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Janine

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I saw a distant relative recently who questioned me at a family meal out "why I wasn't having a pudding" I explained that I have to be careful because I am diabetic. Her reply was "oh which one do you have because type one is dangerous and type two is what fat people get"
Ok I weigh more than I should. I can't stop thinking about it and feel bad.
Sorry I felt like venting my annoyance. :(
 
OMG that is unbelievable and very insensitive, I hope you put them straight, don't let it play on your mind, easier said than done I know but just forget about it, move on and even if you do weigh more than you should so what that's none of their business and it's not your fault your D, chin up and wave them a finger :D haha x
 
Janine said:
I saw a distant relative recently who questioned me at a family meal out "why I wasn't having a pudding" I explained that I have to be careful because I am diabetic. Her reply was "oh which one do you have because type one is dangerous and type two is what fat people get"
Ok I weigh more than I should. I can't stop thinking about it and feel bad.
Sorry I felt like venting my annoyance. :(
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I'd have said, 'it's just as well I know you're stupid or I might be offended!'...and I have said it in another situation!
 
Groan, why are there so many dumb people in this world. Maybe I am being a bit harsh as these things are never taught in school (news to me if they ever are) which they should be along with a large number of other issues. Here's one example, in Norway and I think Sweden pre-high school children are taught how to resucitate a full grown adult!
 
Kaylz said:
OMG that is unbelievable and very insensitive, I hope you put them straight, don't let it play on your mind, easier said than done I know but just forget about it, move on and even if you do weigh more than you should so what that's none of their business and it's not your fault your D, chin up and wave them a finger :D haha x
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Thanks Kayla actually I just sat there mute. Not like me at all but I was shocked. 🙂
 
Every families got one haven't they? Smile sweetly and ignore or, as Kaylz suggests, give them the middle finger lol!
 
Janine said:
Thanks Kayla actually I just sat there mute. Not like me at all but I was shocked. 🙂
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I think if I'd been there too I would have just let my tongue run wild, not even for the fact of me it would have been you I was concerned about, can't stand people that think what they see on the news or read online in gospel, anyway you going on about your weight, I'm sure they have many flaws one of them being rudeness which is by far a bigger problem, stuff that family member and their thoughts 🙂 x
 
Education opportunity I'd say
 
It really goes to show how uneducated some folks are on the subject, But as others have said try to ignore it and move on.
 
Unfortunately public opinion is being fuelled by the media health message that overweight = diabetes and vise versa. I've also been subjected to some comments which imply this, yet although there is a risk of developing diabetes due to weight there are many people who are overweight and who aren't diabetic. I have a very strong family history of diabetes which I think I have inherited so being a little overweight hasn't helped.
 
Wow how rude, insensitive and ignorant, not to mention a staggering lack of self-awareness on their part. Try not to feel bad, Janine, at least you are not him/her, because they should be the one feeling bad.
 
So supposing I have the dangerous sort, not the sort that fat people get - does it morf into the apparently non-dangerous sort if I put on 5 stone? The person's clearly a complete pillock - and I'd simply have to take the hiss out of them constantly.
 
People never understand that there can be overweight type ones and underweight type twos

My dad seems to think type one is low blood sugars and type two is high blood sugars...
 
My mum was Type 1 from when I was quite young, so for a long time I thought that's what being diabetic was - taking insulin and weighing food. I didn't know there was another kind, because I didn't have anybody in the family who had it. I wasn't stupid, just ignorant. I don't think I was a complete pillock. You can't blame people for being ignorant. We all were before we got Diabetes of either flavour. Think on that.
 
From my perspective and experience, if anyone said to me that I had type 2 diabetes because I was fat, I would agree with them.

Yes, there is a genetic aspect to it as well, but a significant proportion of people can control their symptoms by losing the weight.

It is no coincidence that I was very ill when I was 20st. I was so bad that I lost weight due to severe insulin resistance and was eventually diagnosed with type 2 weighing 18.5st

Then, after sorting myself out, I weighed 14st and my HbA1c was in the normal range.

More recently, my weight has gone up to 15.5st and my HbA1c has deteriorated again and I am trying to get my weight down. I am due for another check up next week, so will see how I have progressed.

To sum up. Many people seem to suggest that having type 2 diabetes and expressing the symptoms that we see has nothing to do with one's weight. I must respectfully disagree with that assessment. But, of course, life is quite complicated and there is no one answer to this condition. Yes, some overweight people don't have type 2 diabetes. Yes, some apparently slim people do. But don't just make the statement that "my diabetes has nothing to do with my weight because I know someone who is overweight and they are fine".

I think that does a great disservice to those who can control their symptoms by losing the weight. We need to provide a clear and hopeful message to those people.

Rant over!! :D

Andy
 
Well those of us who know a bit more, don't ever knock it however people manage to control their diabetes.

But us lot on here are a MINORITY.

And that - we all have to accept and just deal with the idiots however we can at the times when we come across them.

If somebody published an article sounding scientific that painting ourselves with woad would do it - the same people would likely be giving us their left over blue Dulux from painting their bathroom !
 
mikeyB said:
My mum was Type 1 from when I was quite young, so for a long time I thought that's what being diabetic was - taking insulin and weighing food. I didn't know there was another kind, because I didn't have anybody in the family who had it. I wasn't stupid, just ignorant. I don't think I was a complete pillock. You can't blame people for being ignorant. We all were before we got Diabetes of either flavour. Think on that.
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If you grow up with one thing that is what you know. That doesn't make you a pillock, just you don't know a couple of things yet. Making dumb ass statements does. If they don't know then they shouldn't make pronouncements. If they do know, then they should know better than to say it.
 
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From my perspective and experience, if anyone said to me that I had type 2 diabetes because I was fat, I would agree with them.
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It's not something to pass comment on though is it. And it wasn't just that. It was the dismissive stupid f*** separation/distinction made between serious and fat. "Oh, your's doesn't matter because you're fat!"
 
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