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Fed up and demotivated

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Just venting , I found out I had type2 back at the end of February with BG Lev's in the high teens. Obviously this came as a shock and i tried on the advice of Dr to change my lifestyle. For the last five weeks I have done just this and brought my levels down to between 5.4 and 7.5 i have also dropped around 14kg and walk for an hour everyday. I have cut out sugar and potato,rice,takeaways ect and had already quit the drink six months ago. i am really enjoying the fish and other alternatives to junk food and was feeling really good and was happy to continue, new healthy me ect. This morning I went to the drs and as told even if I carry on I will still probably suffer with issues later on and need medication also still need to lose around 20kg for proper weight, this has put a bit of a dent in my enthusiasm to be honest and although I still have gone for the salad lunch it all seems a bit flat.Hoping my walk tonight will cheer me up as usual. I used to love my food and eat as much as I could of everything am trying hard not to really go for it today haha
 
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Just venting , I found out I had type2 back at the end of February with BG Lev's in the high teens. Obviously this came as a shock and i tried on the advice of Dr to change my lifestyle. For the last five weeks I have done just this and brought my levels down to between 5.4 and 7.5 i have also dropped around 14kg and walk for an hour everyday. I have cut out sugar and potato,rice,takeaways ect and had already quit the drink six months ago. i am really enjoying the fish and other alternatives to junk food and was feeling really good and was happy to continue, new healthy me ect. This morning I went to the drs and as told even if I carry on I will still probably suffer with issues later on and need medication also still need to lose around 20kg for proper weight, this has put a bit of a dent in my enthusiasm to be honest and although I still have gone for the salad lunch it all seems a bit flat.Hoping my walk tonight will cheer me up as usual. I used to love my food and eat as much as I could of everything am trying hard not to really go for it today haha
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Well done.
You have to find what works for you and can maintain long term. I made the mistake at first of being so strict, that i could not maintain it. I have been much better reducing portion sizes and eat lower amount of carbohydrates than I did. I have been able to stick with this most of the time.
 
Mr James, that sounds like an extremely unhelpful and factually incorrect appointment. There are lots of people on the forum who have managed to stay off any medication and maintained excellent control by putting in the kind of impressive efforts you have. You should be encouraged and commended for your achievements to date - long may they continue. Have a lovely walk and be proud 🙂
 
Hi James, you're doing this for yourself not the daft doctor who should know better than to deflate your efforts and enthusiasm! You can really sort this condition doing as you are and your success speaks for itself. Do this despite him and don't believe him when he says problems are still inevitable. Trouble is he'll see so many who don't bother that he's become jaded.

Don't let him make you jaded! Crack on as you are! 🙂
 
Well done on the changes you have made and the weight you have lost. I don't know why the dr needed to be so negative, surely they should have been encouraging you. Keep it up an you never know you may prove the doctor wrong.
 
Thanks, yes I am quite happy to put in the effort and also know that diet wise I will probably not stay off of alot of things for ever , my plan was to get to a good weight then try and maintain and test each time i ate new things. I am not overly positive in general when it comes to diet and excersise but a little enthusiasm from the doc would have worked wonders on this occasion
 
Mr James you put me to shame i need to get my finger out well done you
 
I sympathise with you, @MrJames, we all get peaks and troughs in this game, and it's a long haul but you've done brilliantly already if you were only diagnosed at the end of February! Carry on doing what you're doing, experiment with different foods and see what works for you personally and what you can maintain - GPs are just that, General Practitioners who don't necessarily know bog-all about our condition, so smile and nod and carry on getting some more great results 🙂
 
Hi Mr James. Your doctor is talking rubbish. Complications are not inevitable. Keep good control & you should have a good long healthy life ahead of you.
 
Hi Mr James . I'm annoyed on your behalf, sounds like a real horrible appointment.
To be fair to the gp they must see a lot of people who either don't try to help themselves or follow the atm recommended dietary advise which many of us T2s find only keeps our BGs high.

