Welcome to the forum
@london5
And big hugs to you. You are at the sharp end of a new diagnosis, and it’s perfectly natural for things to feel overwhelming and for your emotions to be running riot. It would almost be weirder if you hadn’t felt a bit teary in the recent weeks.
Some people liken their diagnosis experience to a form of grieving - with the outpouring of anger, denial, bargaining, and depression that can involve while moving to a form of acceptance.
As far as carb counting is concerned, the approach I took in the early days (and still rely on to a fairly large extent) was to focus on the main carb component of the dish (eg potatoes, rice, pasta) and then add a notional extra ‘bit’ for whatever else was involved (say a small proportion of a can of tomatoes and smidge of tomato puree. There were/are so many other factors that influence my BG levels that it was far more practical, and a lot less faff to round things up or down than to calculate everything with upmost precision and weigh it onto my plate.
Just something to consider as a possibility?