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My husband has type 1 diabetes we have been married for 14 years and we have not been able to make love for over 6 months we have tried medication but nothing is working . We tried Viagra the other night but nothing any ideas
 
Hi and welcome to the forum.

Is this something that you and your husband have discussed with your GP? That should be your first port of call for advice.

Diabetes can certainly affect men in this way, so that may be the cause. Do you know how well managed his BG levels are? Does he check his blood regularly? Do you know what his last HbA1c result was? Does he exercise regularly?

Good management of his diabetes via diet, exercise and medication would be a good place to start. Exercise doesn't have to be overly energetic... a brisk half hour walk each day can be enough.

As a female diabetic I don't have any personal experience of this problem but hopefully there will be some male members of the forum who can offer some suggestions.
 
PortlandCourt8 said:
My husband has type 1 diabetes we have been married for 14 years and we have not been able to make love for over 6 months we have tried medication but nothing is working . We tried Viagra the other night but nothing any ideas
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rebrascora said:
Hi and welcome to the forum.

Is this something that you and your husband have discussed with your GP? That should be your first port of call for advice.

Diabetes can certainly affect men in this way, so that may be the cause. Do you know how well managed his BG levels are? Does he check his blood regularly? Do you know what his last HbA1c result was? Does he exercise regularly?

Good management of his diabetes via diet, exercise and medication would be a good place to start. Exercise doesn't have to be overly energetic... a brisk half hour walk each day can be enough.

As a female diabetic I don't have any personal experience of this problem but hopefully there will be some male members of the forum who can offer some suggestions.
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I found out over time that my bg played a massive part of being able to get and maintain an erection, anything higher than 10 mmol would be a no no. Also viagra did help but needed double the dose.
 
He hasn’t had trouble for our whole marriage before the love making was amazing but he has been told to stay off work because of the corona virus
 
If he is off work, could it be stress related? This can also affect this situation.
 
Some say Cialis is better than Viagra (Sildenafil)? How about trying a soft latex ring?
 
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Some say Cialis is better than Viagra (Sildenafil)? How about trying a soft latex ring?
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Sorry i should of stated that is what i get prescribed by the docs...they do only give you 8, 50mg tabs every 6 weeks though.
 
Cialis is better in some ways. I believe that it has a longer lasting effect than viagra so one can be more spontaneous.

But if someone is stressed, it won't make any difference. You still have to 'be in the mood'.
 
Sorry to hear you are going through this @PortlandCourt8, it must be very distressing for you both.

As has been suggested there are physical (pump/ring) as well as pharmaceutical options available.

It sounds like you were encountering difficulties before the pandemic started, but uncertainty, anxiety and stress over the virus probably aren’t helping :(

Hope you find a way that works for you.
 
I haven't said anything yet, but am married to a chap who has ED but caused due to having his prostate cancer removed so we were told at the same time they presented us with the MRI scan results that because of exactly where it was, it would be 99.9% unlikely they'd be able to save the nerve, despite the surgery being robotic. Anyway - they couldn't save it and so began our quest for some sort of resolution.

It's essential that sexual partners of those with ED, help. They absolutely need to give physical encouragement - manually and/or orally - cos this has to be a true joint endeavour for it to succeed!
 
So do you think because my husbands neves are damaged through diabetes we won’t be able to have sufficient intercourse
 
What nerve tests has he actually had? Has he even been referred to a Neurologist? - cos I dunno whether he'd have access to an ED adviser at the hospital after neurology or what or if the jabs Pete is allowed to have are available or recommended to people with diabetic probs. presumably though, he's already made the dietary and exercise changes necessary, to get his BG down to a beneficial level - ie too low to cause any further diabetes complication damage, so, has he?
 
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