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I feal so guilty

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Darren w

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I hate saying this and the more I think of it the worse I feel ... Everyone knows how bad i feel about my wieght and how down I have been inside for so long . I've had a good spurt ( very unusual for me ) and I have eventually earned enought money to take a trip with my brother and I've had nothing but grief about it . .
I wanted to do something to try and make me have a different chance of looking. At life . And come back with a fresh look on life . But . I'm being slagged off at every chance . For wanting a break from my head ... I've paid for the tickets but to make others happy I will give them away . If it means I do something right in my life ...
I want a break but don't want anyone else in my family to. Think they are missing out ,, I'm 42 and all I need is a little tiny break ,,, is is so wronge for me to want that ? Please someone tell me . What would they do .. Coz I won't enjoy myself if someone else is missing out .and I carnt get it out my head , :( I'm sorry if I'm boaring you guys. That's probably why I don't come on here oftern . Again , I'm sorry , daz x
 
Sometimes you need to put yourself first mate. If you were on a plane and it had problems they tell you to put your oxygen mask on FIRST and not your children, this is for a good reason as you need to be fit and well to take care of them.

Getting yourself right by having a break will be better for them long term even of they don't see it now.


On facebook now mate.
 
I agree with Paul, Darren, there are times when you need to put yourself first. I think it's an excellent idea to have a break and give yourself some time to clear your head and get some fresh perspective on life, so you go for it and enjoy yourself! 🙂
 
There's no reason why you should feel bad, Darren. Hope you have a lovely time!😛
 
You're going on a break with your brother. I see nothing wrong with that. I've gone away with just my sister recently, and she has kids and I'm married, but none or our family kick up a fuss.

Go on the trip. Anyone who slags you off for it is just jealous and selfish.
 
Sorry you're getting grief from your family about going on a trip.

Try not to let it bother you (I know that is extremely hard) and go on this trip with your brother. It is your money and you're entitled to do with it as you wish. You are doing something right, you are going on a break. As Amber said- anyone who slags you off for it is just jealous and selfish.
What does your brother say to all this hassle?
 
Darren you deserve a break. You have been through a lot and I think it is brilliant that you feel well enough to want to go on a break. Grab the opportunity and go ahead and enjoy it, The family should be delighted to see you wanting to do something to change you perspective. Put yourself first and do it and don't listen to those who want to make you feel bad. At the end of the day you have earned the money for it and are not asking them to pay. Go on go for it! Sending you a hug{} 🙂
 
It's the old damned if you do....damned if you don't......if you give away the tickets you'll get ear bashed....if you go away you'll get ear bashed. I know what I'd do....having a holiday is always a great idea!
 
Go for it Darren. I'm sure that a break will do you good. No one on here thinks you are at all boring so please keep posting. Sending you hugs[[[[[]]]]]
 
As I always say to you.....you need to think about yourself!....so do your self a favour and treat yourself.....you no you want to! 😉
 
ypauly said:
Sometimes you need to put yourself first mate. If you were on a plane and it had problems they tell you to put your oxygen mask on FIRST and not your children, this is for a good reason as you need to be fit and well to take care of them.

Getting yourself right by having a break will be better for them long term even of they don't see it now.


On facebook now mate.
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Hi Daz. I hope you are still reading these posts. Ypauly makes sense and you will be a lot more use to them if you get this break. Try to think of it as a necessary break not just a holiday. Best wishes.
 
Sometimes you have to be a little bit selfish in order to help everyone. Take the break and your family will come round when they see how much better you feel when you get back 🙂
 
I agree with everyone else Darren, you need a break and should take it. I reckon it would do you the world of good to get away and let you come back refreshed and able to deal better with whatever life throws at you.
 
Darren w said:
I hate saying this and the more I think of it the worse I feel ... Everyone knows how bad i feel about my wieght and how down I have been inside for so long . I've had a good spurt ( very unusual for me ) and I have eventually earned enought money to take a trip with my brother and I've had nothing but grief about it . .
I wanted to do something to try and make me have a different chance of looking. At life . And come back with a fresh look on life . But . I'm being slagged off at every chance . For wanting a break from my head ... I've paid for the tickets but to make others happy I will give them away . If it means I do something right in my life ...
I want a break but don't want anyone else in my family to. Think they are missing out ,, I'm 42 and all I need is a little tiny break ,,, is is so wronge for me to want that ? Please someone tell me . What would they do .. Coz I won't enjoy myself if someone else is missing out .and I carnt get it out my head , :( I'm sorry if I'm boaring you guys. That's probably why I don't come on here oftern . Again , I'm sorry , daz x
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Hi Daren,
The guilt you are feeling is typical for someone suffering from depression and I hope you are receiving treatment.
Go on the holiday and be assured that people who care about you, including people here on the forum want the best for you. A holiday is something you deserve. What would you say to someone who is in the same boat as you?
We look forward to some photos of you enjoying yourself.

Take care,

Maisie.
 
Hi Daz I cannot really add anything extra on to what Maisie just said as she is so right. Everyone deserves a break, and you have worked hard to save up for this yourself and there is no reason why you shouldn't go. Don't let anyone else but doubts in your head, you go and hopefully it will make you feel better. I am sure you would advise anyone else on here asking the same question to go. You deserve some happiness in your life and you don't need anyone elses permission to do it. Allow yourself a little break and forget the guilt, you have nothing to feel guilty about.....Tintin
 
You must go on the break no matter what anyone else thinks. Getting away it clears your mind and you have had a tough time. You don't bore us at all. You go and let us know x
 
Darren I do know how you feel. However we all need to treat ourselves, every now and again. I am also going through quite a bad stage of depression at the moment, so I really do know how your feel. What is it with weight. I am quite large and nothing I do ever makes any difference. I hate going out because I used to be slim but now I feel like a whale. You seem to have the opposite problems to me. Feel free to pm me anytime. I am always up till the small hours of the morning. And GO FOR THE BREAK. YOU DESERVE IT.
 
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