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A Bad few days...

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Graeme

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I've been handling my control quite well since diagnosis at the start of november. I've had a few days where it's just paled into insignificance though.

I went with my wife for our booking scan for our pregnancy. We found out at the scan there was no heartbeat and we had lost our baby. Needless to say this has been heartbreaking and have had a frantic few days and nights in and out of hospital. We had a miscarriage in January, as well, and only just starting to get over that.

We're getting on okay, and our son who's 18 months is keeping us busy as we head into Christmas

Suddenly I've not had time to focus on diet, sugar, BP etc - it's just felt irrelevant. I'm hoping I've not done too much damage to all the good work I've done over the past few weeks.

I think now I have to pick myself up and try and feel like I'm in control again, I have been starting to check my BG and even just now it's sitting at between 7 & 8 which is quite high for me.

Hopefully I can motivate myself again
 
I am sorry to hear about you sad losses. You and your wife must be utterly devastated. When something traumatic happens it can be hard to focus on the day to day management of your diabetes. Don't beat yourself up about it - you are trying to sort things out.

Do you think having someone who can help you (just checking in to see how things are) would help you to focus. Have a word with your GP - they may be able to provide some additional support whilst you come to terms with things - or arrange some counselling for you and your wife.

Your 18 month old could be a great motivator for you. Maybe focus on keeping well for him.
 
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss Graeme :( It is bound to take your attention away from your diabetes for a while, but it sounds as though you still have pretty good control under the circumstances. A few days should not have any detrimental effect on your health.
 
Gutted for you. No words i can come out with will help but having been there 4 times if you do need a chat pm me, my wife would also be there if your partner needs an ear.
 
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Greame I am so so sorry to hear your sad news, my thoughts are with you and your wife xxx masses of love .
 
Such sad news, so sorry for you and your wife...........

Just do the best you can and dont stress yourself out too much over your blood sugar.....
 
So sorry to hear about your losses.
It's understandable that Diabetes has taken the back seat. But you yourself are now saying you're going to try your best again. That's all you can do.
 
Oh Graeme, I really do feel for you. A couple of years ago we suffered a miscarriage too - having seen the heartbeat at 7 weeks, to then find none at 12 weeks - and it was the most awful day of my life. :(

Of course nothing else seems important at the moment, and you won't be focussed on your own health. However, as soon as you can you have to think of your son (and hopefully one or more kids to come) and keep yourself as fit as you can for them.

But you also need to look after your head. Get counselling. If you don't get on with the first counsellor, find a second, and a third. Otherwise, you'll end up like I was a year later on antidepressants too (and don't we take enough pills already?)

If you think it would help, please do PM me. Best of luck.
 
Sorry to hear your sad news, not an easy time I know from personal experience, and like you I took time out from the diabetes, just done the minimum injected my insulin and ate something..

We may be diabetic and in many respects should be managing our diabetes on a daily bases, but we aren't super human and there will be times when we need to deal with our emotions and hurts first... Thankfully these blips don't impact on our long term control...

Take care
 
Thanks for all the kind words. Been feeling much better today, had a good sleep last night & been more in control of what I've eaten. We had a day out with our son today and took him to see Santa (of whom he was petrified!😛 )

Just felt a bit more normal today. Looking forward to Christmas now.

Cheers everybody
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Just caught up with your post. Like others on here I can understand a little of what you and your wife are feeling - the dates still mean something to me after all these years - but I did go on to have a healthy daughter (now 36) although unfortunately she will only have my one wonderful grandchild for the same reasons - runs in our family I think.

But they can do so much more for mums-to-be these days so keep strong for each other and for your little one (they are often scared of Santa first time around by the way !).

Bless you all and try to have a happy Christmas and look forward to a healthier New Year.
 
Sorry for your loss :( and as someone else said dont worry about your bs too much at the moment as stress does effect your bs levels .(((Graeme)))
 
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