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Willow Tree

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It's just been over a week since I was diagnosed with type 2 and I already feel overwhelmed. Despite having several chronic health conditions, the DN offered no help or guidance. Firstly, she reeled off all the ways that I could slip from this mortal coil before telling me to buy a carbs and calories book from Amazon for £20 and then seemed genuinely shocked when I started crying. In fact, I haven't stopped crying. Out of all my illnesses, I feel defeated by this one the most. Hoping that being part of this group will get me on the right track.
 
Hi and welcome.

Oh! Goodness! I am so sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, although we all totally understand that feeling, as it is very common. The word "overwhelmed" must appear on almost every newbie introduction here on the forum, but you will soon start to see the way forward. The important thing is that you have come to the right place for knowledge and support and motivation. We have many inspirational members who have pushed their Type 2 diabetes back to normal BG levels and feel fitter and healthier (and lighter) as a result of the lifestyle changes their diagnosis caused them to implement.

I certainly knew that my diet wasn't great and I was carrying too much weight but my diagnosis was the kick up the pants I needed to get a grip of myself and do something about it. Interestingly, since changing my diet, one or two other health issues have just vanished, so the changes you need to make can have some other benefits too. I no longer suffer migraines and I was laid up roughly one day a month with them (vomiting and passing out on occasion). Not had a single episode since diagnosis 2.5 years ago and I can even enjoy a glass or 2 of red wine now without issue, which was my only known trigger. And my digestive system is happier and healthier than it has been probably for most of my life. So there can be positives to come from this, but it does take time to get your head around all the information and find what works for you and of course it takes a bit of effort to make the lifestyle changes, but it is possible to actually improve your health following a diabetes diagnosis rather than it being all doom and gloom about possible complications. You do have to tackle it though. You can't just ignore it and hope it will go away or even take whatever tablets are prescribed and hope they will do the trick. Diabetes is very much about managing the condition yourself, hopefully with support from your health care professionals, but you are responsible for the day to day, meal by meal management and we are here to support and inspire you with that.... and it doesn't have to be all sack cloth and ashes..... I start every day with a coffee with real double cream in it and I end it with a chunk of nice cheese and perhaps a glass of red wine or port and plenty of good things to eat in between, you just have to find things which you enjoy, which don't raise your BG levels and cast aside or reduce the portion size of the foods which do cause you BG upheaval. The day usually involves a brisk walk if you can manage that, or perhaps seated or swimming exercise if you have limited mobility. Something that gets your heart pumping a bit and you breathing a bit more deeply.

Anyway, I hope that you will find that, once you get over the shock and grief of your diagnosis, and start to read around the forum, you will start to see that this could be a gateway moment to a new healthier you. It has certainly been the case with quite a few people here.

Good luck and feel free to ask anything. Doesn't matter how basic or obscure. Someone will have a suggestion for the answer.
 
Hi @Willow Tree and welcome. As @rebrascora says I think we all felt overwhelmed when first diagnosed. There is a wealth of experience and knowledge available to you here so please ask about anything you don't understand. People will be glad to help. I know I wouldn't be where I am without the support and encouragement I've received from everyone on here
 
Hi Willow Tree, welcome to the forum.

I'm so sorry to hear that you've had such an unhelpful experience with your health care team. It's totally natural to feel overwhelmed as it's a lot to take it.

It may not seem like it now but things will get easier as you learn more about how diabetes impacts you. We've got lots of reports from people who have managed to get their numbers back to a healthy range following diagnosis so don't lose hope.

We're here for you every step of the way so do let us know if there's anything specific we can support you with and we'll be happy to help.
 
Hi @Willow Tree and welcome to the forum. I can only agree with @rebrascora. It is a shock when you first get your diagnosis and it can be overwhelming.

When i was diagnosed i tried to find out as much as i could about it and how i could manage it. Each week before shopping, i did a menu (and still do now) of evening meals for the following week. That way i found i knew what i would be having to eat and knew i had the ingredients to cook it. By doing this i found i wasn't coming home from work and making the wrong choices for quickness.

