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Let people do what they’re comfortable with

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I always come across as too much as well. A best friend once called me a Nazi but she forgave me anyways being a bleedin' heart liberal. :D

Apologies to anybody I inadvertently offend at any time.
 
I’m too paranoid to block anyone, I’d wonder what they were saying behind my back.🙄😱.
I’m with @Sally71 here, if I don't like the way a thread's going, I just avoid it. I too can be abrupt, if I've got something to say I tend to dive in and say it (must be the Yorkshire blood) but I do try and reread before pressing 'post reply' and soften it a bit with an ‘I’m sorry you're .. ' or add a greeting if it’s to a newbie, etc.
 
AJLang said:
There is so much love and support on this forum and it’s wonderful. BUT we can only guide people, they have to make decisions in life that they’re comfortable with, which may not be the same as how we do things but hey, they could be even better. But most importantly they have to be what each person feels comfortable with. It’s also important to realise that we all think in different ways, sometimes a lot differently and sometimes a little differently. Please support and respect the different views. Apologies to anyone who doesn’t like my comments but as I said we all think differently.
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I don’t think anyone wants to upset anyone else but when people are feeling vulnerable they can take comments to heart . I know I have struggled with my diagnosis, feeling very angry at time’s, beating myself up when i get a higher reading than I want . Sometimes when you are feeling like this the most innocent of comments can upset you
 
ha ha glad some humour has arrived in this post (Ditto) 🙂

Of course its an individual choice regardless of different view points on the subject of blocking that is. No one need justify whether they do or don't.

@Ditto I don't believe it Ditto / Jan - you too much ! :D 😉 x x
 
Freddie1966 said:
I don’t think anyone wants to upset anyone else but when people are feeling vulnerable they can take comments to heart . I know I have struggled with my diagnosis, feeling very angry at time’s, beating myself up when i get a higher reading than I want . Sometimes when you are feeling like this the most innocent of comments can upset you
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This is true Freddie x x

A non judgemental approach is always helpful in support forums I think.
 
Hi Guys.
Personally, if somebody did upset me, I would private message them and discuss with them instead. Hopefully clear the air.
 
I was once described as a Rottweiler, and it wasn't meant in a pleasant way! I do try to be careful with my wording now, but expect I have slipped up at times. I think it's so easy to cause offence without meaning to, either by word or deed. Who remembers taking in cakes for special occasions? Once, when there were some left over, I took the tray round a second time, and ended up being reported to Personnel for implying a particular lady was a pig - never mind that everyone else tucked into 2nds! Pre-diabetes days of course.
 
I stopped posting in fasting blood sugar thread a few years ago as I was criticized for discussing something else. I now just read but not contribute.
 
Blocking isn't about individual threads (Might be for some). It's so you don't have to see anything from that person. You can dislike someone's activity, regardless of single threads.
 
I have on very rare occasions felt slightly affronted by a reply I have received and those posts have had a greater impact that other more carefully worded messages but because I chew over them a lot more as a result, I maybe benefit more from them.... and as they become older and I am over the initial impact I can start to dissect the content and figure out how it might benefit me, so I am not sure they are a bad thing, although I do very much appreciate contributions from others who try to ameliorate the harsh tone.

I am sure that I too have worded things poorly or perhaps allowed frustration to be reflected in my text on occasion (particularly if my BG is high...which is sadly more often than I would like!). I try to remember to reread and edit before I hit the send button but we are all human and mistakes occur. The important thing to bear in mind is that there is no malice intended and that applies as much to my posts as to posts I receive from others... we are all here to help each other. I think it is important and relevant to have your decisions and motivations challenged so it is not a bad thing, so long as you are rational in reassessing them.
Of course, if people are openly offensive then the report button is the thing to use. I personally cannot see the point of blocking someone. If their contribution does not reach the criteria for reporting them, then they have a valid point of view which I should consider, even if I don't agree with it.
 
grovesy said:
I stopped posting in fasting blood sugar thread a few years ago as I was criticized for discussing something else. I now just read but not contribute.
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I'm taking it you mean not by @Northerner . I've heard "Leave the modding to the mods" a couple of times elsewhere.
 
grovesy said:
No it was by another forum member who is no longer active.
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time to start chipping in again then perhaps? I’m sure the thread has missed you 🙂
 
grovesy said:
I stopped posting in fasting blood sugar thread a few years ago as I was criticized for discussing something else. I now just read but not contribute.
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That is surprising because almost everyone on that thread chats about things other than their readings.... I so miss Lanny and her online golf tournaments etc
 
rebrascora said:
That is surprising because almost everyone on that thread chats about things other than their readings.... I so miss Lanny and her online golf tournaments etc
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it used to be a rather strict thread and no mention of other things were tolerated xx
 
rebrascora said:
That is surprising because almost everyone on that thread chats about things other than their readings.... I so miss Lanny and her online golf tournaments etc
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I am going back possible as far as 3 years ago.
 
I have been badly affected by seeing one of the people who - I am pretty sure, was at one of the 'education' sessions I attended. He was going into the supermarket as I came out, and had one foot encased in dressings and a rubber protection boot, but the other one was missing, replaced by an artificial one.
I was always a bit keen - I was with my grandmother in the last years of her life, slowly dying from uncontrolled type two when I was just a child - but in the last few months I've had to decide not to post on a few occasions -
 
This is an interesting thread. I have had a couple of instances when I’ve thought replies were a little insensitive/harsh but on reflection I think I was a bit upset because I felt very lost and isolated at the time and took things very much to heart when in reality I think perhaps they were just honest common sense. I hope any comments I make are kind and supportive but again we are all capable of posting something that could be misconstrued.
On another point that was mentioned by @grovesy i thoroughly enjoy the 7 day waking average and always read even when not posting or haven’t done a reading. I feel that I am getting to know the members on a personal level rather than being defined by their diabetes. I love hearing about Bruce and Bubbles courtesy of @Kaylz, I adore @Dittos sense of humour and witty remarks, @eggyg and her family and the forthcoming wedding, @Northerners kind and sensible words and @KARNAK (get better very soon) who is so knowledgeable and friendly and so many others and small parts of their lives. I personally think this is what makes this forum so different, it has a family feeling in that people do care for each other even if we all make mistakes from time to time x
 
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