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Desperate for help..

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Steff

Steff

Little Miss Chatterbox
Relationship to Diabetes
Type 2
I'm feeling so alone at the moment, i cant express myself to any of my family and my head is just full of dark thoughts, im desperate to let all my feelings out but i just cant, i really need some help right now my coping macanisms are crashin around me,people are being so nice to me but i cant see any way out of this vicious circle right now, ive not tested for 2 days and ive shouted and screamed at everyone over the weekend, i feel like a c**p human being im trying to think where to turn now...... im scared to see my doctor tomorrow incase i get the raised eyebrows and the look of dissapointment i was on such a high last week with the new job on the arisen and the new meds but now it pails into significance with these feelings and thoughts.......one minute i think im coping the next i aint, im sat in on my own tonight thinking to much and its made it so much worse..any advice or anything from anyone please!
Tryed to think what to do but the forum is my only way of getting help at this moment, this aint me usually i dont howl on but im struggling the steff i used to be seems to be slowly dissapearing.
 
Hi Steffie,

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling bad - I'm not sure what to suggest, but do go to the docs if you've got an appt - I know personnally I always feel worse emotionally when my control is bad, & if they can help you get the levels down or more stable that's a good thing all round, isn't it? Wish I could offer some advice to make everything better, but at least here's a hug!! (((()))) Diabetes sucks sometimes doesn't it?! xx
 
Hi Steff.

Are you worried about the new job ? Even if it's a deep, buried fear, is it lurking at the back ?

You've done the first brave step of sharing it. Shows how strong you are.

Rob
 
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Steff, do you have any idea what is causing these thoughts? Are you stressed about the new job on the horizon? You have always come across as a positive person, caring and helpful to everyone on here.

Is there anything you can do to stop the thoughts whirling round your head? Clean the kitchen cupboards, put on old cd's and sing your head off?

I wish I could think of something to say to make you feel better.
 
Steff

Try and go to your appointment tomorrow if you can, you need to keep an eye on the new meds. I remember am64 saying to me once how depression was a bit like a tidal wave which engulfs you every now and then, but it does pass again. Hang on in there. Rx
 
Tomorrow is another day Steff and hopefully you will feel a bit better. Tell the doctor exactly how you are feeling. It could be the new tablet that is causing this it might be causing a bit of an imbalance with other medication you are taking. We are all always here for you Steff when every you need us. Hopefully things will improve for you soon.

Love and hugs Sheilagh x
 
Oh Steffie hun,

you are not alone but I do appreciate how you s**t you are feeling. Please, please go to your doc. tomorrow he needs to know what is happening and how you are feeling.

Wish you'd ring me hun, not that I can help but just having someone to 'listen' to you would be a help, take care of yourself you know my numbers,

love and huge hugs,

Shirl x x
 
Poor you, here's a virtual hug.

I tend to suffer more from black thoughts during the winter, and if I can force myself to go out for a daytime walk for a few days in a row, I usually feel a little bit better for it. That and cleaning the kitchen. I read on the BBC that this is a good way to feel a bit better, and was pleased to find my own feelings confirmed!
 
Just another thought about the new meds. Are you feeling pressured that you need to prove you were right and justify having them ?

No need to. They made the decision to let you have them, so they must also believe they are right for you. Might take a while to settle down, so don't worry even if the results are c**p this time.

Sorry not much help. :(

Rob
 
My thoughts were along the same lines as Sheilagh's could the new meds be something to do with this? Steffi do see your doctor, tell him/her how you are feeling cry your heart out if you need to. Just know we are all here to love and support you ((((hugs)))) . Take care hunny xxx
 
Steffie said:
I'm feeling so alone at the moment, i cant express myself to any of my family and my head is just full of dark thoughts, im desperate to let all my feelings out but i just cant, i really need some help right now my coping macanisms are crashin around me,people are being so nice to me but i cant see any way out of this vicious circle right now, ive not tested for 2 days and ive shouted and screamed at everyone over the weekend, i feel like a c**p human being im trying to think where to turn now...... im scared to see my doctor tomorrow incase i get the raised eyebrows and the look of dissapointment i was on such a high last week with the new job on the arisen and the new meds but now it pails into significance with these feelings and thoughts.......one minute i think im coping the next i aint, im sat in on my own tonight thinking to much and its made it so much worse..any advice or anything from anyone please!
Tryed to think what to do but the forum is my only way of getting help at this moment, this aint me usually i dont howl on but im struggling the steff i used to be seems to be slowly dissapearing.
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Sending lots of hugs Steffie, hope you're feeling better soon and the doctor can offer some more support xx
 
I really wish I could just come and give you a huge hug. I can't add anything to what others have said.