You've come to the right place for support. People on here are brilliant and so helpful. Ask any questions you need to, no question is silly and someone will always be able to answer or point you in the right direction to find answers
 
Hiya - I'm just going to start off by sending virtual {{{hugs}}} I was just like you to begin with, just dissolving in tears at the drop of a hat though knowing it wouldn't actually help. It does - honestly - get better - but that takes time.
 
If your diabetes is ordinary type two then there is every chance of it being a very minor problem. We cannot deal with carbohydrates - those are the starches and sugars in our diet.
By choosing low carb options it is possible to have normal levels of blood glucose and also to have weightloss which is almost effortless.
Sounds too good to be true, perhaps, but if the problem is the carbs, then reducing them can remove a lot of worries. If you have high blood pressure and start to reduce your carb intake it can be unwise to go on taking tablets for it. Several people on the low carb forum had falls, one rather nasty, when they started getting dizzy spells.
The lowest carb foods are meat, fish, eggs cheese and other dairy products. I have stir fries and salads, stews curries with cauliflower instead of rice, bubble and squeak with swede rather than potato, but it is all colourful, tasty and there is a lot of variety - at least there is when the shops are properly stocked.
 
Yup I was totally overwhelmed and left on my own with meds and little real information. Kick up the pants? Ohhh yessss. I was way overweight. Diet was shockingly bad. Rushed to hospital. Blood glucose beyond dangerously high. The future looked bleak. But the thing that frightened me most was that I didn't know what to do nor what the future held for me. The docto4s and nurses were too overworked to help me personally.

Man, was I scared. Terrified more like.

That was enough to get me to find out as much as I could and I landed up here. Great people, great advice, great support.

What did they say right at the start that helped me ?

1. Its all about carbs and to reduce my consumption. So I had to find out which foods had what carbs and start to select what would be good to eat and what would be not so good.

2. Testing Blood Glucose is key to finding out what the body can cope with carb wise. I had a BG meter but I would have bought one anyway. At first my BG readings were terrible but with the right strategy it did come down. The right strategy? Yup understanding what worked for people here and trying things out for myself to see what might work for me.

3. I learned that for some it was possible, with a careful low carb, high fat, high protein diet, exercise, and weight loss, that the diabetes could be pushed into remission. Just think of it. From being ill and taking meds to well and no meds. I wanted that, so I set about following the successful strategies of those on here. So from being obese to twig. Couch potato to olympic champion (ok maybe not quite). From sweets, drink, chocolate to healthy foods. It needed a lot of careful research, planning and resolve. And time. I couldn't sort it all out in an instant. It took weeks to get to grips with food, meds, testing. 9 months later and it all seems so much easier.

4. People reported that their cravings for sugar and unhealthy foods dissappeared on the low carb diet. And I found that to be true and I didn't feel hungry all the time (I used to). I desperately needed to eat sugary foods constantly. I needed the energy but oddly the sugary foods gave me none. Now, not a single craving or need for sugary foods.

5. Some reported that previous symptoms vanished or reduced as their bodies recovered on the better diet and exercise. And I found that to be true too. At diagnosis I had every diabetic symptom possible and more. Since controlling my diet and exercising and losing 40% of me!!! Every single one of the symptoms has completely gone. And I carry 34.9 Kg less around with me every single moment of my life now.

6. Quite a few reported that they enjoyed their food more. I found this to be true too. Food tastes so much better and sweeter (even with no added sugar). Real enjoyment of each food. Some create their own personal recipes which adds interest to meals too.

But starting at the beginning is like looking up at the top of a mountain from the bottom. It seems a long way off.

Others have managed to successfully live a great life with their diabetes. I have. You can but it takes time to understand and to set up your own strategies that work for you. So its one step at a time. One day at a time. One small goal at a time.

You can do it and the initial feeling of being overwhelmed will go.

What amazed me was that since taking control I feel more well and fit than I have ever ever felt and I wouldn't change that for anything. I thought that I was facing utter disaster but in fact I was facing rescue at my own hands and (being honest) at the hands of those here on the forum. As they say, ask any questions, someone here will, be able to help. I had a zillion questions, their patience and kindness was what I needed.

