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Denial (again)

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Mrs Mad Ronin

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My partner sat me down last night and told me that i have retreated back to the denial stage. He said he completely understood why i had been comfort eating over the past week, admittedly he has been in control (because he knows if he doesn't then it will get ugly) and not allowed it to become to bad. But he did say that i'm not thinking of the best foods for me, or paying attention. If i had my way he says i would just eat what i want when i want.

I hadn't noticed this, i admit my head has been over the place with everything that's happened and i have been focusing on my mum and supporting her. It also triggered me alot and made me relive my dad's passing last year, so i haven't been with it at all. But i didn't realise i had stopped watching things and now i am finding it hard to stop and get back into a routine. It's like being back at the very beginning again.

I know i will get there, i know we all have blips but my gosh, i never expected it too be this hard :(
 
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Hi Mrs Mad Ronin Difficult times for you So sorry and know exactly where you're coming from It's great you've got a very supportive partner to help keep you on track It's good to off load on here Everyone gives such sensible and positive responses which help knowing you're not alone with the thoughts and emotions Ile look forward to hearing how things go for you Linda x
 
Good to hear he has helped you realise, and that you are now determined to get back on track. Sometimes life can distract us from the right course (fr our diabetes), but I have found that, each time it does, I become a little more aware and get back on the horse a little sooner.

It's natural to lose focus, especially with what you have been through, but I hope you won't feel badly about it, just bank the knowledge and experience it has given you {{{HUGS}}} Oh and a {{{MANHUG}}} for your partner for looking out for you! 🙂
 
Props to Mr Mad Ronin, I think everyone needs a good supportive partner who can give us a proverbial slap / reality check every now and again. :D

Now all you have to realise that male partners / husbands are always right, never wrong and should always be obeyed immediately! This will also reduce your reliance on Google, just ask him as we men know everything anyway. :D

I hope you get back on the wagon soon, everyone falls off it every now and again. If only everything in life was perfect.
 
Thank you both. I admit i have really been harsh with myself since he sat me down. Mentally beating myself up but all that succeeds in doing is making me feel worse. So i am (trying) to stop that. I didn't look it that way Northerner, about each time it does get easier to get back on the horse. That is so very true, knowledge is power as they say 🙂

(((((((hugs)))))) to you both
 
Everyone falls off the wagon from time to time, I know I've messed up several time. There's a difference between knowing what must be done and actually doing it and I know beating yourself up over things doesn't work, it just makes you feel worse (not that it stops me) when there is so many people who seem to have almost perfect control with remarkably little effort it does seem somewhat unfair!

It's also very easy to make excuses as to why things have slipped. You're lucky you seem to have a supportive partner who is looking out for you.

I know you'll get back on track and don't be too down on yourself over it (I know thats a pot kettle black thing but do as I say not as I do! lol!)
t/c xxx
 
Mrs Mad Ronin you are very detemined and there is no doubt you will get back on track ! It is so good that your husband intervened so to speak. Sometimes we don't realise how we are slipping back into old habits until someone helps and tells us. You are under such a lot of stress it is understandable but you will get there with the help of your husband, thinking of you....Tintin
 
Props to Mr Mad Ronin, I think everyone needs a good supportive partner who can give us a proverbial slap / reality check every now and again. :D

Now all you have to realise that male partners / husbands are always right, never wrong and should always be obeyed immediately! This will also reduce your reliance on Google, just ask him as we men know everything anyway. :D

I hope you get back on the wagon soon, everyone falls off it every now and again. If only everything in life was perfect.

Oh well this has certainly made me laugh :D
 
Everyone falls off the wagon from time to time, I know I've messed up several time. There's a difference between knowing what must be done and actually doing it and I know beating yourself up over things doesn't work, it just makes you feel worse (not that it stops me) when there is so many people who seem to have almost perfect control with remarkably little effort it does seem somewhat unfair!

It's also very easy to make excuses as to why things have slipped. You're lucky you seem to have a supportive partner who is looking out for you.

I know you'll get back on track and don't be too down on yourself over it (I know thats a pot kettle black thing but do as I say not as I do! lol!)
t/c xxx

I think sometimes that is what frustrates me, others are so lucky and it comes with little effort. I know i won't be one of those, i don't do things in my life the easiest way. It seems i like a challenge lol

Mrs Mad Ronin you are very detemined and there is no doubt you will get back on track ! It is so good that your husband intervened so to speak. Sometimes we don't realise how we are slipping back into old habits until someone helps and tells us. You are under such a lot of stress it is understandable but you will get there with the help of your husband, thinking of you....Tintin

I am lucky that Nick is supportive. Although we help each other as he has his own health issues which i have to help him with so, we keep each other in check.

I will get there, i will fall off the wagon again many times in my lifetime. I am after all human and we all do it. But each time i do i will pick myself up, dust myself off and carry on as normal. I do this with my other health problems and i handle them as best as i can. Now i am in a routine with it all. The same with happen with the diabetes. Just need to stop beating myself up and remember this is the same as all the others. Something i will get used to. I know i will get there just not overnight.

As always thank you for listening to me moan and thank you for the support and kind words. You all help more than you know 🙂
 
Hey mrs mad, hope you are not feeling too down about taking your eye off the ball. You only have two eyes and it seems like many balls at the minute! Take care x 🙂
 
Good luck getting back on the horse Mrs Mad ! (am sending your better half a virtual pat on the back). People think its easy but 24-7 gets to everyone. Made me smile about the horse 🙂
 
Dear young lady, i so can relate to you. Big hugs and i do believe you will get back on track. I have fallen off the wagon so many times, but a kick up the backside helps me. Xx
 
You have a lot to cope with at the moment, so it is not surprising that you have taken your eye off the ball. What a super partner you have. Grieving is a long process that catches us out at times when we think that we are over it and then suddenly it is all there again. The good thing here is that both you and your partner have decided that it is time for you to get back on track which you will. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are human and need to come to terms with all that has happened to you. I am sending you a hug and hope that you forgive yourself and realise that you are really doing rather well. Good luck and take care 🙂
 
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