Mother died

[spiritfree]

As some of you might remember, my mother died in february after several heamourages and a 10 hour operation. She was kept sedated and died four days after the operation, with us three daughters with her. Tomorrow we have to attend her inquest. We had to make a statement of how she was in the months before. We will have to go on the stand in a real court, and swear truth of statement. We don't know why we have to go as this is all new to us. We have not had any time to try to get over her death as this has been over our heads. Has anyone had to attend an inquest? I am really upset by it all and tomorrow will bring it all flooding back.

 

[lucy123]

As some of you might remember, my mother died in february after several heamourages and a 10 hour operation. She was kept sedated and died four days after the operation, with us three daughters with her. Tomorrow we have to attend her inquest. We had to make a statement of how she was in the months before. We will have to go on the stand in a real court, and swear truth of statement. We don't know why we have to go as this is all new to us. We have not had any time to try to get over her death as this has been over our heads. Has anyone had to attend an inquest? I am really upset by it all and tomorrow will bring it all flooding back.

Hi Spritfree,

I do rememebr you losing your mum - so sorry.
I have never had to attend an inquest - how awful for you.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow 🙂

 

[Pumper_Sue]

Hi Spirit,
so sorry you have to go through all this ((((hugs))))))

I have had a search of the net and found this http://www.coronerscourtssupportservice.org.uk/CCSS_Brochure.pdf I'm not sure if this is of any use to you.

Thinking of you.
Sue
xx

 

[spiritfree]

Thanks Lucy and Sue, the leaflet was very usefull.

 

[Northerner]

I hope everything goes well tomorrow spiritfree, I am sure the Coroner and other staff will be as helpful and understanding as they can be.

 

[Steff]

Spirit free will be thinking of you tomorrow Hun x tc

 

[AJLang]

Spirit Free I hope that everything goes smoothly tomorrow. I will be thinking of you

 

[spiritfree]

It was my mothers inquest this morning. Although it was very distressing, everyone involved was really kind. It all went just as we thought, with the surgeon, who did her final operation, telling us exactly what happened. He said she had a great sense of humour, even when she was told that she probably wouldn't come through it. He said he asked her if she was sure she wanted the surgery, without it she would die, and she laughed and said I can't bloody go on like this can I? I feel very low tonight, almost as if we have been through another funeral for her.

 

[Northerner]

Spirit, it must have brought everything back in such detail, but I'm glad everyone was respectful and kind. Hope you can get some rest tonight.

 

[Hanmillmum]

I can't imagine how difficult that was for you today - just wanted to say thinking of you x tc

 

[spiritfree]

Thanks Northerner, I think it's going to be a long night.

 

[Pumper_Sue]

It was my mothers inquest this morning. Although it was very distressing, everyone involved was really kind. It all went just as we thought, with the surgeon, who did her final operation, telling us exactly what happened. He said she had a great sense of humour, even when she was told that she probably wouldn't come through it. He said he asked her if she was sure she wanted the surgery, without it she would die, and she laughed and said I can't bloody go on like this can I? I feel very low tonight, almost as if we have been through another funeral for her.

Sending a huge ((((((((((((hug)))))))))) your way Spirit.
It sounds as if your Mum had a great sense of humour and plenty of courage as well.
You have a Mum to be proud of as your Mum has a Daughter to be proud of.
Best wishes
Sue

 

[spiritfree]

Thanks Sue. Huggs greatly appreciated.

 

[AJLang]

Hi Spiritfree I don't know what to say but I would like to send you big hugs

 

[spiritfree]

Thanks A J Lang.It was one of the longest nights I can remember.
Thanks for the hugs. It really does help knowing people care.

 

[Janine]

Hi Spiritfree .... sending you warm wishes and {{hugs}}

 

[Sheilagh1958]

Sending you hugs. I also lost mum at the end of last year its hard isnt it. But we have to remember all the special times we had with them 🙂

 

[spiritfree]

Thanks Janine and Sheilagh1958. I really appreciate your knindness and huggs. Mom was really hard work to care for and we were always taking her to doctors, my sister and I. But now she is not here I feel totally lost, We live in same road and I can see her house from mine. I only have 2 friends. One,Lin, lives on Kos greece, so I don't see her often, my own fault because she is always asking me over. I have never been abroad, but I will be going on sept 19th for a week. My other friend is lead singer in a rock band and so he is all over the place, although he's always on the end of a phone for me. I just don't mix. This is why you friends on this forum are so important. And I thank you all for being here.