Talking of kindness, remember to be kind and patient with yourself too. There will be ups and downs along the way. Its a life long journey so take your time and take control.

Good luck.

So all I can really say is bit by bit learn what you can, do what you can, and enjoy your journey back to better health (hopefully)
 
Hi and welcome.

Oh! Goodness! I am so sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, although we all totally understand that feeling, as it is very common. The word "overwhelmed" must appear on almost every newbie introduction here on the forum, but you will soon start to see the way forward. The important thing is that you have come to the right place for knowledge and support and motivation. We have many inspirational members who have pushed their Type 2 diabetes back to normal BG levels and feel fitter and healthier (and lighter) as a result of the lifestyle changes their diagnosis caused them to implement.

I certainly knew that my diet wasn't great and I was carrying too much weight but my diagnosis was the kick up the pants I needed to get a grip of myself and do something about it. Interestingly, since changing my diet, one or two other health issues have just vanished, so the changes you need to make can have some other benefits too. I no longer suffer migraines and I was laid up roughly one day a month with them (vomiting and passing out on occasion). Not had a single episode since diagnosis 2.5 years ago and I can even enjoy a glass or 2 of red wine now without issue, which was my only known trigger. And my digestive system is happier and healthier than it has been probably for most of my life. So there can be positives to come from this, but it does take time to get your head around all the information and find what works for you and of course it takes a bit of effort to make the lifestyle changes, but it is possible to actually improve your health following a diabetes diagnosis rather than it being all doom and gloom about possible complications. You do have to tackle it though. You can't just ignore it and hope it will go away or even take whatever tablets are prescribed and hope they will do the trick. Diabetes is very much about managing the condition yourself, hopefully with support from your health care professionals, but you are responsible for the day to day, meal by meal management and we are here to support and inspire you with that.... and it doesn't have to be all sack cloth and ashes..... I start every day with a coffee with real double cream in it and I end it with a chunk of nice cheese and perhaps a glass of red wine or port and plenty of good things to eat in between, you just have to find things which you enjoy, which don't raise your BG levels and cast aside or reduce the portion size of the foods which do cause you BG upheaval. The day usually involves a brisk walk if you can manage that, or perhaps seated or swimming exercise if you have limited mobility. Something that gets your heart pumping a bit and you breathing a bit more deeply.

Anyway, I hope that you will find that, once you get over the shock and grief of your diagnosis, and start to read around the forum, you will start to see that this could be a gateway moment to a new healthier you. It has certainly been the case with quite a few people here.

Good luck and feel free to ask anything. Doesn't matter how basic or obscure. Someone will have a suggestion for the answer.
@rebrascora Thank you so much for your reply and for sharing your own experience. I think I would have been less overwhelmed If I had been given some direction instead of just being left to get on with it. Plus one more diagnosis, was a lot to deal with.
I was making lifestyle changes before all this, so this has made me determined to continue but knowing what foods I can and can't eat, sends me into a bit of a head spin.
Hi and welcome.

Oh! Goodness! I am so sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, although we all totally understand that feeling, as it is very common. The word "overwhelmed" must appear on almost every newbie introduction here on the forum, but you will soon start to see the way forward. The important thing is that you have come to the right place for knowledge and support and motivation. We have many inspirational members who have pushed their Type 2 diabetes back to normal BG levels and feel fitter and healthier (and lighter) as a result of the lifestyle changes their diagnosis caused them to implement.

