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Posts, responses and cliques

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To add my bit....

yes I think this community is very clicky, yes it drives me bonkers that this community is very huggy and lovey when some ppl just need to get on and deal with stuff rather than inticing virtual bloomin hugs and yes i think this community occassionally has double standards in terms of looking after their own.

on the other hand....

yes i feel this is a very well organised place to come for information, the layout of the site is easy to read and navigate and I always read every couple of days.
 
Just read this post and I really can't take in what's been going on.

I love this forum and think it is valuable, I will continue to read and post when I can.

Best wishes to all x
 
Observations.

Seldom log on here now but have some observations about the recent unrest here.
I joined in the hope that with good control of my Type 2 that I could help others.
What a waste of time that was as I was usually ignored when I posted and there were times that I felt invisible. I would make a post, someone else would say the same thing after me and their post would be taken on board. I did PM my concerns and it was suggested that I post more to be accepted.
I now log on as a guest and see what is being said and some of it really gets to me.
There was a thread about helping younger diabetics changing their lifestyle so that they would not face complications further down the line and what amazed me was that some of the people who seemed concerned about binge drinking did not have their own alcohol problems under control.
We should all be eating healthily as part of our management and yet pot noodles, pizza, crisps and the like are regularly mentioned and promoted and some food choices here make me cringe. I would be concerned if my dogs ate some of them. Most Type 2's do not have the flexibility of injecting insulin to compensate if they choose these unhealthy things and that rarely comes across here.
There are those who throw their toys out of the pram when they do not get a response that they like and then there are further posts trying to placate them, seems a waste of time to me.
Before retirement, I was an SRN/RMN and have counselling skills and |I thought that these would come in handy here but unless you are part of the clique then your posts don't seem to mean much. I would have expanded on these skills at a later date but felt I was not welcome or needed here.
I am quite disillusioned and fail to see that all the touchy feely comments help other than the original poster being able to wallow in the pity expressed and having very little resolution offered.
These are my personal observations and opinions and some may dispute them.That is their right as is mine to express them.
 
Hi Cherry sorry you feel this way about the forum, one thing i will agree with is your comment "Most Type 2's do not have the flexibility of injecting insulin to compensate if they choose these unhealthy things and that rarely comes across here".I have found that in the past myself, your more then welcome to your opinions as we all are,i certainly dont purposely ignore anyones thread but what came across yesterday was if you feel you cant add to it then most usually dont its not that we are being rude...
 
Sorry to see that you feel this way. However, this board has been a lifesaver for some, including myself.

I cant comment on your thoughts on the Type 2's- as you say, you are entitiled to your opinion.

Please so dont pass judgement on the board so early on. Its a shame you feel ignored. But you get out what you put in. You are only on 32 posts which either you have 'just' joined, or over a certain period of time you have chosen not to participate much. Please give it time.

I think people are coming here expecting answers- we are offering support and community and your contribution is as important as everyones.
 
As this forms part of yesterday's discussion, I'll add it to the (now closed) thread.
 
On behalf of margie:

Hi Cherry

sorry that you feel your posts are being ignored. I too have sometimes felt that my posts have been ignored and someone else saying the same thing has been answered. I know realise that sometimes its just a question of people reading the whole thread and quoting the response last in the thread.

I have seen people get very distressed and aggressive - but often these people seem to be struggling with life in general and in some cases are depressed. I try to temper my responses based on other threads I have seen the forum member write in and try not to be offended by outbursts.

Finally - re the wallowing threads. I think that each thread has to be treated on its own merits. Sometimes threads may appear this way and there have been several recently that may have looked that way. However, in many cases the person asking for support has had recent tragedies in their life and in those case I feel that replying to them at a moment of despair may help.

I am sorry that you feel that you have been ignored.
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