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Help with Depression/Anxiety?

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MeanMom

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Havent been on here for a while so firstly hope everyone is doing OK

We have intermittent internet and intermittent health issues here:(

I am posting this because I know there are people who visit this forum who have problems with depression, and I would like to ask for some advice so that I can get more help for K

Are there any forums like this where people can discuss these issues? I have found a couple but they do not seem to be well used like this so you can wait hours or more for replies. K has used Childline but she doesnt like it as it keeps crashing mid chat.

Also if anyone knows of any good books aimed at older children/teens on the subject of depression and/or bereavement that would be a big help
 
Hi Meanmom.

I've moved your thread into the General messageboard, since it's a serious topic and may get more responses.🙂

I can't really offer any advice but if you could give some background for those who are not familiar with k's recent history, ie. the missed diagnosis and bereavements, etc.

I would imagine she's feeling like life is very unpredictable and bad things happen around every corner, causing the anxiety. Have you spoken to your GP to see if any 1 to 1 counselling is available ?

Rob
 
Thanks Rob - wasnt sure where to put the post - sorry

Recap of K's recent history in a (large- perhaps coconut?) nutshell is as follows:-

Unwell some time lost weight over period of over a year eventually dx T1 March 2010, both her grandads died within 3 weeks of her dx (one of pancreatic cancer - he was T2). Dx with 'non specific' cataracts in both eyes May 2010. Started high school Sept 2010. Started seeing psycologist at diabetes clinic shortly after. Dx underactive thyroid march 2011. Two family cats died during May 2011. Currently awaiting referral to CAMHS for official dx re ongoing depression/anxiety issues. Last attended school 9 september.

Any help as I said would be wonderfull😱
 
In a very serious way, she could even be suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. It's a lot for anyone to go through, but at that age, when you're trying to figure out who you are and where you stand in the world, she must feel very battered and bruised emotionally and physically.

You're clearly doing an amazing job keeping her head above water and I hope someone can give you some ideas on where to turn to.🙂

Rob
 
Have you tried these websites ?

http://www.childbereavement.org.uk/

and

http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/

I hope K can get some help - have her thyroid levels been stabilised ? As that could be adding to her problems. If she could meet some children with some of the same conditions it might help. She is probably feeling very alone and scared.

Don't forget yourself in all this you may need to talk with someone too as it must be very difficult for you to deal with seeing your little one in so much pain.
 
Hi meanmum,

I am so sorry that all this has happened to you and your family especially K. I am pleased to hear that K has been referred to CAMHS. My daughter was referred to them in 2007. They were very good, and she did really well. They (along with us) felt that she would be better off being tutored at home on a one to one basis, which she did for 18 months until she had done her GCSEs. CAMHS helped us liase with the school and either a psychiatrist or a MHN saw my daughter on a weekly basis.

I do hope that all goes well and they can help.

If you need to chat please feel free to PM me and I will try my best to help, take care,

Shirl
 
Hi MeanMom

So sorry to hear that K isn't doing very well. I have no advice to give at all. I hope she'll get an appointment with CAHMS soon.

Give K a big hug from me.
 
Hi MM

Just wanted to wish you and K well with the referral.

Thinking of you both
M
 
Hi MeanMum,

I don't have any words of wisdom but I just wanted to add my best wishes and say that I hope the referral works out and that things improve soon. sending you both big hugs. XXXXX
 
margie said:
Don't forget yourself in all this you may need to talk with someone too as it must be very difficult for you to deal with seeing your little one in so much pain.
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That's exactly what I was thinking whilst reading....don't forget you need support as well and having someone for you to talk to is just as important. Please don't forget about you....your daughter will need you.

I hope things start getting better, and you find the help you both need.
 
Hi MM,

You are to be congratulated for trying to get the best help for your daughter.
She is having a natural reaction to some life changing events that even grown ups would find hard to bear.
I often feel that it is the people with the best personalities that react in this way. They are open to showing how they feel. It is much better to let it all out than bottle it up and then let it rear it's ugly head years later. I hope the help that you have been offered works well for your daughter and, as others have said, look after yourself as well.

Take care.
 
Just to say thanks to all who have replied so far - margi thanks for those sites have passed them on to K.

I am hoping we can find a site that will support K as much as this site has supported me (and therefore her too) - fingers crossed.

have today organised councellor at school who will see her once a week for 6 weeks initially. Our doctor has therefore decided to delay referal to CAMHS for now. Actually had a bit of row with doc as she wanted to call the problem 'school refusal' on Ks records which it SO isnt. If k could take me to school in her bag without anyone knowing she would probably go, at least some days :(

Thanks again for help so far - any books anyone can recommend ?
 
Hope k finds her feet again soon. It's disgraceful of the doc to want to put that down. No empathy at all by the sounds of it.😡

Rob
 
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