I certainly knew that my diet wasn't great and I was carrying too much weight but my diagnosis was the kick up the pants I needed to get a grip of myself and do something about it. Interestingly, since changing my diet, one or two other health issues have just vanished, so the changes you need to make can have some other benefits too. I no longer suffer migraines and I was laid up roughly one day a month with them (vomiting and passing out on occasion). Not had a single episode since diagnosis 2.5 years ago and I can even enjoy a glass or 2 of red wine now without issue, which was my only known trigger. And my digestive system is happier and healthier than it has been probably for most of my life. So there can be positives to come from this, but it does take time to get your head around all the information and find what works for you and of course it takes a bit of effort to make the lifestyle changes, but it is possible to actually improve your health following a diabetes diagnosis rather than it being all doom and gloom about possible complications. You do have to tackle it though. You can't just ignore it and hope it will go away or even take whatever tablets are prescribed and hope they will do the trick. Diabetes is very much about managing the condition yourself, hopefully with support from your health care professionals, but you are responsible for the day to day, meal by meal management and we are here to support and inspire you with that.... and it doesn't have to be all sack cloth and ashes..... I start every day with a coffee with real double cream in it and I end it with a chunk of nice cheese and perhaps a glass of red wine or port and plenty of good things to eat in between, you just have to find things which you enjoy, which don't raise your BG levels and cast aside or reduce the portion size of the foods which do cause you BG upheaval. The day usually involves a brisk walk if you can manage that, or perhaps seated or swimming exercise if you have limited mobility. Something that gets your heart pumping a bit and you breathing a bit more deeply.

Anyway, I hope that you will find that, once you get over the shock and grief of your diagnosis, and start to read around the forum, you will start to see that this could be a gateway moment to a new healthier you. It has certainly been the case with quite a few people here.

Good luck and feel free to ask anything. Doesn't matter how basic or obscure. Someone will have a suggestion for the answer.

Hi and welcome.

Oh! Goodness! I am so sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, although we all totally understand that feeling, as it is very common. The word "overwhelmed" must appear on almost every newbie introduction here on the forum, but you will soon start to see the way forward. The important thing is that you have come to the right place for knowledge and support and motivation. We have many inspirational members who have pushed their Type 2 diabetes back to normal BG levels and feel fitter and healthier (and lighter) as a result of the lifestyle changes their diagnosis caused them to implement.

I certainly knew that my diet wasn't great and I was carrying too much weight but my diagnosis was the kick up the pants I needed to get a grip of myself and do something about it. Interestingly, since changing my diet, one or two other health issues have just vanished, so the changes you need to make can have some other benefits too. I no longer suffer migraines and I was laid up roughly one day a month with them (vomiting and passing out on occasion). Not had a single episode since diagnosis 2.5 years ago and I can even enjoy a glass or 2 of red wine now without issue, which was my only known trigger. And my digestive system is happier and healthier than it has been probably for most of my life. So there can be positives to come from this, but it does take time to get your head around all the information and find what works for you and of course it takes a bit of effort to make the lifestyle changes, but it is possible to actually improve your health following a diabetes diagnosis rather than it being all doom and gloom about possible complications. You do have to tackle it though. You can't just ignore it and hope it will go away or even take whatever tablets are prescribed and hope they will do the trick. Diabetes is very much about managing the condition yourself, hopefully with support from your health care professionals, but you are responsible for the day to day, meal by meal management and we are here to support and inspire you with that.... and it doesn't have to be all sack cloth and ashes..... I start every day with a coffee with real double cream in it and I end it with a chunk of nice cheese and perhaps a glass of red wine or port and plenty of good things to eat in between, you just have to find things which you enjoy, which don't raise your BG levels and cast aside or reduce the portion size of the foods which do cause you BG upheaval. The day usually involves a brisk walk if you can manage that, or perhaps seated or swimming exercise if you have limited mobility. Something that gets your heart pumping a bit and you breathing a bit more deeply.

Anyway, I hope that you will find that, once you get over the shock and grief of your diagnosis, and start to read around the forum, you will start to see that this could be a gateway moment to a new healthier you. It has certainly been the case with quite a few people here.

Good luck and feel free to ask anything. Doesn't matter how basic or obscure. Someone will have a suggestion for the a
Thank you so much for your reply, encouragement and for sharing your own experience. I think I would have been less overwhelmed had I been given some direction instead of just being left alone to get on with it. Plus one more diagnosis was more then I could cope with. Fortunately, I was making some lifestyle changes before all this but still finding it hard to know what to and what not to eat. It's all a learning curve and like you said, hopefully, I'll soon start to see the way forward.
Thank you for stopping the panic and the tears.
 
