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I am sorry evryone but not sure how to explain this, I've had a bad day one way or another and am not sure I can carry on as I am :(

I'm sick of taking my medication, Diabetic or Depression, I'm not sure I want to carry on doing my Lantus injctions either! Worst of all my family just dont give a toss which is probably my own fault. I'm full of self doubt and loathing. Im sure this does not make sense but not sure it does to me either, thanks for listening so to speak,

take care all,

Shirl
 
Hi Shirl. SOrry to hear you're suffering.

Why do you think it's your fault that your family aren't listening to you ?

Rob
 
Shirley whirley listen up missie, your my total rock off this forum and your not gonna give up your lantus because if you do I will be around your place like a shot and all those kisses and hugs i promised will be kept on hold until you give me one of your infectious smiles.If your family are not bothered about you then i can understand why you feel that way hun,what you need to do is write things down in a diary or on paper and slyly leave it lying around maybe if not for your hubby to see then your son.Your worth caring about and your such a nice person,if they cant see that then there fools who dont deserve you xxxx.Please text me and keep your sprits up.

P.S dont ever think its your fault it is 100% NOT xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Shirl, it makes a lot of sense to me, so very sorry you are feeling so down {{{shirl}}} Do please continue to take your medication. Sorry to hear your family aren't very supportive, but you know you have a hugely supportive second family here whenever you need us, so never be afraid to let us know and ask for help.

Have you spoken to your nurse or doctor about this recently? There may be some adjustments he/she can make to your medications that would help. I hope things get better for you very soon.
 
I am so sorry you are down, I do understand as I am in a similar position so often. I am coping at the moment by focusing on the good things in my life- including my husband ( !) especially my wonderful daughters who I don't see often enough.
What I am trying to say is try not to think about the bad things, it doesn't help.... Make lists of the good things... The wonderful weather, lovely memories...holidays or something like that. Try to focus on your family's good points ... I'm sure they don't realise how fed up you are about D , we all seem to get this at some times, horrid isn't it? :(
Hope you feel better soon, I've never met you really but I send a hug to you anyway 🙂 (((((( )))))))
 
Aw, I'm sorry you're feeling so down at the moment Shirl. Believe me when I say I do understand where you're coming from. I've had times when I've wondered why I bother struggling to carry on. I've been convinced that no one cares or understands and that they wouldn't miss me if I wasn't here anymore. It does pass though. As Ann says, you have to try and concentrate on the positive things and not dwell on the negative. I know that's easier said than done, but it will get easier and the dark clouds will pass. In the meantime, please keep taking your meds and remember you have a lot of friends on here who care and understand. Keep talking to us ad telling us how you feel so we can support you. Take care and be kind to yourself. XXXXX
 
I am sorry that you are feeling so bad - and would urge you to go and talk to your GP. I know you don't feel like doing it but it sounds to me (a non medical person) as if your meds need looking at - as they don't seem to be helping.

Do you have any friends close by who you could have a chat with?

Ann's suggestion is a nice one - I have heard of people having a gratitude diary - you write down the things you are greatful for, even little things like having a favourite food. Then when you are feeling particularly bad you look back at it and see that there are still things that are good in your life.

I hope that you can find some respite from your sadness today.
 
Sorry you are feeling do down hugs comimg your way (((((()))))))
 
Sorry you're feeling down... hope you feel better soon. Amanda x 🙂
 
shirl said:
I am sorry evryone but not sure how to explain this, I've had a bad day one way or another and am not sure I can carry on as I am :(

I'm sick of taking my medication, Diabetic or Depression, I'm not sure I want to carry on doing my Lantus injctions either! Worst of all my family just dont give a toss which is probably my own fault. I'm full of self doubt and loathing. Im sure this does not make sense but not sure it does to me either, thanks for listening so to speak,

take care all,

Shirl
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Dear Shirl I really am sorry to read this. You are going through a really rough time at the moment. I know what the self doubt and loathing feels like. It doesn't go away, but it does and can get better. Maybe a chat with your doctor might help you or a good and trusted friend. It seems as though you need to let it all out Shirl. I really hope things start to get better for you. If you need to talk/rant, then I am just a pm away 🙂. Please take care of yourself and take care Sheena xxxxx
 
Thank you

Thank you all for the very generous and kind thoughts, 🙂

I am trying so hard to keep myself going, but I have days, that sometimes turn into weeks, when I just don't know whether I'm on my head or rear end and I just don't know what my family expects from me, well apart from dropping evrything when they want me to and then they wonder why things don't get done for them, it would be laughable if it wasn't so awful! I know I have only myself to blame because I'm the one whos brought them up. I have always been worried that they would turn out like me, no confidence, feeling stupid whatever I do, nothing ever good enough - kind courtesy of my parents and dare I say it my junior school teachers :confused: - but when your a child you can't argue with that and when people say it all the time you get to believe what they say. And I am, after all, a grown woman now! Sad or what?

U wouldn't believe I have been to any gods amount of mental health courses over the years for confidence, self esteem, etc, etc. but nothing seems to work. I just despair that I'm always going to be like this :(

As for the diabetes that just feels like a huge slap in the face, and I just want to ignore it, pretend I havn't got it and it will go away. I need to get off my medication I hate it, I want to lose weight, and in essence I no longer want to be me!
Sorry this has turned out to be such a long winded reply, I do appreciate all of you and thank you for your kindness.

Take care,

Shirl xx
 
Hiya folks,

Just a quick message from Shirl, she cant always get on here quite so freely as family are about, but she does appriaciate all your replies and does not want anyone to think she dont care what they say x

Thanks x
 
hugs to you shirl ...you are not alone x
 
Hi Shirl, I am sorry you are feeling so down and finding things so difficult. I wish there was something I could do.

Just be careful with the not wanting to take your medication etc. Diabulimia is a very, very serious life-threatening condition which has just taken the life of someone in my support group. I am not sure if this is something that T2's suffer from as well or not, so apologies if irrelevant - I just really, really, don't want to see anyone going down that route.

Just remember, every step, is a step in the right direction. Don't beat yourself up for the times you are bad, but concentrate on all those times you do do things right.

I hope your family can be more supportive in the future as well. Maybe some of them could go with you to some of your meetings? Maybe that would help them see what you are going through a bit better?
Good luck
 
Hi Shirl, I'm sorry you are feeling down. Everyone feels like that sometimes, so please don't feel you are alone. There will always be someone here who will listen and understand and empathise with you. I hope you feel better soon.
 
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