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Low sugar moods

Different forum, same question: https://www.diabetes.co.uk/forum/th...sugar-intake-during-hypo.197990/#post-2624713

I was exactly the same when someone told me what to do while I was low, I probably would still be, I've just not tested it in a while as I have a sensor which tells me I'm low so I know and there's no arguing with it.

It probably boils down to my disliking being told what to do and I probably also dislike being told I'm wrong, a far better approach (in my case) is to ask me whether I think I might be going low and to ask me if wouldn't mind just eating something just in case to my whomever feel better.

Everyone is different, but I would suggest you try changing your approach (i.e. your wording) and see if that works better.
 
Cm1 said:
Many thanks for your help I will try and discuss things with him but I think he feels quite embarrassed about his diabetes as if I would not want to be with him because if it but that is not the case I just want to try and fully understand it. Understand the dangerous levels the safe levels etc but he doesn’t want to make a big issue out of it
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I get that. When I was first diagnosed my Grandma (God rest her) apparently said to my Mum “no one will have him now!!”

But it feels like he needs to understand how his low BG, and especially his nastier hypos are impacting those he loves.

Don’t not have those conversations. Being open and honest with each other is always the best way. Life is too short to waste it pretending to be the person you think another person wants you to be. <3
 
It could also be that his embarrassment about his diabetes is stopping him treating hypos in a timely manner - because he’s worried you’ll see and comment. Some people hate any fuss or being different in any way. Perhaps reassuring him that if he needs to treat a hypo or have a snack at any time you won’t comment and will just carry on as normal will help. I remember being first diagnosed and feeling self-conscious rummaging in my bag for a snack. That self-consciousness was multiplied if anyone commented or ‘fussed’ (as I saw it).
 
Mike's granny was coming from a different place than his mum - ie that folk with T1 gradually starve to death, since treatment with exogenous (ie injected) insulin wasn't even 'invented' until the 1920s. My own mother wasn't born until 1914 and her mum died in January 1950, whilst mom was carrying me. I therefore never had a grandma, cos dad's mother died when he was about 13-ish I think. His dad died when I was about 7 ish - and I was 22, married and living in our own house 20 ish miles away from parents when I was diagnosed.

I'm pleased I wasn't 'at home' really, cos I had to learn for myself and ensure I did whatever, since no way Pedro would my first husband really try and help - the No 2 husband likes to be involved, so I encourage him much of the time, except when he drives me nuts. I do like him to accompany me for hospital visits cos he is a better listener! - think that is because he's a dad - so maybe people with kids are better at listening cos you have to, when they're little if you want em to grow up unscathed?
 
Thanks for reminding me about this card. I'd completely forgotten how simple and good it is.
 
Even if we give him the benefit of the doubt that he's not able to control his behaviour during hypos, what matters is what he is going to do to make sure that he doesn't put you in that position again. If after you have just started dating someone you have to behave like his carer, but he refuse to discuss the issues, that is a big red flag to me, considering that the start of a relationship is when people are on their best behaviour....
 
medidia said:
Even if we give him the benefit of the doubt that he's not able to control his behaviour during hypos, what matters is what he is going to do to make sure that he doesn't put you in that position again. If after you have just started dating someone you have to behave like his carer, but he refuse to discuss the issues, that is a big red flag to me, considering that the start of a relationship is when people are on their best behaviour....
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everydayupsanddowns said:
This ‘Diabetes etiquette’ card is a handy guide to having more positive conversations with friends and family around diabetes:

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Thank you for all the help and comments it has been a real eye opener. I am so glad I came on here and asked the questions as I really had no idea how much diabetes can affect your life and your loved ones. You just hear oh diabetes can be easily controlled but actually there is so much more to it I am learning - having to plan for everything so carefully every single day.
 
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