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Hi @Willow Tree and welcome. As @rebrascora says I think we all felt overwhelmed when first diagnosed. There is a wealth of experience and knowledge available to you here so please ask about anything you don't understand. People will be glad to help. I know I wouldn't be where I am without the support and encouragement I've received from everyone on here
Hi @adrian1der Thank you. I've been reading through some of the posts and the support shown is wonderful. Makes me feel not so alone.
 
. Makes me feel not so alone
You are most definitely not alone. We've all felt overwhelmed at the beginning, whether Type 1 or 2. Actually, there are days when it can still be overwhelming but with the support on here that you get for those times, suddenly things don't seem as bad.
 
Yup I was totally overwhelmed and left on my own with meds and little real information. Kick up the pants? Ohhh yessss. I was way overweight. Diet was shockingly bad. Rushed to hospital. Blood glucose beyond dangerously high. The future looked bleak. But the thing that frightened me most was that I didn't know what to do nor what the future held for me. The docto4s and nurses were too overworked to help me personally.

Man, was I scared. Terrified more like.

That was enough to get me to find out as much as I could and I landed up here. Great people, great advice, great support.

What did they say right at the start that helped me ?

1. Its all about carbs and to reduce my consumption. So I had to find out which foods had what carbs and start to select what would be good to eat and what would be not so good.

2. Testing Blood Glucose is key to finding out what the body can cope with carb wise. I had a BG meter but I would have bought one anyway. At first my BG readings were terrible but with the right strategy it did come down. The right strategy? Yup understanding what worked for people here and trying things out for myself to see what might work for me.

3. I learned that for some it was possible, with a careful low carb, high fat, high protein diet, exercise, and weight loss, that the diabetes could be pushed into remission. Just think of it. From being ill and taking meds to well and no meds. I wanted that, so I set about following the successful strategies of those on here. So from being obese to twig. Couch potato to olympic champion (ok maybe not quite). From sweets, drink, chocolate to healthy foods. It needed a lot of careful research, planning and resolve. And time. I couldn't sort it all out in an instant. It took weeks to get to grips with food, meds, testing. 9 months later and it all seems so much easier.

4. People reported that their cravings for sugar and unhealthy foods dissappeared on the low carb diet. And I found that to be true and I didn't feel hungry all the time (I used to). I desperately needed to eat sugary foods constantly. I needed the energy but oddly the sugary foods gave me none. Now, not a single craving or need for sugary foods.

5. Some reported that previous symptoms vanished or reduced as their bodies recovered on the better diet and exercise. And I found that to be true too. At diagnosis I had every diabetic symptom possible and more. Since controlling my diet and exercising and losing 40% of me!!! Every single one of the symptoms has completely gone. And I carry 34.9 Kg less around with me every single moment of my life now.

6. Quite a few reported that they enjoyed their food more. I found this to be true too. Food tastes so much better and sweeter (even with no added sugar). Real enjoyment of each food. Some create their own personal recipes which adds interest to meals too.

But starting at the beginning is like looking up at the top of a mountain from the bottom. It seems a long way off.

Others have managed to successfully live a great life with their diabetes. I have. You can but it takes time to understand and to set up your own strategies that work for you. So its one step at a time. One day at a time. One small goal at a time.

You can do it and the initial feeling of being overwhelmed will go.

What amazed me was that since taking control I feel more well and fit than I have ever ever felt and I wouldn't change that for anything. I thought that I was facing utter disaster but in fact I was facing rescue at my own hands and (being honest) at the hands of those here on the forum. As they say, ask any questions, someone here will, be able to help. I had a zillion questions, their patience and kindness was what I needed.

Talking of kindness, remember to be kind and patient with yourself too. There will be ups and downs along the way. Its a life long journey so take your time and take control.

Good luck.

So all I can really say is bit by bit learn what you can, do what you can, and enjoy your journey back to better health (hopefully)
@Gwynn If my DN had told me half of what you wrote, I would have felt so much better about the whole thing.
I can't thank you enough. Reading your response has helped me a lot.
 
You are most definitely not alone. We've all felt overwhelmed at the beginning, whether Type 1 or 2. Actually, there are days when it can still be overwhelming but with the support on here that you get for those times, suddenly things don't seem as bad.
@freesia Thank you. I really do appreciate your words. You have all made me feel 100 times better than I did before.
 
