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@Emms
Sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis. Feeling overwhelmed and all over the place is completely natural.
Try not to be disheartened about his diagnosis, many people on the forum later reflect that their diagnosis became a catalyst which prompted them to make positive changes towards a healthier and more active life. Perhaps changes that they had been intending to make for years. Diabetes is a serious condition, but it’s also one that can usually be managed well with a few changes and adaptations - it’s something that you can learn to live well with, and it shouldn’t stop you doing things you enjoy.
Often people don’t realise how weary, worn down and lethargic they have been feeling. Erratic and elevated blood glucose levels can be exhausting and are linked with low mood, but this may have come on quite gradually. Making a few positive changes can give you more energy, a clearer mind, and a brighter outlook. Plus the regular checks you get after a diagnosis with diabetes mean that any potential problems may be spotted earlier, and can be sorted out sooner.
Starting gradually on Metformin and then adding in extra tablets over a number of weeks is an attempt to reduce any possible stomach upset. Some people struggle with this worse than others, and it generally settles down after a while, but can be quite unpleasant to start with.
The cut-off for a diabetes diagnosis is 48, so he is well into diabetes territory, but by balancing medication and a reduced carbohydrate diet many members here have been able to successfully manage their diabetes in a way that suits them.
There’s no ‘one size fits all’ approach to how many carbs per day (everyone is different) but lots of people here find somewhere around 100-150g of carbs a day is a reasonable starting point.