Firstly, many, many thanks
@rebrascora for such a detailed reply, it is genuinely appreciated.
4 thoughts from me taking into account that others here have tried to persuade you that vegetables can be enjoyable but noting that your mind is very much set against this...
I'd love it if I enjoyed vegetables and/or salad, but I just don't; it's hardly a conscious decision.
You can also get konjac noodles and rice which is extremely low carb
The Konjac rice is certainly something I'll try, I'll get some next time I have to go shopping.
The Newcastle/Fast 800 or the NHS/Oviva Path to Remission Program.... which involves a very low calorie "soups and shakes" based diet for 12 weeks followed by the steady reintroduction of food and support over a 12 month period. Perhaps this would help you to reset your relationship with food and shrink your stomach as well as help to burn off the visceral fat around the liver and pancreas which is one of the main causes of Type 2 diabetes. It might be something to discuss with your nurse if you are prepared to give it a go, since you are relatively newly diagnosed. We have several regular members who have gone that route either officially by being referred onto the program or off their own bat. People who have followed this approach sometimes find it such a relief to eat real food again that a salad becomes a real treat. I am not saying that will happen with you but you may find that you suddenly enjoy your carrots and broccoli a lot more when you haven't had any real food for 12 weeks.
I don't think I'll qualify for the NHS one as my BMI falls (just) in the healthy range, and it does seem an extreme path to go down. Can't see a salad ever being anything other than a form of torture though

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Keto or Carnivore diet.... basing your meals on meat, eggs and fish and eating until you are sated, but avoiding all bread, pasta, rice, potatoes, pastry, breakfast cereals etc and only having very small amounts of carbs from other low carb sources like onions and tomatoes and other veg. It is extreme and I haven't done it myself but what I have found with going low carb is that once you cut the main ones right out of your diet, you need less food and you don't crave them nearly so much if at all. And once your body and stomach get used to smaller meals which have to be digested more slowly.... it takes the body 2-10 hours to digest protein and fat as oppose to just 1-2 hours to fully digest carbs, so sometimes just one meal a day can be enough to sustain you and a much smaller meal than piling your plate with carbs.
Keto is definitely something that I've been looking at, but I don't know how healthy it actually is long term. I'll continue to look into it and will discuss it with my diabetes nurse when she's back off holiday. For the few "bad carbs" I'm currently eating (2 slices of bread, 30g, and about 200-240g of potatoes, about 40g), then cutting them out completely, if there are associated benefits of not feeling hungry, seems to be worthy exploring. But what about the carbs in other stuff; even carrots and broccoli have carbs, as does things like gravy, or fruit like an apple? Have just checked, and even carrots are a no go on keto, as are apples.
Insulin.... If you really cannot find a healthier diet which you will find sustainable long term and your levels remain high, then this might be an option but if you continue to eat as many carbs as you have been used to....
I do realise that I can't continue to eat carbs in the way I used to, but I'm not sure I'll ever find a normal diet that only has 130g of carbs a day, it just doesn't seem realistic for me at all. A typical day for me atm has just under 200g and I'm constantly hungry.
Granted I am fortunate to like vegetables and can eat most things and indeed to can mentally condition yourself to like things.
I know it's going back a long time, and, believe it or not, I eat more than I used to, but I was basically force-fed stuff by dinner ladies at primary school to the extent that I would vomit, and a lot of my aversion to vegetables stems from that; my mum always said I would eat anything before I started school. Certain foods still make me heave.
Many of us have been on this journey of changing our diet so we do understand and sympathise with how difficult it is but it makes it a lot easier if you start looking for an approach which may work best for you and ways to adapt that approach to fit in with your lifestyle, rather than focusing on how impossible and awful it is.
I am sorry I'm being so negative here, but I just need to sound off. I've isolated myself from all contact with friends and family over the past couple of years due to my issues with the urgent need to pee; it was easier to just ignore people than have to explain why I wasn't comfortable socialising any more, so I'm not really starting from a great position mental health wise.