Help....I feel I have lost control!

[Jenniw1990]

Hi Everyone
I went to see my diabetic nurse about 2 weeks ago and she was happy with everything I am doing. I felt completely in control and on the ball. She told me to stop checking my BS levels every day until I next go see her, which is end of Feb. So I havent checked since that meeting, but I am finding my motivation has gone out of the window! I have slipped back into bad habits and food choices! I know I shouldn't be having thing but I am eating them anyway!! I'm finding myself buying chocolate and eating it before I see anyone! I know I shouldn't be doing it, I know the damage its going to be doing but I can't seem to control it. I'm craving and giving in to everything I shouldn't be having!! Please I need some advice, motivation or tips or just a massive cyber kick up the arse!!

 

[Gucci69]

Hi Jenni, what’s your motivation? Mines keeping my toes , feet and eyesight. Draw A line under it and get refocused. Hope this helps x

 

[Drummer]

I can only advise that you start to test again - you obviously need that prompting to stay on track.

 

[silentsquirrel]

If you self-fund, it is your choice whether you test or not - if testing kept you on track, get back to it. Your diabetes, not hers. Your risk of complications, not hers.
Good luck!

 

[Andy HB]

I agree, if you are able to self-fund your test strips, keep testing. 🙂

 

[Kaylz]

Mines keeping my toes , feet and eyesight

that's slightly unfair, complications can still happen with the strictest of control

 

[zoombapup]

Please I need some advice, motivation or tips or just a massive cyber kick up the arse!!

Test test test. Seriously, you are going to be diabetic for the rest of your life. The idea that you can somehow stop being diabetic (which is the only time I'd stop testing) is pretty daft. You can try and manage this condition for sure, but as far as I am aware, there's no "cure" only remission (in the case of type 2) or control in the case of type 1. Either way, you aren't going to not be diabetic and that means that you need to test your levels. If nothing else, you test now and see what your fall off the wagon has done to your BG levels. I'm sure it won't be that pretty if you're eating chocolate.

Why would a nurse say stop testing? That's so weird. To save money?

 

[Thebearcametoo]

Yeah do what works for you. If seeing the numbers works then keep doing it if you can afford the strips.
It’s also worth looking at your life as a whole and what may have caused you to be more stressed recently or underlying issues around shame and guilt. You’re a whole person and not just your diabetes so need a whole person response to difficulties that you’re having with your management.

 

[SueEK]

Hi @Jenniw1990 . Sounds to me as though you are just having a blip which we are all capable of doing. You obviously managed to keep things on track by testing and as well meaning as your DN probably is, you obviously need to do this. Would suggest that you continue to test your glucose, it is a great motivator and just put the past couple of weeks to bed and start again. Tomorrow is another day. Good luck and let us know how you get on. And if you do need that virtual kick up the backside take is as given 🙂

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

I think perhaps your nurse’s advice was based on studies where (partly because of their construction?) people with T2 gained little or no benefit, but actually found them distressing. So the suggestion not to check BG was probably offered in good faith, but this certainly doesn’t seem to have been a positive change for you.

Some HCPs struggle to realise how individual and personal a relationship with diabetes can be. If people really don’t want to check their BG and you force them to do it it probably won’t work well.

But conversely, if a person gets real value and a sense of control and motivation from self monitoring then making then stop can lead to disengagement.

if checking BG works for you... keep at it!

 

[Jenniw1990]

Hi thank you everyone for your support! I am going to start testing again because like you said seeing the numbers i think makes me feel more in control and i can then make the right decisions. Its been christmas i think that had hit me hard and although i was pretty good (well much better then before my diagnosis) i think i just wanted something to make me feel good ! I am really struggling with the emotional side of diabetes because i kind of feel its become me, as every decision i make now has some sort of link too it. Eating now isnt enjoyable for me now as im constantly worried about what i should or shouldnt be eating.i also dont think it helps that i havent yet had my appointment with the dietitian! Xx

 

[Gucci69]

that's slightly unfair, complications can still happen with the strictest of control

Unfair that My personal motivation is that I want to keep my toes , feet and eyesight, not sure where you are coming from.

 

[Thebearcametoo]

Unfair that My personal motivation is that I want to keep my toes , feet and eyesight, not sure where you are coming from.

Because even with tight control some people still have trouble with their toes, feet and eyesight 🙂

 

[Kaylz]

Unfair that My personal motivation is that I want to keep my toes , feet and eyesight, not sure where you are coming from.

you seem to think and speculate that bad control is what leads to complications which isn't always the case, I have had the tightest control and have still had 2 eye conditions and many just assume bad control has led to it, you aren't always "safe" just because of good control and saying it is or even thinking it just isn't true and people need to realise that

 

[Gucci69]

you seem to think and speculate that bad control is what leads to complications which isn't always the case, I have had the tightest control and have still had 2 eye conditions and many just assume bad control has led to it, you aren't always "safe" just because of good control and saying it is or even thinking it just isn't true and people need to realise that

I think you need to reread my post. I said what my personal motivation is, I did not speculate about any one having bad control at all. I am doing everything I can to get into remission whether that’s good enough is another thing, i 100 pc know that it may be too late and I may loose my toes, feet and eyesight so my personal motivation is taking action now to try and keep my toes, feet and eyesight. I feel empathy for you that you have 2 eye conditions with your tight control however, please re read my original reply to the OP as I did not speculate at all. Kind regards

 

[grovesy]

I think you need to reread my post. I said what my personal motivation is, I did not speculate about any one having bad control at all. I am doing everything I can to get into remission whether that’s good enough is another thing, i 100 pc know that it may be too late and I may loose my toes, feet and eyesight so my personal motivation is taking action now to try and keep my toes, feet and eyesight. I feel empathy for you that you have 2 eye conditions with your tight control however, please re read my original reply to the OP as I did not speculate at all. Kind regards

You might not have meant to speculate on people having bad control, but some who have complications and do their best to control, feel that sometimes people making these type of comments are blaming them.

 

[Kaylz]

@Gucci69 yes you said that's what your motivation was but you are basically saying good control will do that (and assuming bad control leads to complications) which it may very well not which is the point I'm trying to make I don't need your empathy but there has been far too much on this forum lately making it look that only people with bad control will get complications which isn't true

 

[Gucci69]

You might not have meant to speculate on people having bad control, but some who have complications and do their best to control, feel that sometimes people making these type of comments are blaming them.

Grove say - no speculation at all if you read my original reply to the OP. I think some people are being highly sensitive and no need to batter me when I have not speculated at all.

 

[Gucci69]

@Gucci69 yes you said that's what your motivation was but you are basically saying good control will do that (and assuming bad control leads to complications) which it may very well not which is the point I'm trying to make I don't need your empathy but there has been far too much on this forum lately making it look that only people with bad control will get complications which isn't true

I think you are being highly sensitive, as I did not say that at all. You are assuming and thinking for me when I have not suggested anything you are saying.

 

[silentsquirrel]

Kaylz, I read Gucci's post to mean 'motivation is increasing the probability of keeping feet and eyesight' - she did not actually say that, but nor did she say what you read into it!