Then s/he comes across you. Someone who is highly motivated, is prepared to try different diets and work hard at tackling your diabetes. Your docs negatively has brought you right down and that is just not on. It might work I say *might* work to make someone pull their socks up who are doing nowt to help themselves , but with those of us who work hard at it , it often has the opposite effect.
I think it would be a good idea to write to your doc telling him/her how this negativity has affected you. I'm pretty sure it is unintentional, we need support, not have the scaffolding pulled down around us.

No one can say with any certainty who is going to be unlucky enough to suffer diabetic complications, we have people on here who have had D for a long time I mean decades, who don't and some who do.

As has already been said whatever regime we use to control our D , it must be sustainable long term.
 
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What an unhelpful negative doctor you have, that is so bad. You have done brilliantly well and are obviously very motivated and trying hard. Unfortunately GPs don't spend a lot of their training learning about diabetes so many of the people on here will know a lot more than they do. Yes you can get complications but not everyone will and you are on the path that leads away from them. I have a miserable doctor who scared me so much when I was diagnosed. Whenever he sees me he tells me that I am on borrowed time and will have a stroke or a heart attack etc. Fortunately through sensible advice here I have learnt to weight up what he says and then carry on with diet and exercise and try keeping it at bay. I did not have weight to loose. You are doing so well with weight loss, improved lifestyle etc and will get to a point when you can have the occasional treat. Don't let him get to you. This is our disorder and fortunately one that we can take control of as you have done. Keep it up and good luck, forget his negativity 🙂
 
Thanks for the advise, it is really good to have experienced people to speak to on here who have so much good advice. I will certainly listen to this advice much more than people who haven't experienced diabetes except in a book or who have misguided preconceptions of type 2. now I've had a few hours to calm down will continue as I have been and keep trying. I suppose this was my first down day and there will be more but that's something I will get used to
 
Hi Mr James, its likely that over time you will have down days, it's only natural, but now you know there is somewhere to come where we get it !
 
@MrJames you have done fantastically well so take no notice of your GP and just remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
As an after thought perhaps write to your GP and tell him how he made you feel, hopefully he will then not repeat the same mistake again with either you or another patient.
 
Hi mr James. Well done with your changes. Perhaps you should write to gp and say how demotivated you felt by his comments. Keep strong and try to have more good days than bad, and good luck on your personal journey
 
Good for you bro you could be my identical twin. SAME personal journey incl the timescales and weight loss etc. I am on Metformin 2x500 a day. I am soldiering on with the meds because I am reliably informed they help with protecting other functions of liver etc. Its a change in lifestyle, exercise and for me at 64 its taken 20+yrs off me! Get your motivation and support on here....Its full of great people some way behind our short journey and those with a lifetime of experience.
 
Chin up, MrJames. Stay in control. Hope you enjoyed your walk.🙂
 
Well done, i wish i had the willpower to do it, i love my sugary things too much but i do a lot of cycling and am fairly active all round
 
Well done you 🙂 When I first started going to the dietician, all I kept hearing was what I was doing was not enough, I should try harder and 'eat baked beans' was constantly repeated to me...despite my telling her they put my sugars up !! She wasn't listening to me...and one day, I had a completely bawling session, in front of her...the pressure, the expectation, the constant 'you must do better'.... This was hard enough, without being told 'off' and having negative things said to you.... After that session, she was more encouraging and things have improved... Another 6 lbs and I will have lost a total of seven stone, since my heaviest... The dietician listens to what I have to say now and we discuss how things are...rather than her telling me how they should be. As I have pointed out to her, easy enough for her to say 'eat baked beans'....as if that fixes all, she should try living with this... It isn't easy, but don't let harsh words or negative comments about the future get you down....sounds like to have done an amazing job and should be complimented on that ! Keep up the good work 🙂
 
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Good grief. Beggars belief. :(

MrJames I think you're doing great, carry on as is and ignore all naysayers. 🙂
 
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