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as I had said last week about my grandsons well things have developed realy quick the boys are now staying thin us.
We knew things werent right with them and keeped telling sons solicitor that Josh had been saying for months that his mothers boyfriend has been hitting him and the things the little lad has been telling us what hes been saying to him but there was no prouff no marks
Well he told his teacher like I had been telling him and things just exucalated from that as he had said he was going to kill himself if he had to go back to his mam.
Got him on Momday last week and the littie one on Tuesday this week he phaned and said I can come and live with you grandma so I went for him.
Its a bit of a lot to take in but there safe for now well untill my son and her go back to court about the resesendance order
So no wonder bloods are all over the place:(
 
grandma said:
as I had said last week about my grandsons well things have developed realy quick the boys are now staying thin us.
We knew things werent right with them and keeped telling sons solicitor that Josh had been saying for months that his mothers boyfriend has been hitting him and the things the little lad has been telling us what hes been saying to him but there was no prouff no marks
Well he told his teacher like I had been telling him and things just exucalated from that as he had said he was going to kill himself if he had to go back to his mam.
Got him on Momday last week and the littie one on Tuesday this week he phaned and said I can come and live with you grandma so I went for him.
Its a bit of a lot to take in but there safe for now well untill my son and her go back to court about the resesendance order
So no wonder bloods are all over the place:(
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Absolutely terrible! My best wishes go to all of you. I hope things improve soon.
 
Sounds a difficult situation to be in, especially for the children. I hope there is a good outcome for the children and they can be were they feel safe and loved and cared for.
 
What a horrid situation, I'm glad the little's ones are safe with you for now. Is the plan/hope for them to live with your son?
 
So sorry to hear about what you are going through Grandma. Hope you can get it sorted soon in the best interests of the kids involved.
 
i hope everything works out well and that there is a good outcome in the end
 
Oh Grandma, what a nightmare!! It's good that your grandson felt able to tell you & his teacher though, it's so important for kids to feel safe! Hope thongs get settled quickly & with the best interests of the kids as the result. Take care of yourself too. Xxx
 
Granma what a situation, I do hope things improve soon hun x
 
I'm glad you're there for them grandma. Hope it gets better for all involved x
 
well so far the boys are staying with me and hubby S.S Worker said after she had talked to the boys it took 2 days it looks like this has been the only stable place the boys have had. So for now we have them.
She said that they were going to take the police to try and get a statement off the boys and charge her boyfriend dident say what with but that this is going to be very tromatick for them. Boys are carring on a bit and everytime we tell them off youngest one runs andhides under the bed oldest one startes crying saying he thinks we are going to hit him. Youngest one they say has been hiding under tables and anything he can at school.
 
Oh my goodness, poor kids!! Sounds like they've really been scared! :( Also sounds like being with you is the best thing for them, lots of love, care & tlc required i imagine! At least they are safe now, the right outside agencies are involved now so hopefully things will only get better long term. Thinking of you all. Xxx
 
Poor little beggars - these so-called adults have no idea what they do to children's minds.

Most punishments I can think of are far too good for them.
 
trophywench said:
Poor little beggars - these so-called adults have no idea what they do to children's minds.

Most punishments I can think of are far too good for them.
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....agreed! :(
 
thanks for all your kind words and thoughts
Boys have been playing up a bit but last few days not to bad.We need to get back to court as soon as pos because as things stand she can come and take them at anytime, she hasent but dont trust her S.S worker said on phone it looks like this has been the only stable place they have had all there lives and she wants them to stay hear but the court precedes them so they can only recomend in the report what they think.
They did see there Mam yesterday S.S worker aranged it for after school and to take place at school eldest dident want to see her but did in the end he said as she was there he would Ill keep you all informed as soon as I know anything:(
 
I hope the children get to stay with you. How old are they? In some cases the court will take the childrens wishes into consideration and will also take reports from social services into consideration too.

I can only speak from personal experience, I have a little boy who was adopted (been with us 5 years atthe end of the month) because his own mum was considered unable to cope. We had to go through all kinds of assesments and had to have CRB checks done on us. Watching the little feller (who is now seven and a half) grow and devlop has been a joy, even with his special needs.

I hope everything works out for the best for you and the children, and hopefully it will be formal adoption or you will be give parental responsibility. Good luck to you all.
 
social services say the boys have to stay with us as it looked like this has been the only stable home they have had there is a lot going on.
Police and social services took boys yesterday to video interview them and they were going to see there Mam today after school. But then got a phone call to say there had to be no contact at all with Mam and the police were going to get everything together and on Monday they were going to go and arrest them and interview them and see what they were going to charge them with.
My son there Dad says that is the best thing he only lives a few doors from us and is hear most of the time hes hear now giving them a bath hes like us dosent know witch way to turn he has a girlfriend and another little boy round the corner he says he will have to cut himself in half so if social services and the courts say the boys are beat hear then its better then with ther Mam its going to be a long hall but at least the boys are laughing now a bit more its nice to hear that.
Having a day out on a trip with them tomorrow.
 
Hope you all have a fun day our tomorrow grandma, nice to hear that they are laughing again 🙂 Be careful not to put too much detail on here, if it may lead to a court case or something.
 
ok thanks about that
we had a good day Saturday and out with them Sunday
Blood meter gon on the blink dont know whats the matter with it but have to but battries in every 9 days or so phoned Accu Chek help line and it was them that said it was an internal error and are sending me a new on it should come today just wating for posty now then ill have to set it all up will take me ages hope i can do it but i have to phone them if i carnt andthey will talk me through it
 
It is amazing the difference a stable loving environment can make to children. I hope the boys are able to stay with you and get to know their dads new partner and baby. It is hard work, but you are doing a great job.
 
I really hope they get to stay with you, it's the best thing all round. They'll be in a safe place and able to get to know their dad and his new family in their own time. You've got Social Work and the police on your side and I doubt the courts will allow their mother to have them back while that man is still in the house.
 
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