The advise to buy Carbs and Cals was good as It certainly was my 'bible' in making decisions about what food options were better, what was better not having al all and those which would be perfectly OK.
As others have said cutting out or reducing portions of high carbohydrate foods and basing meals on protein, fats and vegetables will still allow you to have filling tasty food.
 
Hi @Willow Tree you're definitely not alone here. I echo the above comments. I also use the Carbs & Cals book and was testing on waking up, pre & post meals and before bed. I don't know what I'd have done without this forum. If you need help, just ask. Someone, usually many, will be able to help you.
 
Hi @Willow Tree - thanks for your post - I am also a newbie feeling a bit overwhelmed so entirely understand; it is good to know that I am not alone🙂.

The doctor was very brief 2 weeks ago and my nurse was OK yesterday and gave me booklets (available on this website) but it was still a challenge, especially to be told I have to go from 1 tablet to 4 tablets within a few weeks. I am really struggling to understand what the different numbers are; don't know whether I should invest in a blood glucose monitor; worried that if I go too low carb (as I don't eat meat/fish and cheese is 'bad') then I will have a hypo as not enough blood sugar. Then there are the side effects of the tablets! It is all very very confusing and scary. :-(

But I have started to spend time on this website and am hopefully beginning to get my head in the right place. What I do know already is that the forum seems amazing and full of kind people such as @rebrascora ; @trophywench ; @Gwynn and others above. Thanks all for giving hope and encouragement.
 
It's just been over a week since I was diagnosed with type 2 and I already feel overwhelmed. Despite having several chronic health conditions, the DN offered no help or guidance. Firstly, she reeled off all the ways that I could slip from this mortal coil before telling me to buy a carbs and calories book from Amazon for £20 and then seemed genuinely shocked when I started crying. In fact, I haven't stopped crying. Out of all my illnesses, I feel defeated by this one the most. Hoping that being part of this group will get me on the right track.
Hi
Sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed I’ve had T2 for 4 years and try to keep check daily of my carbs but I still feel overwhelmed as I’m still not sure how many carbs I should be eating a day, I’m 79 and would love to loose some weight, I’m 10.7 and would like to get down to 9,8 but seem to be at a plague. I’m on diet only, don’t take any medication.
I too have a book carb and cals and must say it helps, I hope things improve for you and wish you well. You will get this in control but be positive.
 
Hi @Willow Tree - thanks for your post - I am also a newbie feeling a bit overwhelmed so entirely understand; it is good to know that I am not alone🙂.

The doctor was very brief 2 weeks ago and my nurse was OK yesterday and gave me booklets (available on this website) but it was still a challenge, especially to be told I have to go from 1 tablet to 4 tablets within a few weeks. I am really struggling to understand what the different numbers are; don't know whether I should invest in a blood glucose monitor; worried that if I go too low carb (as I don't eat meat/fish and cheese is 'bad') then I will have a hypo as not enough blood sugar. Then there are the side effects of the tablets! It is all very very confusing and scary. :-(

But I have started to spend time on this website and am hopefully beginning to get my head in the right place. What I do know already is that the forum seems amazing and full of kind people such as @rebrascora ; @trophywench ; @Gwynn and others above. Thanks all for giving hope and encouragement.
Just 1 question, what was your HbA1C which led to your diagnosis as that will give an indication of how much you need to do to get your blood glucose down to normal. I don't know who told you cheese is bad, it is one of the foods which won't push your glucose levels up.
As you don't eat meat or fish it will be a bit harder for you to find things which are low carb but there are several veggie people on here. For ideas of meals you can have look at the food and recipe thread. The internet has lots of low carb veggie recipes as well.
The medication you are on is unlikely to cause hypos but you may get similar symptoms as you body gets used to lower glucose levels.
Basing your meals on protein, full fat dairy and vegetables and salad will give you plenty of options for tasty filling meals. You will just have to be careful of some of the high carb foods but things like nuts and eggs, cheese and yoghurt are fine to have.
It would be wise to get a blood glucose monitor so you can test the effect of various meals on your glucose levels especially not having fish and meat which are virtually carb free foods.
 
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