeks when I had her.

As soon as she was born it just feel off me as it was all the stuff I was having to eat to stay level. Weight can be lost.

Keep your chin up, you are the expert on your body. Only you know how you feel at the time.

They have never experienced Diabetes so everything they say is take a pinch of salt.

Take care. Here if you need to chat xx