Condolences to Hyper Suze

[hyper-Suze]

Thanks it took a lot of doing but at least I did and I am so glad I did. Actually I am quite proud of myself, on the quiet

Oh my goodness 'spiritfree', its such a hard thing to witness after years of seeing our parents be so independant and caring that the roles then have to be reversed.

I lost my Dad last tues and he'd been diagnosed with terminal illness only 4weeks before, no symptoms, no pain even at the end. I haven't been on here since dx and this is the first time I've visited back here and I then read the heartache you have experienced today. I completely understand your feelings, emotions and pain as I was there just over a week ago...please feel free to PM me if you need to vent about the anger, stress, guilt, sadness you may feel.

I was feeling sad today, Dad was so happy I was starting on a pump in March and following my barriers with diabetes, he was so so proud of me and my pump, he'll now never se me with it. My Dad was my cornerstone of my life and I am slowly crumbling away.

I too was with my Dad when he passed, he also didn't look like my Dad, his eyes went almost soul-less even though still breathing but then slowly that was almost non-existent. I have been told that eventually the sad and last images of a loved one, eventually get forgotten leaving only the fun and happy times which we remember.

I haven't had time to grieve, with organising his funeral(thur) and I feel I am on auto-pilot, I am dreading the day I come to a grinding halt as I'm sure that is when the heartache becomes a realisation.

Take care of yourself, rely on others around who offer help(everyone says they'll help...use them!) and keep a close eye on your immediate family for those not coping.

Much love and hugs to you and all your family, I feel your raw pain and loss to the core,
Susie
xxx

 

[margie]

Suzie - I have copied your post to a thread of its own - as I think that people may want to pass on their sympathies to you - and it might get confusing in the other thread. (The original post has remained in spiritfree's thread)

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad - I hope that your happy memories of him will help you.
We are hear when you need to talk / vent etc.

Take good care of yourself - your Dad sounds really proud of you.

 

[Steff]

Suze im so sorry about the passing of your father hun deepest sympathys xxx

 

[Hanmillmum]

I am very sorry to read about the loss of your dear father, thinking of you and your loved ones at this sad time x

 

[Robster65]

Really sorry to hear this Suze.

No matter how strong and capable, it must pull the rug from under you. Survive as long as you need to, then take time for you and your family to go through the emotional turmoil.

Rob

 

[Twitchy]

Suze I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am glad you got to be with him though. My mum died 20 years ago this feb, she'd been ill for a long time & seeing her decline was ghastly, especially as she'd always been so strong & larger than life - but you are right - whilst you can't 'unwrite' what you've been through you can choose to focus on the good times, reinforce positive memories etc. Cliches are trite & silly but do contain grains of truth & time does help, it will be different for everyone & in time you & spiritfree will adapt to this new normal. Along the road, we're here for both of you. Xxxx

 

[sally43]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Take care.

 

[Dizzydi]

Suze sorry to hear your very sad news, please accept my deepest sympathy. I will keep you in my thoughts at this sad time xxx

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

Sorry for your loss hypersuze. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

[cherrypie]

So very sad.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your relatives. xx

 

[Northerner]

Very sorry to hear your sad news Suze

 

[mum2westiesGill]

Susie,

So sorry to hear about the very sad loss of your Dad. My thoughts are with you and your relatives and friends.

I lost my Dad 13 years ago he was 82. My Mum died 19 years ago she was 62.

Things will get much easier for you.

We're all on the forum here for you xx

 

[vince13]

Echoing the thoughts of others on here and hoping you have very happy memories to sustain you at this sad time. Take care of yourself. God bless.

 

[trophywench]

It's hard losing your dad. Sincere condolences to you and yours.

Make sure you make time to be nice to yourself Suze.

{{{Hugs}}}

 

[teapot8910]

So sorry to hear of your loss Hyper Suze, sending lots of love and hugs xxx

 

[hyper-Suze]

Thank you everyone, and hugs back to you (((((ALL)))))
(Thanks Margie for setting up a thread)

It was a sudden deterioration, I guess I am lucky that we managed to have some time with him to say goodbyes yet not see him in pain or discomfort for too long.

Our family were very big cruisers on Cunard, the strange thing is, my Dad booked a cruise for me and my o/h to go on for my b'day in May, it'll be a hard holiday to go on, but I must so I can honour and remember my dad throughout.

Sorry I haven't been on here much the last 6weeks but you're all now aware why, I'll probably be back online more now.

My Dad did a lot of fundraising for DUK, he ran 2 charity shops, which he set up without financial help from DUK as they do not operate charity shops as a whole. As he believed so much in my illness, it only serves right that I must look after myself and keep good control! I'm sure he'll be walking by my side and tell me off if I dont!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks again to all, it is lovely to know so many here care, this is the first time I have experienced losing someone I REALLY loved and cared.
Suze xx

 

[gail2]

[sorry to hear off your loss sending you hugs and love

 

[shirl]

So sorry to hear your sad news Suze, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

take care

Shirl

 

[newbs]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad, I too lost my Dad 3 years ago and know how hard it is to go through. Thinking of you at this sad time.

 

[Sazzaroo]

Hi Susie,

I'd also like to add my condolences to you and your family at this sad time.