Going to see the psychologist ... any advice?

[Natalie123]

Hi all,

I am still having my good days and bad days at the moment, sometimes I feel so down and can't understand why. I am going to see my psychologist today and need to talk to her about a few things but she has a tendancy to over analyse things and not let me finish before she tries to help. I know she is trying to help and I really appreciate what she has already done for me but I need to get my thoughts across today. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Some of the things I need to discuss are that I am feeling down - she always wants to find a reason but to be honest I just don't know why, its just how I feel and I can't escape from it. Also, I have been talking to my boyfriend recently about having children, we both want children but I am very scared, both due to my diabetes and because I have a bad phobia of all things medical - and it might sound stupid because having a baby is a natural thing, but I am actually terrified of having a baby - I don't think I could deal with the medical side of it all!

 

[Caroline]

Make a list of the things you want to say, take two copies, one for you and one for her. Ask her to give you a chance to finish what you are saying too.

The fear of having a baby is not stupid. I have known several people who have had that fear. I love my big boy to bits, but did not find being a parent easy or natural, but big boy is a happy well adjsted adult.

I hope it all works out well for you.

 

[KateXXXXXX]

Be honest.

Inist on finishing your points.

And I think Caroline's idea of writing it all down and taking two copies is excellent.

 

[trophywench]

FWIW I was going to say exactly what Caroline suggested.

Re fear - I think it's a lot more common than you imagine. It's fear of the unknown that does it really. If yoy coud have a trial run so you knew what to expect it could all be different - but you can't - and neither can anyone else. And even if this is your seventh - no two pregs are the same nor any two labours. My mum always told me however bad you thought it was - you just somehow entirely forget it as soon as the baby's here and you know it's OK.

You can at least do the tour these days where they show you all the equipment you are likely to be surrounded with and all that jazz. Foetal heart monitors and 🙂eek🙂 the stirrups, gas and air machines. So at least that doesn't come as a nasty shock.

I was utterly and entirely gobsmacked to discover that my eldest granddaughter had never ever in her life had an internal examination of any kind prior to being in labour. And she found it terrifying. Please don't let that happen to you. At least have a smear test prior to getting preg. And always breathe OUT when they are going in LOL - that was the best bit of advice anyone ever gave me about that ...... !

 

[Natalie123]

Thanks TW! Appointment went well, writing stuff down really helped and we are going to work on hypnotherapy to deal with needle phobias and fear of medical things, and apparently they can help with the fear of giving birth too - they have a specialist for just that - it seems more common than I thought!

 

[Northerner]

Great news Natalie! Hope things went well with your levels too! 🙂

 

[Jennywren]

How about taking someone with you , i know when iwent with my sister she was grateful for the moral support , and i remembered a lot of what the doctor had said and she had forgotten . Good luck 🙂