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@Shirls13
Sorry to hear you are struggling to make the changes you feel yiu need to. It can be so hard to change ingrained habits - especially if they are things you really enjoy!
Don’t beat yourself up about one enjoyable party - as a one off it won’t have had much effect. It‘s the little positive changes you make over time that are more important.
In terms of alcohol, you do have to watch the calories if you are trying to lose weight, but in blood glucose terms dry wines and spirits with diet mixers are generally fairly BG-friendly. Probably wise to steer clear of beer/cider, cocktails, and sweet wines as they are quite carby.
At 44mmol/mol you are pretty much in the middle of the ‘at risk of diabetes’ range (42-47) so it is likely that a few fairly modest tweaks and changes will have a big effect on your glucose levels. The trick is to find swaps and changes that keep things flexible and enjoyable. While there are obvious things like cakes, biscuits, sweets and sugary drinks that you will want to cut out straight away (the secret is not to have them in the house!), you might be surprised how much *all* carbohydrate affects your BG levels, including rice, pasta, potatoes, bread, pastry, grains, cereals and many fruits. That doesn’t mean you have to avoid those things entirely, but cutting back on portion sizes and looking for lower carb swaps and changes can be a huge help.
So rather than a sandwich and banana (tropical fruits are often the carbiest) you might go for an open sandwich (half the bread) or wrap and greek yoghurt and berries. Cauliflower grated up and just barely cooked makes a pretty good substitute for rice, and swede or celeriac can do most things a potato would be used for - either swapping entirely, or going half and half.
You might like to take a look at the
Food with photos thread where members share their food ideas and meals. Might give you some inspiration?