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Friends' attitude

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Carrie McG

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Hello my diabetic friends

Having been diagnosed just a couple of weeks ago I am still coming to terms with things. I met up with friends this weekend and had to contend with a takeaway menu, opting for a tomato based dish instead of my usual Korma. What I didn't expect was the attitude of my friends. They are my best friends in the whole world and I've known them since my pre-teens. When I declined the dessert of a Belgian Chocolate Pot my friend said "but I bought them for you!" I also got "oh you can have a treat surely". 🙄

It would seem that I am not the only one to have to make some adjustments.

Carrie x

PS This is a great forum; friendly, informative, responsive. Thank you folks, you've been a Godsend in these first few weeks.
 
They'll learn Carrie! 🙂 It sounds like the situation you can be in when you stop smoking or drinking alcohol - friends still seem to want to tempt your resolve! You can have treats of course, but when you decide to have them and shouldn't have to say no twice when offered something unsuitable at a time you do not wish to accept it.

I have no doubt that the next 'kind' comment you get before too long will be 'should you be eating that?'!!! 😉 :D
 
Well done Carrie for not falling into trap of haveing sweet ! 😎 I think there are so many people arnt so strong & educated. Fare enuogh if you were going for 6mile hike ! Well done you 😎
 
Every time I have tried to diet since my teens I have had people offering me treats. It can be very frustrating when you are trying to be good. Stick to your guns and nextt ime the bite in to a bar of chocolate ask if they should be eating it it is full of fat and sugar.
 
I agree with caroline. You're now showing up their own bad habits and they clearly feel uncomfortable ! 🙄

Could you sit them down and explain to them why you can't do what you used to do and what all those carbs can do to them if their luck runs out.

Well done for being strong.🙂

Rob
 
It's difficult when you only see friends at "special occasions", as many people eat differently at home than on nights out, when they relax their normal eating habits. I know I do - I'll eat less in the 24 hours or so either side of a meal out, unless the meal out is a pub meal or fish & chips after a long run / orienteering / adventure race, which it often is.
 
You have to excuse peoples ignorance sometimes in these matters, not everyone is aware of diabetes and what it entails, give them time they'll learn what you can and cannot eat.
 
Hi Carrie,
even though it is very frustrating for you, you have to remember they know as much about diabetes as you did before diagnoses 🙂
 
Hi Carrie

It won't be the last time you experience it either!

And of couse there may at some point be the flip-side, when you give yourself a carefully-considered occasional treat from your newly controlled approach to food.

"Oh but you can't eat that can you...?"

Then you'll have to decide again whether to take the time to educate, or just smile and nod 🙄
 
Thanks folks, lots of good thoughts.
Our socialising nearly always centres around food so I think next time I will talk more about what I can and can't eat and encourage them to ask questions. I've been their chocoholic friend for so long they need re-educating. I don't want to become a food bore though😉
 
Welcome to the forum Carrie 🙂.
 
Do you socialise in restaurants or at homes? I have perfected some scrummy desserts I make at home and friends don't notice they are low carb but they are awful at pushing high carb at me! It is difficult but I have just learned to ignore it and not eat it.
 
haha just read some people's replies who reflected the same thoughts as my initial reaction....at least they weren't trying to tell you you couldn't eat that!!! lol

sometimes you just have to be polite and explain why, but end with a closing statement of 'and that's why, this time, I'm deciding not to eat it'.

no arguements there....hopefully!
 
Pattidevans said:
Do you socialise in restaurants or at homes? I have perfected some scrummy desserts I make at home and friends don't notice they are low carb but they are awful at pushing high carb at me! It is difficult but I have just learned to ignore it and not eat it.
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We do both, but its mostly at one of our homes. Might be interested in some of your recipes.
 
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