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Coping when others are eating sweet treats etc

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Grannylorraine

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What coping strategies do you use when others are eating sweet treats. At work I have asked a couple of the team to have serious words with me if I head towards the cake table. But despite asking my hubby to help and support me, last night he had a huge bag of M & M's which he sat and ate in front of me, now he is eating my favourite Ban & Jerry's ice cream. I coped with taking my granddaughter to MacDonalds and making cupcakes with her, but the ice cream is hard.
 
Oh love it is hard I found it hard at Christmas because I have a sweet tooth. If I really want something I will just have a couple of mouthfuls not a whole portion. Then I remind myself why I am cutting sweets and carbs and the thought of the risks usually puts me off bingeing. I say usually but not always x lol x
 
Anthony Stirrat said:
Take his favourite tipple and pour it down the sink, then explain to him that every time he is selfish and eats ice cream in front of you another bottle will go down the drain. He'll soon stop
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Good suggestion, I wish I could do that but he mainly drinks water with the occasional bottle of coke, he never touches alcohol. But I might tell him next time he eats something like that in front of me, I will have to test his blood afterwards, he hates needles and blood.
 
We do the shopping together so if any c**p goes in the trolley I say things like 'I didn't realise I had plans to go out every evening this week?' and when queried reply 'Well obviously, DEAR - you aren't that bloody mean you'd eat it all in front of me, surely?'
 
Grannylorraine said:
Good suggestion, I wish I could do that but he mainly drinks water with the occasional bottle of coke, he never touches alcohol. But I might tell him next time he eats something like that in front of me, I will have to test his blood afterwards, he hates needles and blood.
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There will be something he is attached to that you can hurt, he will learn the hard way
 
It is tough when people do this. It is probably lack of thought rather than deliberate. Have you talked to him about it? The only suggestion that I can make is to go out of the room and do something else while he is consuming the treats. Perhaps you could ask him to be discrete about when and where he has these things? You are doing well not to succumb to temptation 🙂
 
I mean, I find the increased chance of kidney damage, eye damage, and God knows whatever else pretty good motivation! Funny as it sounds, I'm serious. I find it quite easy to say no to things when I think about that. I mean, of course every now and again I'd like something naughty, and as a type 1 as long as I inject my insulin I can but I do tend to avoid it, but I just think is it worth it? In the grand scheme of things, a little cake is nothing!

My girlfriend says she feels guilty if she eats something I should avoid around me - I told her off for it! It's me that has to deal with the changes in my body, there is no reason for her to stop treating herself.
 
Now I'm similar to as Anthaas. Mind you I'm over 20 years into this d lark so have had plenty of time to get used to it, in the beginning I did find it hard watching people stuff their kites with stuff I thought I could no longer have. Somehow though I knew I had to get used to it.
It will get easier ! Get yourself something low carb that you really like and tell hubby it's off limits to him or else.
I have the reverse problem, I do all the shopping online and get some nice treats in for my dad, who at 91 can't eat big meals, but as he hates to waste food I cheat 😱 bought bigger plates :D But he still needs things in that fridge of ours that keeps calling out to him "come on I'm here" though I've told him and told him it's perfectly fine to eat them in front of me. I'm winning though because he's started sneaking the odd thing in whilstwe watch telly and thinks I can't see :D
 
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Grannylorraine said:
What coping strategies do you use when others are eating sweet treats.
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Mind over matter! Try not to obsess on what others are doing, remind yourself how ill you will become if you give in and join them. That might not be true, but it works. I've seen something on TV where people were taught to imagine bars of chocolate as being dog poo, it was amazing how many refused a bar of chocolate at the end of the program.
 
Grannylorraine said:
What coping strategies do you use when others are eating sweet treats. At work I have asked a couple of the team to have serious words with me if I head towards the cake table. But despite asking my hubby to help and support me, last night he had a huge bag of M & M's which he sat and ate in front of me, now he is eating my favourite Ban & Jerry's ice cream. I coped with taking my granddaughter to MacDonalds and making cupcakes with her, but the ice cream is hard.
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It's quite simple really have a small portion it wont harm you then have some exercise is a slightly larger portion consumed. I was told many years ago by a consultant not to deny myself any food I fancied because all it would do is make me want more of it then I would just binge eat.
How about getting some dark chocolate covered peanuts that wont kill your blood sugars. Make some cakes with almond flour/ground almonds that will lower the carbs, thus you do not miss out. There are some lovely ice creams on the market in the free from section made with coconut which are a lot lower in carbs, so perhaps try one of those.
 
I've got used to it now. My OH will sit there and eat a box of malteasers or something else he likes in front of me so I just grab something I know I can have. Or just ignore things. There's cake at work often but I will get something I know I can have. Usually a bowl of berries.
 
I have to say it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Not feeling like c*** is a great motivation.
 
I've got used to it now. Generally, my wife mainly eats what I eat. If she has a snack I can't eat, I just have something I can.
 
Most of the time I seem to get vicarious measure in watching others eat what I am choosing to now not eat. But then I am a little odd!
 
I wouldn't want my husband to feel that he can't eat treats in his own home. I will ask for a small sample if it's something I fancy: a mouthful of anything isn't going to do me any harm!
 
There's always pop corn, pop your own and add your own flavours, you will need to eat a lot to make an impact on your blood sugars. It's just a mind set really as in find an alternative or do you really need or want to eat what others are eating?
How about a nut selection chopped up, then mix in some very dark chocolate add some sweetener if a bit bitter then put in a baking tray to harden in the fridge break or cut into small squares/chunks and that's your go to treat if you need it. Obviously loads of other options that are low carb. Where there's a will there's a way 🙂
 
@Grannylorraine,
Find something that would be a treat for you, but won't harm your BG and have that instead!
Taking the "a littl;e won't do you harm won't work if you you arent a T1 who can bolus for it, if you're a T2 on diet & exercise, like me, avoiding exess carbs is what i must do!
 
My husband was diagnosed two months after I was. So that problem eliminated itself here.
My son, on the other hand, is a different matter. But I'm still the mum (although he is 30+) so when I visit up there, he eats well for gets a lecture. Not about food, mind you, but about compassion.
 
Grannylorraine said:
What coping strategies do you use when others are eating sweet treats. At work I have asked a couple of the team to have serious words with me if I head towards the cake table. But despite asking my hubby to help and support me, last night he had a huge bag of M & M's which he sat and ate in front of me, now he is eating my favourite Ban & Jerry's ice cream. I coped with taking my granddaughter to MacDonalds and making cupcakes with her, but the ice cream is hard.
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An occasional sweet treat isn't too bad, in fact they taste all the better for being rare events. And as @Pumper_Sue has said there are sweet treats that won't push your BG up very much, if at all. My wife makes me individual sugar-free jellies with a few bits of fruit in them - strawberries, a few blueberries or just a few half grapes, and with a bit of double cream they are just lovely.
Our 7 year old granddaughter has got me sussed. If she's eating jelly babies, rather than offer me one she'll break off a tiny piece and give it to me. :D
 
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