Your a strong lady, and you will get through this. You are in my thoughts. Take care xxx
 
Steffie - sorry that you are feeling so rubbish. If you can't express how you feel to the family try and write it down. (You can always destroy it later - or take it with you to the Drs tomorrow). Writing can sometimes help park your thoughts and stop them going round and round.

Writing things out might help you get to the bottom of what is bothering you.
Is it that you are not getting the results that you want from the Victoza ? (well before you stopped testing) Is it that you think you are running out of treatment regimens. Is it worry over the new job. You need to find the source of your worry before you address it.

Your GP has been nice to you up till now - so I can't imagine them suddenly getting shirty with you - just because your old surgery didn't treat you properly doesn't mean that the current one will.

You need to see your GP. I think that you said a month or so back that you had stopped the anti-deps (sorry if I am wrong). It may be that you stopped too soon. I am sure I was told that you are meant to take them for at least 6 months (maybe it was 3) after normal mental health is resumed - that would be for a first occurrance and for 12 months for a second - and you certainly were not taking them that long.

Put yourself first - go to the Drs and say you want to be you again - and you feel you are getting lost in whatever it is that is making you feel so bad. Your not horrible you are just in a hole at the moment - but you can and will get out.

Have you any relaxation tapes - where you can just listen and imagine you are somewhere tropical.

Sending hugs your way
 
Good idea there above about writing down how you feel. I would write out all the things that are worrying you, making you feel sad, making you angry, making you scared, and then write another list which is tidy!! And GIVE it to the Dr you go and see.

You need someone who can help to talk to, and your Dr CAN help.

And strangely, apparently, walking does help depression, brisk exercise, but as my OH suffers i know that when he is depresed the very last thing he feels like is getting out of his chair. Or even his bed.

I can tell you though that he used to be a manic depressive and has not had an episode for about 5 years now since we started eating a low carb diet. Apparently there is a link between not eating too much carbohydrate, eating a LOT of fresh fruit and veg, and feeling happy... it's worked for us.

I do hope you feel a lot better soon. And that you get support and love you need.
 
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Hi Steph,
I hope your feeling better today.🙂Bev
 
Hi Steffie, what an awful weekend for you :(

As we can all see from the numerous replies, you are highly thought of and there are loads of hugs and smiles bombarding you over the ether.

When I get low I tend to withdraw from everything whilst I attempt to understand all the rubbish that's flying around my head; trouble is, those around us tend to get the sharp end during this process and aren't always able to see why.

1) Try to talk to somebody, even if it appears incoherent to you - you never know, they may help you to make some sense of what's wizzing around your brain at the mo. Although many don't understand / haven't experienced depression, that doesn't mean they don't want to help.
2) Deffo see the doc; take written notes with you, in case you break down and are unable to exlain yourself
3) Don't be frightened of anti-d's - as a lot of people are; they are a treament for chemical imbalances in your brain. They are NOT magical cures, happy pills, mad pills, whatever.
4)Remember that you are not alone, even when your mind tells you that you are.

Big hugs, Chris.

PS. Would it help if the dish man needed to return? A bit of "window shopping" might help take your mind off things for a wee bit😉
 
Stef, I can't add anything much to what others have said to you but I do hope you are feeling a little less stressed today.

Remember, your are NOT a weak person, you are a great help and friend to so many on this Forum. We all go through bad patches to one degree or another and you will come out of the dark tunnel you're in at present. Winter darkness doesn't help but Spring will come and your spirit will lift - please look after yourself - we need you here.

Sending you big hugs. Hold on in there lass - there's a wise saying "this too will pass" and it does, honestly.
 
Ach! Steffie. As others have said, go see your GP. Only he/she can give you the real help you need. We can give you a little emotional support, but that probably isn't going to be enough for you.

Let us know how you get on and keep talking.

(sorry I didn't catch this last night, I wasn't logged on)

Andy
 
steff sorry just caught this hunny sorry you are feeling so low you know you can pm me or email me anytime if you like i will pm you my phone number and we can talk hun just let me know {{{ hugs }}}}
 
Hi Steff,

I do hope that you have managed to go to docs. and that he can help.
Good luck hun, am sending you warmest wishes and much love,

Take care,

lv Shirl x x
 
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