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Clinic again Monday

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Tina63

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My son has yet another clinic appointment on Monday - I await this one with interest. They are 4 weekly at present.

Since his last clinic appointment (HbA1c 11.0 at that point down from 12.3 a month earlier) he has not tested ONCE, and on top of that is not following the regime he is meant to be on - 38u Humilin M3 at breakfast, 16u Humilin S after school and 32u Lantus at bedtime. He does seem to have the M3 most days, though when it runs out he seems to 'forget' to get a new cartridge for a couple of days, the same with the Lantus, when a pen runs out he can't be bothered it seems to start a new one for a few days. He last had Lantus Monday evening and hasn't yet replaced that pen. He hasn't used Humilin S in ages (though has had occasional doses of Novorapid) so at best, has 2 injections a day, just very occasionally 3, and quite often just 1. This past 3 days he has only had the M3 at breakfast, nothing else at all. I can't quite work out how he is still standing, let alone functioning. He does have a big worrying spot/boil on his chin this morning - worrying him I mean - and says his lip feels a bit numb. I nearly mentioned testing his BG level and sying it is probably related, but knew if I did he would sound off at me, so resisted the urge.

I have emailed his DSN with all this information at the beginning of this week but have had no response from her, so wonder if she is on holiday.

My husband will be taking my son on Monday, he never lets us into the consultation anyway, so will have to wait to see what he either selectively tells us or what comes in the following letter, but again I can't see him HbA1c improving with the current situation.

Grrrrr! I really don't know when this is going to end. I have completely stepped back as I said I would and our relationship is so much better, but then this is the upshot, he is not complying. It really is so frustrating, but I really don't see what I can do. I am just waiting for the hospital to come up with a magic solution! Oh well, dream on!
 
Oh Tina, what a nightmare! (((((hugs!!!))))) I don't know what to say...it must be immensely frustrating for you seeing him do this to himself, & very frustrating to feel that noone's somehow able to make him take care of himself. Wish I had a magic wand for you... :(
 
Thank you for your kind words Twitchy. I saw my friend in town the other day, has a lad 18 months younger than mine with T1 and in a very similar situation, the only difference being her son was diagnosed aged 3 rather than almost 16. He went to clinic last week and had an HbA1c in the 11s (oh and same team and same DSN) and the doctor said they wanted to admit him there and then, he said No, so they said ok then and let him go home again!

I still wonder if that will happen this time to my son as I really can't see things having improved given his current attitude to it all, but I bet he would say no if told they wanted to keep him. I keep on thinking that may be the only way to shock him into action, but I don't suppose it really will. I just want a solution now.

He did admit to feeling very low in himself this morning, as well as this humungous zit, so maybe I will mention testing this evening if he is still feeling grotty. He said he had been invited out to a party this evening but can't be bothered to go. Maybe it is starting to hit him, running high all the time. Boys eh?
 
I feel so sorry for you - wanting to make him sort himself out, but wanting to let him take responsibility. Must be so difficult knowing what to do for the best! Kids are just a pain in the ass! 😡

Hows about printing off the email you sent to his nurse, and letting his father "sneak" it to the consultant / DSN so at least you know they have seen it! I know its a little backhanded, but perhaps needs must? Just in case something went wrong with the email / his usual DSN isnt there?

I dont know what I'd do in your position - I guess he's too big / old to be told to suck it up and do as he's told! 🙂
 
Hello Tina, been thinking of you today and wondering how your son got on at the clinic. Catherine x
 
Hope your son had a good positive clinic today & progress has been made? Xx
 
Hugs Tina - hope things are getting better today and the meeting with the consultant was postive.

(((((((((hugs)))))))))
 
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