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Estellaa

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had the most rubbish week.
i ended with my fiance on monday
and now four days later hes with someone else.
im so upset, i cant stop crying.
i was trying to be the better person, i told him to move on and go for it, i just wanted him to be happy.
but then he actually went and did it i wasn't expecting that :(
god what do i do.
 
Sorry to hear this Estella :( If he can move on so quickly then he wasn't good enough for you - I hope you find someone soon who appreciates you more, or that you can enjoy being free and single for a while {{{Hugs}}}
 
So sorry Estellaa. :(

There's nothing anyone can say to make you feel better right now, but please believe me when I say that it does get easier to bear with time. At some point in the distant future you will be able to look back and say 'what on earth was I thinking'!

P.S. I made a very poor choice when I was 19 and it took me 22 years to get out of a bad situation.
 
Estellaa said:
had the most rubbish week.
i ended with my fiance on monday
and now four days later hes with someone else.
im so upset, i cant stop crying.
i was trying to be the better person, i told him to move on and go for it, i just wanted him to be happy.
but then he actually went and did it i wasn't expecting that :(
god what do i do.
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Sorry to hear that, I know I have never spoke to you before, but I am here if you want a random person to chat to 🙂 Keep smiling x
 
thanks everyone
if i didn't have a funny tummy id be eating a big bar of chocolate right now.
 
The end of a relationship can be like a bereavement. You have just had all your hopes and dreams for the future pulled from under your feet and that is bound to be upsetting for you. Cry as much as you need to and find someone you can chat to, and process your feelings.

Be kind to yourself - and give yourself time to come to terms with the loss.
{{{{Estella}}}}
 
Sorry to here the bad news, I split from my fianc? over 24 years ago and still think of her on occasions now. It takes some getting over and no doubt more tears will flow.

Hope at the end of it, you become a stronger lady and find the right person for you.
 
Sorry to hear that Estellaa. Sometimes people "move on" quickly not for positive reasons about the new person, but more because they lack the self-confidence to be single for a while. Hope your weekend is more cheerful.
 
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and a few more ((((((((((((Estellaa )))))))))))))))))
 
if he has done that so quick then he was never worth your time or your tears now hun.

at the end of the day, its better you know now than 5 years into marriage with a baby.

stay strong huni *hug*
 
(((HUGS)))

I too think you've had a lucky escape. My mistake lasted 17 years and ended with a Papal Annulment yet. Looking back, I know I was too young at 19 to fully understand what I was doing - not that anyone could tell me that and live. However, my current partner (14 years) is an absolute gem and was well worth waiting for, so there's always hope.

As for your ex, he definitely didn't deserve you and was clearly not nearly as committed as he should have been if you were thinking of getting married. There's a better man out there for you, just take your time and be sure you find the right one. And in the meantime, have a little fun looking. I realise you don't feel like having fun right now, but once you've had time to grieve, you will.
 
So sorry for what you have been through but I agree with Alison 🙂

You seem like a lovely person and I'm sure he was not Mr right for you, your so young so enjoy it! 🙂

I used to go all over the country meeting girls and I ended up marrying my lovely lady who worked right next door to my company who I never spoke to in the 3 years that she was working there!

She split up like you and my friend sent us on a date, and that was 12 years ago now, we now have a house together 2 wonderful kids and married.

It just shows that anything is possible :D

Take care and enjoy being single x
 
thanks everyone, he made everything worse today. we had spoken last night and i thought we could sort stuff out, told me he was going home after work as he works nights.
i rang him this morning he wasnt answering, i rang her and well guess where he was :(
he hasn't slept with her though, he isn't like that which is a good thing but today i just got to the point of telling him thats it i cant deal with it anymore have her if thats what you want.
 
Sorry to hear about this estelle - I know it's easy for me to say but things WILL get better, they always do. Be kind to yourself and try to focus on making yourself feel better and moving on.
Sending you lots of hugs
Cleo x
 
Estella said:
thanks everyone, he made everything worse today. we had spoken last night and i thought we could sort stuff out, told me he was going home after work as he works nights.
i rang him this morning he wasnt answering, i rang her and well guess where he was :(
he hasn't slept with her though, he isn't like that which is a good thing but today i just got to the point of telling him thats it i cant deal with it anymore have her if thats what you want.
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Estellaa if he is with someone......and he has not slept with her....because he is not like that?....but yet he is with her?.....I think for you...and only you no truly what he is like.

I personally hope you can move on and leave this part of your life as another lesson learned.....you ARE worth more!

I truly hope you do what is best for YOU! x
 
so broke down today, mum had to calm me down.
he told me he didn't love me and didn't want to ever be with me again.
and now i sit here, while he is at her house. thinking the worse things i could possibly do and it is really hurting and i don't know what to do.
i'm trying to arrange things to do to keep me occupied, i have work but still its not gonna replace that :(
i feel so stupid for thinking he was different.
 
(((estellaa))) so sorry you're having a rough time :( It does get better, easy for me to say I know. When I was 22 I was completely heartbroken after my boyfriend finished a 2 year relationship, I really felt I would never smile again. A friend wrote to me that one day I would look back and heave a sigh of relief. It took a while, but in the end I was glad I didn't stick with him. There's definitely someone better out there for you too. Hope you can be kind to yourself and let your friends and family look after you a bit.
 
So sorry estllaa :(

I agree with willsmum...things will get better 🙂

Chin up and hope things get better for you quick! 🙂
 
Big hugs x
 
Be kind to yourself

It probably feels like things can't get any worse at the moment but be good to yourself. He will very likely be missing you soon but just think of yourself and what you want. Life is too short to spend it with people who don't appreciate you. It's tough but trust me you will come out of this stronger.
Love Maryanne
 
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