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One of those days

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AnnW

AnnW

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I can't stop crying. My D gets me down, I worry about my feet, my eyes, my weight... My family life is pretty dire ...
My husband has gone to see his eldest son, alone, I wasn't invited but I know all of his 'children dislike me so not surprising .... I sent a text last night to wish him goodnight and it took him 2 hours to reply... This morning, one text , no phone call....

I know I'm probably just being silly but I can't help feeling very sorry for myself. I went to the National Gallery today, that helped a bit.

Tomorrow I go to Chester to see my darling elder daughter and her new partner ( she's gay but that's fine and I love her new partner) that will be great but this last 2 days I have had my husband's daughter (nearly 25) in the house ... We don't speak
... And I find it so unnerving not knowing if she is in , out or what. She has a full time job but has only worked one day out of the last 6.

Sorry to moan , i am just not functioning well today ( or any really ) I spoke to a lovely friend at the swimming pool this morning , but that was it for today
really.

I have no one to tell about my problems and they seem so trivial really I expect... Then there is Christmas... With his family ... None of mine.... Oh heck.
 
Sorry to hear you have had such a rotten day Ann :( I hope that your visit tomorrow will make up for it and replenish your strength. It must be very hard living with people who resent you, but it is their failing not yours - people can be very petty and nasty, like spoilt little children sometimes.

Chin up for Chester! 🙂
 
Ann, sorry, I do worry about you. Your problems are not trivial in the slightest. We are always here to listen when you need us, and feel free to pm if you like x Can you speak to your friend at the swimming pool? From what you have said, I really think that your husband doesn't deserve you and you should leave him and find a caring man who really deserves you. But obviously I don't know him so it is hard to pass judgement. Does he expect you to be there at Christmas? Can you make plans with your family? and have you spoken to your daughters about this?
 
Here come some virtual hugs. I am so sorry you are having such a rotten time. I do think if you are kind enough to have your Husband's daughter in the house she could at least use her manners to speak pleasantly to you from time to time. It doesn't need to be epic, just polite.

Hoping things pick up for you very soon.
 
It sounds like more of an existence than a proper life Ann. I share Natalie's sentiments but again, we're not walking in your shoes.

I hope thinsg improve for you before Christmas. If not, Chester will be lovely at that time of year.🙂

Rob
 
Thanks,
Christmas last year I spent with my daughter and visited my mum (Alzheimer's) to make dinner for her, it was really good. My daughter has now just moved in with herpartner and I don't want to spoil her first Christmas with her. I hope , really hope they will invite me but I don't want to be one of those horrendous mothers that inflicts themselves over Christmas. We get on very well , we'll see.

My husband is weak, I just wish he would say something and stick up for me but he doesn't . When we are alone ( rarely) we get on well ... We've only been married just over 3 years but the number of nights that we have spent alone in our home I can count on 2 hands... If only.

I just see no end to this situation,that's the trouble. My few friends are lovely and listen to me moan but I think there is a limit to how much I can inflict all this on someone else....

Thanks again, you are kind to let me moan....
 
Sorry to hear you are still having a tough time Ann :(

Hope you manage to find some space with your husband soon.
 
Oh Ann, sorry you're feeling down. That explains your comment on FB. You're not invisible to us.
It's easy for us to say leave him, but you know what's best for you. Your daughters know the situation now, so I'm sure at least one of them will invite you for Christmas.
(((Ann)))
 
Hopefully tomorrow's visit will lift your spirits Ann 🙂
 
Thanks again folks . Again, I don't know what I'd do without you all 🙂
 
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