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hello havent been on for a while ,can one talk about anything on here or does it have to be diebetes
 
Main thing is Rosie, can you afford to and do you think you'll have enough to occupy yourself with. As much as we hate work at times, it's easy to miss the colleagues and the structure.
Maybe do some voluntary work or take up a hobby.
 
Amigo said:
Main thing is Rosie, can you afford to and do you think you'll have enough to occupy yourself with. As much as we hate work at times, it's easy to miss the colleagues and the structure.
Maybe do some voluntary work or take up a hobby.
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im feeling very deppressd i thorght it would be lovely to retire and move away, i was going to retire to the coast now i have bean offerd it i dont think i can do it am i going mad any help
 
rosie1 said:
im feeling very deppressd i thorght it would be lovely to retire and move away, i was going to retire to the coast now i have bean offerd it i dont think i can do it am i going mad any help
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Just a bit of advice Rosie. You can't run away from what you feel inside, you just take it somewhere else. So you need to sort your depression because being somewhere unfamiliar without support won't solve the problem. Just my take on it hun. Try and get some counselling. Ask your GP...there's long waiting lists but get yourself on one.
 
Hi Rosie 🙂
I agree with Amigo above, moving somewhere else won't necessarily help with how you feel. Definitely seek help for your depression first. Maybe make a list on the pros and cons of moving.
I moved away from the place I felt most at home several years ago, because I thought moving would help with several problems. It wasn't the best decision I've ever made, and it's taken me several years to settle, and I frequently wish I could move home.
So, whilst I'm not saying don't move, make sure you're moving for the right reasons. I think your mental health is the most important thing here, so seek help for that. Your doctor may refer you to a counsellor, I find talking to a professional to be really helpful 🙂
If you do decide to move, it might be helpful to work for a bit, maybe part time to get to know some people in your new area?
 
Mini-Vicki said:
Hi Rosie 🙂
I agree with Amigo above, moving somewhere else won't necessarily help with how you feel. Definitely seek help for your depression first. Maybe make a list on the pros and cons of moving.
I moved away from the place I felt most at home several years ago, because I thought moving would help with several problems. It wasn't the best decision I've ever made, and it's taken me several years to settle, and I frequently wish I could move home.
So, whilst I'm not saying don't move, make sure you're moving for the right reasons. I think your mental health is the most important thing here, so seek help for that. Your doctor may refer you to a counsellor, I find talking to a professional to be really helpful 🙂
If you do decide to move, it might be helpful to work for a bit, maybe part time to get to know some people in your new area?
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Excellent advice Mini-Vicki 🙂
 
Mini-Vicki said:
Hi Rosie 🙂
I agree with Amigo above, moving somewhere else won't necessarily help with how you feel. Definitely seek help for your depression first. Maybe make a list on the pros and cons of moving.
I moved away from the place I felt most at home several years ago, because I thought moving would help with several problems. It wasn't the best decision I've ever made, and it's taken me several years to settle, and I frequently wish I could move home.
So, whilst I'm not saying don't move, make sure you're moving for the right reasons. I think your mental health is the most important thing here, so seek help for that. Your doctor may refer you to a counsellor, I find talking to a professional to be really helpful 🙂
If you do decide to move, it might be helpful to work for a bit, maybe part time to get to know some people in your new area?
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i used to see a great counsellor at my drs but he left, i was going to move to the seaside but i have relised it would take my son 4 hours from nottingham to get to me i am very close to my kids i know this sounds silly but i still cry when they live me to go to there own homes
 
Making life changing changing decisions are best not made when you are depressed. I have suffered from depression over the years, and at my bad points I struggled to get up and get out.
 
rosie1 said:
i used to see a great counsellor at my drs but he left, i was going to move to the seaside but i have relised it would take my son 4 hours from nottingham to get to me i am very close to my kids i know this sounds silly but i still cry when they live me to go to there own homes
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You're not silly at all Rosie. You're just struggling a bit at the moment and there's absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that. I can empathise, I always am very emotional after seeing my family when I go back home, because I miss them so much. So you're not alone in feeling that way.
Book an appointment with your GP, and get some help 🙂
 
By coincidence I've just been "found" by an old pal who I haven't seen for 30 years. He retired early from his job as a Headmaster and walked across Iceland and wrote a book of his exploits. Not for everyone but he had found a course where they were all given advice about coping with retirement, financial, social, everything. I can't remember if there was a particular name for the course maybe the local library would have something to guide you in the right direction.
I retired 15 years ago and have always been busy, housework, shopping, cooking seems to be endless and there's always jobs like decorating, downsizing (throwing stuff out), going swimming and to the gym. Hoping to buy a bike soon and add cycling to that. Seems to take up a fair bit of time, and I never feel guilty about having coffee with the neighbours or just watching something daft on TV like Time Team.
 
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By coincidence I've just been "found" by an old pal who I haven't seen for 30 years. He retired early from his job as a Headmaster and walked across Iceland and wrote a book of his exploits. Not for everyone but he had found a course where they were all given advice about coping with retirement, financial, social, everything. I can't remember if there was a particular name for the course maybe the local library would have something to guide you in the right direction.
I retired 15 years ago and have always been busy, housework, shopping, cooking seems to be endless and there's always jobs like decorating, downsizing (throwing stuff out), going swimming and to the gym. Hoping to buy a bike soon and add cycling to that. Seems to take up a fair bit of time, and I never feel guilty about having coffee with the neighbours or just watching something daft on TV like Time Team.
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i like time team too
 
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